I'm about to go crazy with our puppy! Please Help!!
By mjaelaws
@mjaelaws (26)
United States
February 5, 2009 4:42pm CST
I don't know what to do. We have had our lhasa poo puppy for a week now he has slept her seven nights to be very exact. He is crying in his crate so bad i just don't know what to do. He is 11 weeks old and at that age you can't do anything like those citronella spray collars or those super sonic noise things. I've ignored him, given him toys a shirt of mine and done just about anything I could find on the internet. He is keeping me and my kids up at night. When I leave he cries the whole time. I can't take him outside and leave him there to do his business for a few minutes while I come back in. He whines at the back door and he is so bad I'm afraid the cops will get called on us. I can't stand outside for 20 minutes for him to decide to go to the bathroom either. He just lays there on the ground most of the time looking at me and then he might go. And the last couple days even when I do stand out there with him he will maybe go pee and then come in the house and go poo on the carpet even when I have a puppy pad out (which I know he knows how to use because he used them the first few days he was here)
I'm at my whits end and don't know what to do. I'm so close to calling the breeder I got him from and ask for her to take him back. But I am so mad at myself that this idea has even entered my mind already since I told myself that I would do this for sure and not give up no matter what. This is our first time with a puppy and I just honestly don't know what to do. Please anyone help me. Or maybe if you know of some sort of product that I can buy that is safe for puppies to help me out I will take any advice.
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@Raven1 (577)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
YOu might need to remind yourself that this puppy is a BABY. He's been taken away from his mom and his litter mates and he's all on his own in a strange place with people who want him to do things he doesn't understand yet.
So... rule number one: BE PATIENT. He's just a baby and he's learning.
Next step - puppies whine a lot less when they're really sleepy and want to sleep. This means make sure puppy has had a good play session before bed. Let puppy run around and play, give him a drink and a toilet break outside which includes PLAYING instead of you glaring at him and making him feel like he's done something wrong. He'll go. Especially when he figures out that being there isn't a punishment any more.
I know you said you got him toys, but perhaps a soft toy that's a similar size and shape to him now might make him think he has a brother to cuddle up to and play with? Encourage him to play with the soft toy.
@makeupbycher (165)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
i totally agree with Raven1. i have 2 dogs now. when we got the first pup, the breeder warned to pretty much leave him alone for the first day in his crate for him to get used to his sorroundings.
about the poo problem, you can easily tell when the dog wants to do his no. 2. he snoops and goes round and round. when you see him do this, bring him to the weewee pad.
our dogs are adults now, and they always do their business in the wee weepad. at first we put these all around the house in places where they do their business (no. 1 and 2). the places they do business is quite consistent. and you will see eventually the no. of wee wee pads lessens. right now, i only have one weeweepad in the condo for the both of them! and one in the bedroom when we go to sleep as they sleep in the bedroom too.
pls. don't bring your dog back to the breeder. it just takes a little patience. dogs have little sense of realization. you have to teach them. when they do something good, praise them RIGHT after the act. say Good dog, bad dog in different tones. they will understand.
my older dog was alone for a year before we got another dog. but despite this, he is well socialized. we got him a stuffed animal and lots and lots of toys. make going out a pleasant experience so he'll be agreeable to go out and make his crate a pleasurable experience so he can rest there.
@mjaelaws (26)
• United States
6 Feb 09
I would not say that I'm not patient even though it may seem so. I'm more at that place where I want to pull out my hair because I don't know what to do. It's like the bringing a newborn home for the first time and not knowing what to do. Even though I had the thought of bringing him back run through my head in all honesty it's not an option for me before deciding to get him I decided I would be in it 100%. And I am I just need some sort of guidance on dealing with the patient testing moments.
I know it will take time too I was honestly not expecting him to learn everything in one week it's more the whining that is a huge problem right now because it's waking my kids up. On the wearing him out I actually do that every night. After my kids go to sleep I will give him a really good play session with his toys and I wear him out pretty good. Following that I take him out to go potty and I also take his food away at 7pm. (A suggestion form a friend)
I talked to a vet assistant while I was at petsmart this evening and she said to make a hot water bottle and put it in there wrapped in a towel and also get a ticking clock and place in there as well. I'm going to try it tonight and hopefully that will work.
@markbrauer16 (265)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Just let him run around leave him calm down a little bit.
@mjaelaws (26)
• United States
5 Feb 09
sadly I have walked away to calm down but I can't just leave him to run around the house because he will go to the bathroom behind my back. I've noticed he is smart like that he waits until I turn my back. And if I try to let him run around outside well he just doesn't do it. He cries at the back door. I've even closed the blinds so he can't see us and turned off the lights in the house (and left the light on outside) when it's dark out and he just won't stop.
@Reeta02 (136)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I completely understand how you feel with having a new puppy. I went through the same thing when I got my first puppy six months ago. About the crying/whining in the crate...when I got my Boxer puppy at 6 weeks old, he literally cried at night ALL NIGHT for 3 nights straight (then he'd sleep all day since he stayed up all night). Well, my husband and I couldn't get ANY sleep, so we had to fix that. Here's what I did (some people may not agree, but I read it in a dog book and it worked!): First of all, make sure he knows his crate is his home--a comfortable place. Put his food in there, give him treats in there, place a nice soft blanket or dog bed in there, and maybe even a plush toy.
If he still cries at night after his crate is nice and comfy, cover the crate with a blanket and hit on the crate every time he cries. The reason to cover the crate is so he won't know where the sound is coming from (i.e. you) and he won't resent you. If you hit the crate (to make a loud noise, not to hurt him) every time he begins to cry, he will associate the loud sound with his crying, and he will eventually learn to be quiet. My husband called this the "Jedi mind trick," but it worked. I only had to do this one night with my boxer puppy, and from then on, he never cried in his crate.
About the housebreaking, the Boxer was very easy to housebreak--every time he used it in the house (we'd have to catch him in the act), we startled him and he'd stop in the middle of what he was doing. Then we'd redirect him outside, and he eventually caught on. On the other hand, I have another puppy--a maltepoo--and she is much harder to housebreak. As a matter of fact, she's 6 months old and still not completely housebroken. I haven't found the right method to use with her yet because the method I used with the Boxer doesn't work with her (she doesn't get startled and doesn't stops doing her business when we catch her). I'm also teaching her to go outside instead of on a potty pad, but I don't always have the patience to wait on her to do her business (she doesn't immediately go when she's outside, unlike my other dog). So good luck to you!
@RockCollector59 (325)
• United States
9 Feb 09
they are missing there other family.think about being taken from your family at 11 weeks. would you have a fix,i know i would.anyone would. try feeding him warm milk out of a bottle like you would a baby.as he drinks the milk he will get use to your smell, you will become his new family.he is lost, don't know what to do.he was with others of his kind.now he all alone with a bunch of new people.become his new family,you all will be a lot happier.i sent my best wishes to you.
@cortypants (604)
• United States
6 Feb 09
I was going to suggest the hot water bottle and ticking clock -- but you already got that advice!! The other thing you could do if the clock doesn't work is to leave a radio near the cage.
He will stop whining eventually, it just takes time. What I have found works best is to never let him out while he is whining. That will teach him whining = out. Even if he has to go to the bathroom, wait until he is calm to let him out. That's a tough one, especially if he is stubborn, but eventually he will look at you to see what you want him to do, and as soon as he is quiet, open the door. That teaches him that he can get out (which is what he wants) when he isn't being loud! :D Good luck with the puppy!