To what extent will you tolerate a friend?

I have always seen this situation a particular way shamzy18: If the person really was my friend they would not treat me poorly. I am referring to on a consistent basis. After all, everyone has bad days. I figure if I keep a negative person in my life I hurt only myself. There is no room for a positive person. It is all about balance. However, if I remove a negative person, this will create a void in which a positive person may be brought in.

Hey shamzy! I am not the type of person to let anyone take advantage of me or to treat me like sh!t! I stopped that along time ago! If someone is doing somthing or saying something that I don't like I tell them right away! If someone is treating me badly I tell them and if they don't change and still continue with that behavior then they are no longer considered a friend! I have had to end friendships for that reason!

I use to be the type who would never say anything and people will take advantage of that. I tend to just disassociate myself now with someone if they keep treating me bad. I had one friend who would put me down quite a bit. I finally got fed up with and snapped back at her pretty bad one day. She looked pretty startled and we never got together again after that. That was okay with me.

I used to be a nice person before all the betrayal had happened to me. Now I won't tolerate anyone, and I find that is the 'nicest' thing anyone can do out of love. If I cause someone to be bad because I was too kind, then I need to let them go.

It is important to NOT tolerate a friend when He/she is already doing something wrong. First of all, if for a fact you consider him/her as a real friend, then consider it as your responsibility to do so. That is, if you truly care for the betterment of that person, then you'd have to make him/her stop doing the wrongful ways he/she has been doing...

If my friends got mistake or committed mistake i will not tolerate even a single one.It start from small it will end in that way.Im telling them in appropriate way not to the point that our relationship will be damaged for doing something wrong, because when it happens to me, she/he can remind me also.

I do not tolerate being treated like sh1t or disrespected by anyone. A friend who did that would be an immediate ex friend but not before I let them know what a piece of crap I thought they were.

i ll extent until the extent extents...lol..sry for the blade...friend are our well wisheers...we must not get tensed on them..what ever they say they say for our wefare onli...they r the angels bsides mom n dad..i don get anger if the mistake is in my side..i beg beg beg n continue beggin untill he frgives me..but if the mistake is in his side..i ll tell the problem of his n convince him

I'm a person who's so nice to a friend but if I feel I'm being treated like not a friend to her, that's a differrent story. I will tolerate her for the first time, giving the benefit of the doubt, it might not be the way I thought or feel, however if done for the second time, I'll no longer talk to her until she realize the wrong thing she had done. Should she make up and apologize then we can be friends again...

i am a person kind heatered to my friend i dont get tolerated with there action i love them what ever they do they'll do good for me happy mylotting

if the actions can be ttolerable then so be it.. but if its hitting below the belt thats different story..i will fight back

until and unless he doesn't hurt other's moral sentiments

No, I don't tolerate it at all. I recently gave up on a friendship where I wasn't getting treated the way a friend is supposed to be - this guy was talking behind my back, telling all of his friends lies about us, and just in general being a jerk. Now we aren't friends anymore (although he sometimes calls to apologize). There are plenty of people out there who could be good friends - I have about 5 very close ones who I trust a lot, and who know that I won't take crap if they are going to try to start it. I say, if you have one acting like a jerk, confront them! Don't "be silent" about it.. If they are a true friend, they will take your criticism to heart and try to change.

There are friends and friends. If we are talking of long time real friendship, I do not think getting angry and not talking to them is the right answer. I treat everybody with respect and expect to be treated just the same. But we are all human and we make mistakes. I think part of being a friend is to cut them some slack sometimes. We all have our bad days and fighting about it with only aggravate it. I do talk about it at some point thou, even if it's the next day or whenever they calm down. I think a real friend should be there for better and for worse, a shoulder to cry on. If the friend it's taking advantage of it, than he/she needs to be told in a nice way. I think most people that are taken advantage of or abused are not assertive enough. Everybody should draw a line. You can be great friends even when you disagree, as long as you respect each other.

Hi there shamzy18!I have been in certain situations where I have shown genuine concern for friends who in the end did not even show appreciation for everything I have done for them. Generally, I would not allow people whom I consider my friends to do something like that to me. But it happened for some reason. Now, I am more careful when dealing with other people, even my friends.

Hi Shamzy 18 ! Yes I am like you I wont tolerate the friends treat in a bad manner I wont talk to them unless and until they say sorry . What the hell we need to talk to such a people who dont know the meaning of friendship. They must very well understand how to behave in the public with their friends. This type of behaviour cannot be tolerated and at the same moment I will point out that you not doing the correct thing please change it. If they can understand and behave in a proper manner then it is well and good. Otherwise I leave their friendship. Happy posting and have anice day.

I would probably tolerate it once, maybe twice, but as soon as I find an indication of that the person is acting that way deliberately, I would stop. I think that a person that behaves this way on purpose (not just because they're in a bad mood or having problems and venting their anger somewhere, because I do that too sometimes unfortunately) and willingly treates me poorly doesn't deserve to be called a friend. If they apoligized and adknowledged their mistakes, I would forgive them. You mentioned that there are people that don't realize that this is happening to them and I feel pity towards those types. Another person has NO right at all to say mean things to you and treat you badly that later calls themself a friend. I would tell the person that they're being mean, and if they don't stop or show no concern for our friendship, then I wouldn't make an effort to be their friend at all. Who would want a person like that as a friend anyway? They'll probably have to learn it the hard way - I'll be waiting for an apology.

Real friendship can endure almost anything. That's not to say all friendships are completely real. A friend may hurt you, may say unkind things, may do something nasty to you. If they're a real friend, you should be able to say something to them and be able to talk it out. Sometimes they might get mad about it and walk off. It happens. Bad things happen. Sometimes, you just get hurt. Sometimes you hurt them. A real friendship can take it and get over it. Sometimes I don't say anything. I just take it and shrug it off. It depends on how often it happens, and if it's a common occurence. If it happens all the time, then I try to discuss it. Case in point. I've got a best friend who loves movies. I do too. We live a few hours apart. When I call her, if she's watching a movie, I have to call later so she doesn't miss anything. If I'm watching a movie and she calls, I have to miss it cause it's a long distance call and she doesn't have any other time. I finally put my foot down and told her she'd have to call back. She was furious and slammed the phone down. I didn't call her back. After a few weeks, I called her and we talked like nothing had happened. But the next time I was watching a movie, she said she'd call back!

Personally I have zero tolerance. I find that if someone is behaving rude or what not, I will tell them how I feel. I treat people with respect and kindness and I expect to be treated the same way. I agree with you though, I have seen a lot of people that just take whatever they are given and I just don't understand why they put up with it.

That's a good question. I believe friendship is a two-way street, however with that come certain expectations. If a friend begins to treat me poorly I tend to tell them as soon as it occurs. It is their decision how to take the information and how to deal with it. I try to be polite, but I also do not hide how I feel, because that is part of a friendship. You need to be able to communicate with one another about how you feel about the actions of the other. I do think that there are some who feel that friends should just "take" whatever the other dishes out and never speak about it. I disagree with that. Any sort of relationship revolves around communication, and if communication is broken then there is no hope for the relationship, and in fact probably isn't one. Now, in terms of intimate friends, where they are partners and reside together or what not it is often difficult to tell this person that their mate is treating them poorly. Take the care of spousal abuse. The abused will often make up excuses as to why the other spouse is treating them poorly. You cannot reason with this person, you can simply offer them the truth and allow them to work through it. And at times this is probably the most difficult thing we can do as humans. No one wants to see someone in this situation, but we cannot force them out of it either. We must hope that all we've shared with them will sink in.