Forgiveness take 2

Goodness. I think I could not cope if I was not forgiven. I suppose I would just have to get on with it if I was not forgiven though, but it sure would play on my mind. I do not think I have done anything so bad though, for this to happen to me and hopefully it will not either. (well I cant think of when it has)

The only reason I would ask for forgiveness is if I'm truly sorry for what I've done...if I am forgiven then great but if not then I'm not goin to let it get to me..I made a mistake, I wholeheartedly tried to make it right and if the 'victim' isnt willing to forgive me then there really isnt anything I can do about it so why dwell on it ya know...sure i would feel bad but the bottomline is they have their reasons whatever they may be and I can't FORCE them to forgive me and I wouldnt want a fake "I forgive you" either so whatever ya know...I have been through too much in my life and wasted too much time on things to spend time dwelling on something i have no control over...make sense?

i donot ask for forgiveness so easily but once i am convinced that i have done wrong,i do pursue for others forgiveness relentlessly,otherwise i feel very guilty.it does give me peace of mind.

I've certainly done my share of wrong against the people I've cared about. I have my faults and failings and I know that deep in my heart what I did or said was not intended to hurt or anything. So no, it's not important to be forgiven...in fact it's out of my hands, not something I can control. All I can control is that I forgive myself and try to learn from my mistakes and do better. I'm talking small stuff. If I was to cheat on my partner or tell a big lie or something and caused our relationship to take a tumble then maybe things would be different. I had a partner who cheated on me because he no longer cared for me. I forgave him but he didn't care anymore. In some cases forgiveness doesn't matter because it doesn't mean anything.

It's really necessary for me to be forgiven. If I was not yet forgiven, I'll just try to prove the person that I'm really sorry for what ever I did. Maybe with my efforts the person would be able to forgive me, and at least I know that I've done the best thing which is to apologize and be sorry for the actions done.

for me as long ive already ask for forgiveness that's all i care.. coz i cant enforce the one i hurt to forgive me directly.. i know it takes time.. and i have to understand them.. and i have to go on with my life.. :)

[i]Hi dawn, I always feel good when I will be forgiven, it will bother me when I am not..But, as much as I can, I am trying not to hurt my loved ones by any means! usually, I will offend them when I am late which is very rare, I forget something and need to go back etc. I consider those as minors and very easy to be forgive! LOL![/i]

There are some things in life I have done which I am far from proud of. I have tried to apologise for the mistakes I have made, but it is not always possible to do it or recieve forgiveness. It doesn't mess with my head at all though. I am a different person to who I used to be and I now try to make a positive difference in any way can to help people and be a good person. I find the good deeds vastly outweigh any wrongdoings of the past.

If the person is really important to me or very close to me, I will NEED to be forgiven from them. I won't be able to let it go. If they are not that important to me or are even a complete stranger, I will WANT forgiveness but I will be able function without it. But, ...... I really dislike offending anyone and will make an effort to seek forgiveness from ANYONE I have wronged.

It really does mess with my head at first and depending on how bad it is to me and how important that person is to me... but after begging for it and not getting it, I will end up shrugging it off.

Dawn- Good topic. For me, I tend to not worry about it once I've asked for forgiveness. Of course, that said, I only ask for forgiveness if I have deliberately hurt someone, such as called them a name, or such. If I have said something honestly as a friend, I tend not to worry about it needing forgiveness. It's not that I go around hurting friends on purpose mind you. It's that I've come to realize that I am not responsible for the other person's interpretation or perception of what I've said or done. It took me a long time to come to that place though. For ages I was always the one saying "sorry" even when I wasn't the one in the wrong. Perhaps finally breaking the abuse cycle with my ex helped me to see this point. However, I don't take it personally if the other person isn't ready to forgive either. Everyone has to follow their own course of life. Namaste-Anora