Does my bum look big in this?????

Sorta like: "Listen you greybacked idiot, you're beginning to sound like your ape ancestors!" Bring it on baby! ROFL

Weddings for sure when asked about the brides looks. Another one is babies. Though I do feel that all babies look cute, there are some that I just can't comment on. And when the mother's the one asking me....I have no other option than to say 'She's so cute and tiny or she's adorable' or something on those lines. Atleast on mylot I have an option of not commenting (not that I've seen any uncute baby pics here) but what do I do when they look at me straight and ask the question?

yup,it did happen recently,i did go for a wedding recently,i had to comment on the brides looks(my friends sister) and i said;you are looking so sweet,my hubby gave me a wry smile which implies;how can you be so untruthful(infact,my maids daughter looks better than her)lol

I find myself there many times. Infact, on fortnightly basis! I just hate siting through those medical sessions bi monthly. How I wish to divert myself from the boring drawls of the practitioners who think they are the best, never kinda stop beating their own drums. But at the end of it I write words of appreciation about the same, of which I hardly remember a phrase!

I think the older I get, the less I filter what I say. Some days, there's just no filter in place at all, and everything I say really could use a little fine tuning before I say it.

That is the reason why I try not to bully people with so many questions on how I look, or does it fit? Does my tummy look smaller now? Did I lose weight? Coz I recognize that familiar untruthful look on their faces! But sometimes, we can't help it. There are occasions wherein truth just won't set you free. Instead, they'd set you on fire. So some white lies here and there can really come in handy.

When food sometime cooked by someone taste like rubber , but i give a smile in appreciation when asked a feedback. And i'm thinking, why is there no dog in the house and under the table, where i can make all the food dissappear, and i just hope the host does not ask me have some more. This has happened a lot of tiems how i wish sometimes i let go, but can't. My ex boss, used to seek verbal feedback on some new plans. I did raise my strong objections once only to be sidelined. I learnt that those who gave thier nod and said it was great got to his good side. The plans would fail. But yet he would persist. I learnt to keep quiet and nod in approval,but would be thinking why is he keen on putting his foot in dung everytime ?

I don't like hurting peoples feeling so I skirt around the truth if it has to do with their looks,hair,or clothes. The famous question...Does this skirt make my butt look fat?.. I guess it is the little white lies that keeps the world turning and a few less knocks in the head from woman throwing stuff at their mates for telling the truth. My husband I would never ask that question. He would tell me the truth and probably make me feel worse by adding to it. He has good reflexes..lol

There are lots of ways to tell the truth whilst cushioning the blow, James! . But you are right, it seems a very nice idea to able to speak your mind without having to wonder if you might hurt someone whilst doing so. Just a little hint of honesty here and there wouldn't hurt anyone, right . Because of my upcoming profession I have to deal with a lot of people and children and keeping them al happy is hard, if not sometimes impossible. There have been times you want to say something different from what you would professionally say, because your own values might differ greatly from what you are dealing with. So yes, I know what you mean.

Confession time.... as a grade school teacher I confess to occassionally wishing I could tell a child to "just get over it". But no, I always kindly suggested, "what do we do when people do something that we do not like?" Oh, and then there were the tattlers!!

So many times. For example, my freshman roommate's "princess disease" was very very severe. She always looked herself in the mirror asking " I look so gorgeous,huh?" I had to say " I guess!" Deep down I thought she was hopeless to a certain extent. By the way, a good movie called " Thouch of the Panada" is going to show. I guess it will be more excellent than " Kungfu Panda". However, I don't know whether you are sort of interested in Chinese moive. Don't look down upon Chinese movies. You know there are lots of good Chinese movie stars like Jackied Chan, Jet Lee and Bruce Lee. Oh, of course, Bruce Lee is no longer there. haha

Oh all the time. I'm a smoother (smoother overer) and I usually let things go. Mostly peace is more important to me although there are times...

Oh here's an instance James... "Was I flirting with your girfriend back there ?" "(punch on the face ) Does that really sting ?" Heyy James, long time no read ! Its been a while since I was last here. And how can stop myself from visiting your profile !

Can you concentrate at myLot with loud music blaring in the background? I sure can't. That's why I don't know how to answer your post! LOL

That's very jovial nature of yours!! I like saying such things.. ya sometimes. It happened in my art class. There's one friend of mine who always sits with me and keeps on me asking me about her drawings. I would like to tell her the truth (she has a very kiddish kind of drawing skills) but she gets angry when some one does that even our own teacher. She says sir is so bad he keeps on telling me that my drawing is so bad and such kiddish. What does he think of himself "MR smarty pants"?? So what change can my words bring to her..?? When ever she asks me to comment I just say ... "hmmm good" "you have a nice concept" And on the other hand my other friend who is very flamboyance and open girl asks for my comment on her work.. I straight away said "What is that.." With wired face. She actually made a "man" and I wasn't able to recognize that ... Woah!! there I just pushed the BIG RED button for her's she kind of fired on me .. Like I would have said that it is bad or good.. but "what is that" what a cruel comment on someone's drawings.. Believe me "what is that" hurts a lot to an artist. he he he Phew I came out alive of my class room what else I could pray for!!

I experience that situation just about every time I get together with my older sister. But, recently I was in IM with her and I had the courage to be honest and tell her what I really thought of a particular situation. I thought to myself "wow, we're making progress here!". The next day I spoke to her on the phone and realize my "honest opinion" had no effect on her whatsoever. She just wants people to agree with her. She has told me numerous time that she doesn't undertand how I can "keep things in" so much. But, truth be told, most people (in my family) aren't realy interested in what I have to say. They just want to TELL ME what THEY think about everything! Oh well, that's why we pick our friends right? cuz we can't pick our families! lol

do these socks make me look fat? obviously looking for hugs.

hi james72 oh yes I once replied when this jerk asked me if his shirt collar made his neck look too big, no, but 'what I would like to have said, is no your neck looks a lot smaller than that big head of yours. He was a person who felt he knew everything, and had to tell you about it for hours and hours. The bad part is he lives here so I have to be courteous to him.

Hi, James72, my partner!! Yes, I have had many of these days. Everyday, I want to say something to someone but I hold my tongue. When my mother-in-law asked me if she looked young for her age. I told her yes. But, I wanted to tell her no. My mil looks very much older then she is. I just told her a lie just to make her feel good about herself. I didn't want to hurt her feelings. Sorry. But, I tell white lies just to not cause any confusion with any other person.

"No, it does NOT!" aka Yes it does but you might crush me if you say that. "No harm done/no worries/it's okay" aka do that again and I will choke you literally. "Tee Hee Hee" aka OMG that was a lame joke. "I kid, I kid." aka jokes are half-meant.