Do you think that love is more important than security? Why?

I don't agree with you at all, especially when you say "love is the answer to all problems". What about financial difficulties? What about the economy? I think it's cute, and I wish I could share your blind optimism, but it's just not realistic! I would definitely take security, especially during these times. I would rather first find a comfortable way to live (without having to worry about bills, and with having a good support system) and then LATER find love, instead of finding love and putting your security at risk. But this is totally just my opinion.

It is really important that you get love over security, though it is very debatable topic. Both can be the driver to the other one but still for some the driver is defined. I would choose love over security as it can be really difficult to survive without love. Security can be there and can not be there so lets not be dependent over security so much.

while love couldn't solve everything and won't definitely bring about order to everything, it could make situations a lot easier to bear. the knowledge that you are with someone you love and who loves you in return brings a certain amount of emotional security that makes you feel superhuman enough to beat the odds.

Well, I don't believe that love is the answer of all problems because for me love is the first reason why people have a lot of problems.. That's why I observe most of the people in this world.. Yes, when you're in love you're happy but not all the time since sometimes being too in love can make a person blind.. For me, before I engaged my self in marriage life I'll make sure that everything is perfect.. We make sure first that we are both secure and ready to another chapter of life.. I believe that no matter how you love with each other, fights can always end up the relationship and love especially if money is the cause of problem.. Yes, when you fall in love it doesn't choose or select a person you must love, it will just exist unexpected.. But still it is better to secure first your future than engaging yourself to commit on something that won't be sure that it will last forever.. We never know what happen tomorrow.. There would be a lot of possibilities as each day will come and it is good to be ready all the time.. I know that we can just earn money if we strive hard but it doesn't always that easy.. So for me, security is more important than love.. why?? Its because security and love doesn't always last forever...

I've been in love a few times. And, except for my first husband who turned out to be a tyrant, it's never been with any man who has been able to support me. As you grow older, if you are with the right person, romantic love turns into affection and companionship. Security also becomes more important. I think we all need the right balance of these two in our lives.

i feel we should feel secure when with someone you love but the world it soo not perfect i cant live in a situation that is too unstable or secure id go crazy but being loved makes me feel more secure thats hard ummm well love i would chose love because you could be secure but hated and you feel bad but love make you feel beter

No doubt - it must be LOVE! You can trade off with every other affair of life. But you can't do so with love. This is precious feelings, which empowers you to cross every other barrier, however mammoth they might be.

If given a chance that I can choose both then I'd prefer them all. But honestly, choosing one is a difficult choice. Ideally I want love, and so I married because of love. But now, I've realize that love is not enough. There are so many things that a marriage needed. Maturity is one of them. Once a person is matured already and has dreams and plans he has ambitions for your family. And he will worked hard for your family no matter what, from financially, the bonding.

It is a tricky question. Either way I choose it, the situation would not be 'perfect'. Financial security is equally important as 'love'. Love without financial security will not bloom to a great extent, in the same manner financial security or money cannot buy everything, if there is lot of money and no love between the partners, life will be useless and boring.

Love is a feeling that comes from the heart and not from the intellect or brain. Love is said to be blind because you do not know when it will hit you and it is quite possible that you may fall in love with the wrong type of person, like a criminal. In an arranged marriage, where a boy or a girl is selected by the respective parents security is given the foremost priority along with the character of the bride or groom. One may not know ones life partner very well in the beginning but as the couple settles down to a married life they could and usually do fall in love with each other and then live a happy life.You have said that love allows you to select that person.when one falls in love one becomes blind to that persons faults and everything looks rosy. However when the couple get married the ugly and unknown side of the person which has been hidden from either sides view starts to surface and the marriage starts to unravel, takes aturn for the worse and ultimately ends in a divorce causing bitterness to both sides. What you call as " love" is not exactly love but infatuation in which only the externals like beauty and handsome ness are first noticed whereas the real"person" is hidden from view.However sometimes both things work out together and the marriage becomes successful. If you have noticed, in the Western countries most marriages which are love marriages end in divorce, sometimes very early on or quite often even after many years. When two people fall in love security and other things are thrown out of the window but their importance surfaces later on. As for me, the ideal scenario would be to have both, love as well as security.

i think security is more important than love beacuse the economical condition of the wworld is not so good. we have to worry aboout our biils and other payment all the time. the financial crysis are making people to creat chaous. and other criminal tasks. so if i get the security at first i would then go for love.is it the right way of thinking ?

I would take love as well. When you truly love a person you're willing to do sacrifices for her. Since you love somebody you don't want to see her/him sufferring, so you'll do everything to equipped her or to give her as much as possible evrything she needs. Or everything that would lighten her burdens or everything that would make her happy in short you'll strive hard to give her security. Love can be a key to security and let love be the challenge to have security. So, as long as there's love, there's always a room for security.

well as you said security could be achieved that is right as i too would give first preference to love

hummm, we have different point of view regarding this matter. for me we choose the person we love. love starts with infatuation and infatuation is being interested to the person because of the qualities he/she possess that you like or looking for. security is important. it's not the issue of being materialistic but being practical. of course in order for a happy relationship you have to provide each other's needs. its hypocrite to say that we dont need money. love is enough. for me its not that. how about u? would you stay to the man you love even if you see how he waste his time inside the house, watch tv all the time, eat on time, and sleep whenver he feels. for me, i will think if he deserves to be my man. love is not blind. love doesn't make you blind. its just a matter of choice. happy mylotting. nice topic anyway.

No doubt - it must be LOVE! You can trade off with every other affair of life. But you can't do so with love. This is a precious feeling, which empowers you to cross every other barrier, however mammoth they may be.

I believe in love. And I believe that love can conquer all..including security and I get from your discussion that you mean financial security...At my age it's a bit different. I really don't want someone who is not working...because that says alot about their charater!