Dating Safely
By Tinkerbell7
@Tinkerbell7 (160)
United States
February 4, 2009 11:58am CST
Recently friends of mine have been making poor choices about dating and how/where/when they choose to meet these men. I am trying to compile a list of dating tips/guidelines to be as safe as possible. This for anyone going on a date not just meeting online.
I have the basics:
Meet in a crowded place.
Don't get in their car.
Let someone know where you are going and what time you expect to get back. Call them when you leave.
What are some others that you can think of? What would you tell your sister/daughter/friend?
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6 responses
@Raven7317 (691)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Hi Tinkerbell, how about these:
Don't ever leave your drink unattended, and never accept a drink that you actually didn't see the bartender place on the counter.
Have a bouncer/security person watch you as you go to your car. Most gentlemen will want to walk you to your car, but that's potentially dangerous as he could force you into your own car.
Try not to go directly home, to avoid being followed.
Distort some personal details to avoid giving too much information or the impression that you are vunerable. It's okay to discuss work in general, but don't say what company you work for. "The company I work for is in the North End." Discuss hobbies, but don't say which gym you go to. "I don't belong to any one gym, I just go to whatever is convenient. Say you own a dog. "I just love having a pet, but most people misunderstand my Rottweiler."
Lastly: Trust your instincts! If you get a bad vibe, pretend you need to use the ladies room and get out of there!
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@Tinkerbell7 (160)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Raven those are great! I always make sure I take a funky way home to prevent anyone following me.
@phoenix25 (1541)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I would also tell them not to go back to his house or to take him back to her house until they had at least been on several dates. I also wouldn't go to any parties thrown by friends of his, as you never know what you'll be walking into. You just never know anymore.
@Tinkerbell7 (160)
• United States
4 Feb 09
That is really good advice. No parties and no going home with anyone.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Don't meet in a bar, but maybe the bar area within a well lit restaurant like Applebees or Olive Garden. Don't dress provokitively can make him think you want more than a date.
@Tinkerbell7 (160)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I agree and maybe even meet at Starbucks and don't committ to a long dinner date the first time you meet.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
There are many things that can happen to a girl when they go on a date with the wrong guy. If they tend to be lousy pickers of dates then they should at least learn a little bit. cheers!!
@Tinkerbell7 (160)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Please tell me that you didn't just say that these women who are raped, attacked, and/or assualuted DESERVE to learn a lesson. EVERYONE makes mistakes and not everyone is taught how to make the right/smart choices. Please don't sit there and think that anyone deserves to be treated like that. I don't care if you walk into a dark alley wearing nothing at all.....you NEVER deserve to be attacked.
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I would tell them, to be a judge of character, not emotion. There are way too many times where females fall in love, and can't get away then, so they are being abused then.
@Tinkerbell7 (160)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Thats good advice but that is for past the first date. I would hope that nobody falls head over heels on the first date. :)
@Tinkerbell7 (160)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I believe in lust at first sight but not love at first sight.
@marie_cehl (50)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
Invite your circle of friends when meeting strangers. Crime are all in surroundings so we better observe safety in all our doings.
