Don't yell at the child when it's your fault

Absolutely agree! I remember when my son was tiny round about two years old. Welived in a house withn an upstairs and downstairs and the bathroom was upstairs. One day Iwent up to the bathroom and he was playing with his toys happily. When I cam down after about ten miutes he was trampling on my record albums (33 vinyls for those too young to know). He had removed about ten from their covers and they were all over the floor like stepping stones! I didn't scream at him - I stifled it as long as I could just staring. It wasn't his fault to know they weren't for that use. It was mine for not keeping them up higher where he couldn't reach I am well aware that it is too easy to blame our kids for things they are not responsable for. I have already warned my son in advance that his low-level television will make a perfect race-track for my granchildren's toy cars if it is still there where it is now

H[i]i dawn, I agree with you...LOL! But, I know there are times parents will just make some excuse and put the blame in the kids which is totally unfair! [/i]

your right - duh - you don't want the child to see something - shut the door! Heck, I shut the door if I want to keep the CATS out. why? well, Rygel will attack me thru the shower curtain and that does NOT feel good!

I would think the first exclamation may have been said in shock. Sometimes I yell at my kids if I'm startled. But the second statement?..........Were they joking maybe?

Totally agree I always leave the door open but if I want to have privacy then the door gets shut.

Yes. The door should of been locked if they where changing. I would kill my hubby if he done this on my daughters. It's maybe not so bad for me. But I still close the door over. Some people are stupid though and do not think, but maybe accidents happen, but they should not blame the poor child.

I agree and your smart, but many parents don't apply logic and just yell because they have power and can. You're one smart mom.

Sounds about right to me. We don't have kids but when my niece and nephew stay over we always make sure to close and lock the bathroom door b/c we don't want anyone walking in...heck, I sleep in my nightshirt and shorts just in case they need me in the middle of the night. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

But surely children are there to be shouted at. That's their job! If you don't shout at them then they will probably grow up to be deeply psychologically disturbed and eat too much chocolate and visit shrinks and stuff. Those poor poor children. Growing up not to know the fearsome sound of an annoyed parent.

Definitely logical! You're right! A parent should know when to accept their own mistakes. I noticed that parents are sometimes to proud to admit that. Even if it's obvious that it was their own mistake. I also read in the Dr. Phil's website, we should avoid yelling at the kids whether they did something or not because there is also a tendency for a child to yell back at their parents. Sometimes it's easier for the kid to remember the parent's yell rather than what they were trying to say.

You gave a very logical reasoning for this. Parents should not be afraid to say sorry if it was their mistakes done over a child. It is not because they are parents they shouldn't respect the child.They should be good role models to their children by doing this they should do what is right so that children will lean from it. I just hope all parents are looking things on your perspective. thanks for bringing this up.

Absolutely. The parent should have closed the door if he/she wanted privacy. My husband used to bathe our sons every evening until they reached about 6 or so. At that age they started to demand privacy. He would always check them for ticks if they had been in the cow pasture or bush. I always bathed our daughter and when she was young we sometimes bathed together. Every house has its own rules I guess. Yep- father was wrong