mylotting even harder to cope with sorrow....how do you deal with it?

Hi Mou Really sorry to hear about ur Uncle and trust me no word, no friend, no book, no mylot can help u out this time when u r facing Loss of some dear one. and the person more involved is hit more hard and trust me only Time can help. Nothing else can do it. Time is Best Healer and sure Allah is one to give peace to ur heart and mind Take care

Hi mimpi dear! I am really sorry to know of your loss. i am sad knowing that you are sad. I share your pain and I know that it might not be much to lighten the grief you have right now, but please know my friend that i will be holding your hand in my heart as I will pray for your uncle and you and your family in this time of grief. Know that so many loves you and I am one of them even if I am very far away and have never really me face to face..but my heart will always be there to share every joy and pain. Take care my dear friend. lovelots..faith

I'm very sorry to hear about this Mimpi.My condolonces and may his soul rest in peace. Loosing a loved one and coping with the grief and sorrow is certainly not easy. One can't help but remember the ways the and the days that the person has influenced and touched our lives. The only way i've found to deal with sorrow and grief is let go the emotions and that happens only over a period of time. I've tried keeping myself busy and and in the company of friends and so on. It takes time and we have to get on with the fond rememberances of the person.

Sorry to hear about your loss. My condolences to you and your family. Nothing helps to cope with our sorrows. Just keep yourself busy and think of all the good moments you have spent with your uncle. These are the memories that will last a lifetime. Nothing but time can help.

Oh mimpi, Im sorry to hear that. Im extending my condolences to you and your family. I do agree that time heals all wounds. Sure there will be scars but they will serve as a reminder of the great things that we've had. Im sure your Uncle will be truly missed. Me, I just try to forget and keep myself busy so I wont think about it. I know myLotting helps with the sorrow a bit. Ive been there. But on the whole time is the ultimate salve to any pain/sorrow. You take care mimpi.

mimpi, I am sorry to hear about your uncle. I will be thinking of you in your time of grief. There is nothing that helps that kind of pain, but time. As human beings, we are selfish. We want to hang on to the ones we love forever. When we grieve, it is for ourselves, not the person who is gone. And, a mourning period is just something we must allow ourselves. Then we remember the good things that that person brought into our lives, hold them close and dear, and we move on with our lives. Again, I am sorry for your loss, and I will be thinking of you and your family.

Staying with your family or lover maybe works.But,undoubtedly,time is the best way.

I'm so sorry,mimipi.I hope you're better noe.Time can ease put the pain but love does better.And when i'm sad for the really sad things I let myself go on like that for that is the natural feelings of humanbeing.

Man is blessed with a gift....the gift of forgetting .Time will make us forget.The pain will ease.My father left me a year ago and I thought life will never be the same.I have got over it.I remember the good time I have spent with him.Nostalgic memories remain now.

maybe your uncle means a lot to you my dear. i know how hard it is to loose someone whos a part of your life. i lost my husband at the age of 25 i didn't blame God for that but i accept it as what faith should be. i know he have a good reason for everything he doesnt reveal it all at once but one at a time. i have 2 kids and im thankful that my in laws supported me during those times. its a hard part to accept the fact that he's gone. after 6years of being a widow still i always call him in the middle of nothing if ever my mind is empty i always accidentally call his name. i know he is happy now wherever he is and he's there above praying for the one he left. just go on with your life we'll never know when is our time so do the things you know that will be remembered by people when your time comes. always share happiness with some one and enjoy life cause we only live ones.

So sorry for your loss Mimpi

I am so very sorry to hear of your lose! I am a firm believer that no lose is an easy lose nor is there a right or wrong way to deal with it. Everyone is different and have different ways of coping. You are right that time will ease the pain but unfortunately the void with always be there. You just have to remember the good times and cherish all the memories you have...no one or nothing can take those away from you. I have lost both of my father 5 years ago when I was 34 and lost my mother last year so I do understand lose...some would say too well. I can honestly say there was no one thing that helped me through. I come from a very small family and have only 1 sister so I would have to say friends and family are your best support system. Don't ever feel bad about talking to them about it...no matter how long ago or how recent the lose. It is very hard to keep your head up in sad times. I will not try to soften the blow because there really is no real way to do that. I can say that keeping them in your conversations is a great way to help heal. But all in all the time is the only real healing. Time will help you deal with the lose but it will not heal you. That void will always be there but I found that if I keep them in my thoughts that helps deal with the void. For example...my sister and I were together last week for the Superbowl and my mother was funny when it came to football...she picked the team she wanted to win by who had the prettier uniform...LOL! So we just couldn't pass up that time to bring her into the present with us. It is incredibly healing to do that and just tell stories of the "remember when". Again...so sorry for your lose. Don't know if my advise will help but I sure hope your healing process is also a building block on how to keep them in your life.

i m very sorry to hear abt this mimpi...from ur previous messages i come to know that ur uncle is such a nice person and must have influenced ur life a lot.In my case i dont tend to forget that person so soon and keep myself occupied..how can we??? Instead i would suggest you to do something that ur uncle liked doing the most..sure u will get a sense of relief and u will get to see him in each and every thing u do.. In this way making him alive again..so son worry as u say Time will help u to heal the pain.. take care...

Sorry to hear about your uncle. I just lost my grandfather, who was really dear to me two weeks ago. Time sure helps, but I also think it is important to rely on your belief system. I believe that I will see my grandfather again. Have faith in faith. "Nothing worthy proving can be proven, nor yet disproven, therefore, though be wise, cleave ever to the sunnier side of doubt." :) -Tennyson

I am so sorry Mimpi.I think that you have mentioned about his illness in another discussion some time back.It is very sad and I pray to the God Almighty to give you the strength to manage through this situation.

Oh my poor dear friend Mimpi, so sorry to hear of your loss. I'm pretty hopeless at coping with grief or helping others through it as I become a bit of a blubbering mess myself just at the thought of others being so sad. I can't even offer words of solace apart from that the passing of time DOES help and makes things more bearable. Keeping yourself busy is one way of coping with it but how long can you keep busy? You have to allow yourself the time to grieve so you can come to terms with your loss. Just keep reminding yourself that he's in a better place now and is no longer suffering and remember fondly all the good things about him and what he meant to you and others. My thoughts are with you sweetie. x

I am sorry to hear that..... When I am sad, I would cry out hard. This is my way to get rid of the sorrow. All the tears that seems to be the sorrow things will go away from me. Hope you would get better soon. Your uncle would live in your heart forever.

My condolences to you family.. Its really hard and painful to lost member of your family,,but then just try to think that he will be better there no more worries no more problem..his in peace alredy.. Just try accept it and pray for him..

Venting, no matter to whom, is a great way of releasing sorrow and being able to mourn the loss of a loved one. I don't want to get all mushy, but I have found, that even in the hardest times, God is listening, so speak up. No matter what time of day or what the weather is like, close your eyes and speak to him. He has a plan for you. That plan may include some pain, but the happiness in the end will overpower everything else. I wish you the best; losing a loved one is very tradgic and I have been in your shoes a few times. But keep your chin up and remember the good times.

I'm so sorry for the sorrow you feel. I know the depth of despair, I had a baby daughter die. Well, it was 12 years ago, still I remember it well. What brought my soul healing was the belief that we'll meet again in Heaven and prayer. There is Someone who understands and cares. Turning to Him really helps.