Im addicted...

United States
February 3, 2009 4:45pm CST
I've been with this guy for a few months now and there was an ex of mine that I was with for 3 years. I can't help but think to myself that Im addicted to my ex. I don't want to be, but I can't seem to get him or the things we use to do out of my head. I love the guy Im with right now, he's completely amazing. He has some things that he could work on, but I that's one reason I love him so much. If you don't have imperfections, to me you're not perfect. Anyways, there are other things in my life that I've overcome that I was addicted to so I know Im strong enough to stop loving my ex the way I do. But is it far to my boyfriend I have now? Am I being good to him by being with him, even if I still have feelings for my ex? Okay...so, in life there are a lot of things that people get addicted to, not just in relationships, but different things... Sometimes it's not for the best, sometimes it is. Has there ever been anything that you've been addicted to? Can you help me out with my problem?
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shamzy18
@shamzy18 (2316)
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3 Feb 09
Well the way i see it is, you should never go out with a person who has just come out of a long term relationship because in most cases the next person they go out with is someone who they use to try and get over their ex. So what im trying to say is it's quite understandable you still in love with your ex.. You have to get over him somehow being with another person is not solving that right now.. maybe the guy your with right now.. but then again you have only been with him for a few months. Or maybe he is not the person that will make you forget your ex. And yeah in one way it isnt fair to your boyfriend.. but if he knew that you come out of a long term i guess he could understand.. i dont think you should tell him or anything.. You just need to get over your ex somehow.. give it time.. just go with the flow with your new boyfriend.
angusthethird
@angusthethird (515)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Cut the new guy loose. I believe that, although it will be very hurtful now...he needs time to heal from the heartache you've sent his way. It is NEVER okay to use someone to get over someone else. If my wife one day decided that she had had enough of me, and wanted to be with someone else, I would be sad, and chances are I would be lonely at some point in time. But I hope I would be strong enough to not pursue anything serious with anyone else unless I was totally sure I was over my ex. This relationship with your new boyfriend is doomed. Tell him he should forget about you and move on with his life and find someone who can love him the way he deserves to be loved.