how to save you ,my brother?
By Tinna_He
@Tinna_He (300)
China
February 3, 2009 12:15am CST
my brother is nineteen years old.Four monthes later,He will take the exam for university.It is easy for him to enter the university.But now i found that he was paying more attention to play the games.when he was at home,he won't leave the computer except eating and sleeping.Now he has the mind that he must get the great achievement to enter university.
Then,what will happen to him in university if he enthralled the game.At that time,nobody will bound him.he is freedom.he has no limited to playing games.i can't imagine.my husband told me that i should have a talk with my brother after examination.how can i communicate with him?
2 responses
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
how old is your brother? why does he has no limitations on playing? does he lives alone? if that is my brother i will sure keep the keyboard of the pc so he can no longer play with the computer. or i will keep the controls of the ps2 if that is what he is playing. life is hard and if you will not focus on what benifit you can have when you pass university he will be the one to suffer. do something for him to realize. if he is really inteligent he wil understand what you mean to say
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
3 Feb 09
my brother is 19 years old.he is a high school student.once a month he will come back home from school.he will play the games all the time when he stayed at home.Now my parents will limit him.But when he come to university,my parents will be far from him.so i am afraid he will play games without limitations.If he did like that,it will affect his study.so i must talk with him about this question.but i don't know how to say?
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
now i know the situation fully. he is an adult and i know he knows what is right and what is wrong. talk to him and say this as a start..... study if you work hard it will blossom in a good career in the future. tell your brother that there is one thing that is boothering you and that is his love with video games. tell him sweetly that you hope you can give more time on his studies than having more time in video games. tell him how concern you really are when it comes to his how he sets his priority. tell him also how impress you are and how the family is proud of what his grades are and tell him you hope you will continue doing what is right and what is best for him. remind him how great person he is and how happy you are with him. wait i think you need to start on how good a person he is, and how proud you are with him..... then tell him what bothers you. i hope you can plan what you have to say before you talk to him. and i hope he understands how concern you are. goodluck
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Age 19 is young. You do not mention that your brother is neglecting any particular assignment. He is just waiting. If you can find something else to occupy his time, maybe he will give up the computer. Your husband is right. Talk to your brother. Find out what is on his mind. Let him know that you are worried about how much time he spendson the computer with the games. Find out if there is anything else he may be able to do so replace the game activity. He may be doing it because he is bored. Games and computers can be very addictive.
By all means, do not wait to have your talk. The longer you wait, the more upset you make yourself. If there is a problem, you can nip it in the bud early. Good luck.
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
3 Feb 09
thank you ,my dear.when i was young,my parents always forced me to do something,just like reading and writing.that time i didn't know why did they do like that.the more they forced me,the more i resisted.now i am regret.i realized my parents were good for me no matter what they did.so i didn't force him doing anything.i didn't hope that my brother have the same thinking. but now i have to talk with him about this question.he can't play games,or he will regret.
