How do you feel when kids start school??

Australia
February 5, 2009 6:10pm CST
I must be crazy. Everyone keeps saying things like "thank God the kids started school", "or I cant wait for the kids to start school" but I dont feel that way. I feel sad and cant wait to go pick him up from school. I know it has a lot to do with him having developmental delay but it looks like he is doing great and coping well but mummy is not. We also has some issues the first day (none of the people working with him had been told and he was treated like sh!t). I know that I am also very hormonal right now (been 30 weeks pregnant) but I just cant rest my mind. I worry how he is going to make friends, will kids like him (his language is behind kids his age) will he cope with learning new thing, will he understand things enough. Anyway.... How is it for you? How do you cope?
8 responses
@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
6 Feb 09
Lol, I miss mine, but I'm also glad when school is in session. I have three and they can be a handful. One is still at home, so there is not sort of an empty nest left. Maybe I'll feel different when he starts preschool next year. Sorry that your son had a bit of a rough start. Kids are resiliant;) Mine love school. I'm sure yours will, too. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and enjoy the bit of freetime you are getting right now. Once the baby is here... well you know what will happen;)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
Well when you put it that way :))))) I only have 1 (I wont count the unborn) so I am by my self and have lots of time to think and that does me no good. For almost 6 years it has been just me and him (I dont count husband as he works) and I hoped that he would have great time at school but with his problems already showing up that dream was crashed. (teachers have not been properly informed of his condition and basicly he was treated as if he is spoiled little sh!t instead of a child with special needs). And what do you mean when the baby is here, do uou mean things will change :)))))
• United States
6 Feb 09
I think that parents can't wait for school to happen so they can get the children out of the house. you can't watch them 24/7. it would be a real pain. so that is probably the reason.
• Australia
6 Feb 09
I get that but right now even with my advanced pregnancy and having to walk so much to take him to school and picking him up (the school is over 2km away from our house so I do 8km at least a day) I dont mind looking after him.
@gemini_rose (16264)
6 Feb 09
Its horrible when they start school, I hated it with each and everyone of them. I have four altogether, one left last year and two are in school full time now. My youngest is at home with me but in September she will start in the integrated nursery of the school my boys are at, she will go each morning all week. I am going to miss her terrible, she is such good company and OK she will only be gone for 2 and half hours but it is a long time when we have never been apart!! I am dreading it.
@dhurianne (205)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
Hello there, as of the moment I don't know what would be the feelings that my kids are started going to school. My children are still very young 1 year and 5 months and the other one is 5 months old. Well, that time will come and by just imagining right now I am sad because surely I will miss them. Even when I go out for a few hours without them I'm always in a hurry coz I missed my children already. So I understand how you feel right now. I think as a mother this kind of feelings is normal.
• United States
6 Feb 09
I was exactly the same way, I was so sad for my son to start school this year, and I was terrified how he would respond to the teacher, and interact with the other kids, and would they be mean to him, and all that. well school is half over, and we have had parent teacher conf and he is doing well and my son loves school, he doesnt like to miss, so I am doing better, but I am always there to drop him off, walk him to the door and there to pick him up everyday... so I am doing better, but I am anxious for summer vacation as well...LOL good luck to us all!! LOL
• Australia
6 Feb 09
I am glad to hear that. My son just started 5 days ago. He loves school and I dont show my sadnes infront of him. So far I cant wait for the weekend so we can have some fun and we got lots of books from the library to read. But I cant imagine 40 weeks like this a year for the next god knows how many years.
@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
6 Feb 09
I think we all go through the phase thinking that we cant wait for the kids to start school. But in reality, when the day comes...it is very sad. Our little one is growing up and beginning on a new venture..We worry about how they will do, will they get lost, will get arrive home safely.. I have been through this 4 times and the first time was definately the hardest... All children too are different and handle this new venture differently as well...SOme cry, some dont, some laugh.... The day my second child started school, I walked her to the bus trying hard to hold back the tears..She very calmly and happily ran and jumped on the bus with no reguard to how I felt....not even a bye mom!!...Once she spotted her friends on the bus,,,i was no longer needed..I think I cried harder that day!!
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
6 Feb 09
I feel the same way. I hear people all the time when summer vacation is over saying "Thank God!!" Not me, I love my kids being home with me. They are happy and rested. if I had a little more confidence in myself I make actually consider homeschooling. It is nice to hear that they love to spend time with their children and not wanting to hand them off so quickly.
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
6 Feb 09
I have the experience of worrying for people whom we love most, for instance, I worry for my husband and son or in law when they drive. Mother's worry never ends. "We worry if they will pass the class, from their first day of school until their last. We worry about them going off to college and if we gave them enough knowledge. We worry for them when their heart does break and the scar that they might never shake. We worry for them on their wedding day, that the love they share may never fade. We worry for them when their baby comes now their worrying has just begun." A Mother's worry never ends. It just evolves and grows and starts again. to make ourselves relieved, we had better change for a new perspective, which will affect the family in the positive way, and do good for the kid, as well.