Help my daughter is leaving me up date.

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First of all thanks so much to everyone for all your responses to my first discussion. I thought you all might like an up date on how things are going with my daughter. She came home after being at her boyfriends for a week. She did tell me she was only joking and intended to stay at home a while longer. Some joke hay? I must tell you how releaved i felt at this news. I told her how happy i was that she wasn't leaving just yet. Her boyfriend stayed the night and then went back home. Her attitude was very different as soon as she was out of bed the day he left. I knew straight away that she was not happy. She was snappy, and mopping around all day. She confided in me that she was already missing him like crazy and didn't know how she was going to handle being away from him. Well, i can tell you my alarm bells started to ring again. She was in such a mood she deliberately started an arguement with my partner. I didn't know which wasy to turn. I found myself in the middle not knowing whoose side i should be on. I can tell you, i was very upset. The next morning when she finally came out of her room, she was in tears. She was very affection towards me. This was something that isn't normal. She was hugging me, and said i can't do this mum it's just so hard. She told me she really wanted to be with him. All i could do was hug her back and cry, because i knew what she was wanting from me. my approval to leave. So, i said what i thought she wanted to hear and that was " you have to do what is right for you, i love you and always will, and i don't want you to leave, but you are growing up now and you probably won't stay with me forever". From her reaction i knew this is what she wanted to hear. After sometime she came out of her room again and announced that her boyfriend was coming to get her that day. It seemed she couldn't wait to leave. She spent the afternoon catching up on her washing and packing her things. That evening her boyfriend show up and she loaded all her things in his car and was gone. I di manage to have a qquick chat with him before leaving. I asked him to take good care of her and to find a place to live together where i could come and visit. I also asked if he could bring her for regular visits. He promised to do so. I can tell you inside part of me was dieing. The next morning while on the internet my partner discovered from her msn that she had already decided she was leaving long before she came to me crying. I can tell you i was full of mixed emotions. She has been gone now for about four days. I do miss her like crazy. I have spoken to her a number of times and she seems really happy. To top it all off my uncle died two days ago, so i am having a very rough time. My oldest son and his partner are having problems and i feel my grandchildren are in danger of being hurt by his partner. She isn't coping well with them. Has been getting rough with their two year old. My life is a mess. I feel like i am falling apart and have no control over anything. How am i going to get through all of this? Trying to be strong for my mum as it was her brother who died. Life is really tough. Thank god for mylot. It allows me to write my feelings down and get things of my chest. I live for all your comments. Reading all your experiences gives me strengh and shows me also how many people out their care. Thanks for being their mylotters.