Gay adoption

Sweden
February 3, 2009 4:57am CST
Do you think that gay people should be able to adopt a child. Many people say no becouse of the fact that the kid is going to get bullied in school but i believe that it's better for an orphean to be bullied than stuck in the system without any parents. Or what i f a gay couple decide to adopt a kid from lets say darfur, i don't think that the kid is going to complain about having two daddys/mommys instead of living in the middle of a genecide. What do you think?
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
3 Feb 09
Hi sluggo, I have no problem with gay adoption, in fact in most cases they make excellent parents and the children grow up to be loving, compassionate and very tolerant adults. I live in Canada where gay marriage has been legal for a long time and many gay couples do adopt. I haven't heard that the children have a lot of problems at school, certainly no more than those who come from homes where families can't afford the latest styles or brand name clothing. Blessings.
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• United States
3 Feb 09
In essence it isn't the children doing the bullying it is the close minded parents that are pushing their beliefs on the children. It is okay for someone to have the belief that this is not right but it is not okay for one to preach to our impressional children that this is so wrong. If we as adults would just let the children make up their own minds, I am sure it would just pass by like any other day. It is mostly the parents that have kept racism alive for so long. This is just another battle for another group to fight. I have one saying in life that I live by. I AM WHO I AM AND YOU CAN NOT ACCEPT ME FOR THAT THEN KEEP ON WALKING BY.
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• Sweden
3 Feb 09
sounds like a good saying to me... i hope that a lot more people could see it that way... i know i do
• Sweden
3 Feb 09
Thanks for the input... i don't really know if kids with gay parents get bullied in school or not but it seems like thats the argument that nay sayers always use in discussions like these. I live in sweden and if i'm not mistaken i think that gay marriage is legal but sadly there aren't many ministers that want to wed them.
@ParaTed2k (22940)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
3 Feb 09
My opinion is that only married couples should be able to adopt children. There is no real substitute for a loving father and mother raising kids. But that is the best case scenario, and we all know we don't live in best case scenario world. While I don't like the idea of kids being adopted by gay or single parents, I am against laws banning it. As you said, it's better for kids to get bullied than stuck in a system without any parent at all. If we can't provide the best case scenario for the children, we shouldn't prevent them from being adopted by loving people who are willing to open their home to them.
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• Sweden
3 Feb 09
exactly... one family is better than no family at all and i don't think that the child that they adopt would mind he would probably be thankful no matter if his adoptive parents are straight or gay.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
3 Feb 09
It would be a wonderful act, to take a homeless child and give it a good home. I can't think of a better way to help. There is no reason why a Gay couple, or even a single Gay person should not be able to adopt. Homosexuals are doing wonderful things in many places. We should be thankful for their existance.
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• Sweden
3 Feb 09
Exactly... I don't really see what harm it could do. It's not like gay people are evil and as for the thing about the kids being bullied is just stupid since that people should have gotten used to gay people these days and know that it's not that wierd. And i also don't see how it could harm anyone especially not me and the same thing goes for gay marriage.
@mammamuh (582)
• Sweden
3 Feb 09
I say yes to gay adoption. If it's okay for a singel mom / dad to adopt a child - why can't it be okay for tho moms / dads to do so. For the childs sake it must be way better to have two parents than one - the fact that there is a risk of the single parent dying is way higher that two parents dying. I don't believe that the bullying will be harder - if so it's the parents of the peers that do wrong!
• Sweden
3 Feb 09
I never really thought of it that way with the one versus two parents but now that you say it it's true. It's better in a lot of ways, one of them is what you say that the risk of both parents dying is lower than the risk of a single parent dying but it's also better since with two parents the family will most likely have two incomes and be able to provide better for the kid.
@moneymaya (901)
• India
3 Feb 09
its really a good question and its really required a greate discussion . I think american can give better anwer of this questions since gay is allowed there also and in england too its allowed , but as for as my view is concern I would say that I need time to think about this he he LOL , since i am not a gay so I never think about this but its really typical to a kid having two daddys or two mommies yeah two mommies can be there since this is a man oriented society so in our olden days man can have two or three wives so child can think about this but two dad mmmm... what to say I don't know
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• United States
3 Feb 09
I think that if they can qualify on all the other criteria for adoption then it shouldn't matter if they are a gay or straight couple, single parent male or female, same or different race than the child. Children are better off being raised by people who want them, can care for them and love them than they are in any foster or orphan system.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
Well, there's nothing wrong for me if a gay people will adopt a kid.. For me its the best thing they could do to help those children in the orphanage.. Gay people can still become a good parents. Nobody is forfeited of not becoming a good parent unless you choose to become a bad parent.. However, there is a possibility that a child will somehow feel bad as when they go to school.. Their classmates or schoolmate will teased them if they found out that their parents were gay.. But if a child is strong enough to faced the fact that their parents were gay and if they love their gay parents then everything will be fine.. They can understand and be proud of what kind of parents that they have.. Its a matter of love and acceptance..
@AbbeyB (670)
• Spain
4 Feb 09
I dont think it maters what your sexuality is it all comes down to how good a parent you are! yo can have a mum and a dad and have a lousy upbringing.