What would You have done different or changed?

Thank you for response. However, when it comes to my son it´s like this. He has disorder of ADHD and AUTISM. This disorder however do not show, it only appear when you talk to him and socilize with him. He looks like a normal teen. He really do not know what he want to do. Since this disorder can in cases slow him down. That make´s it hard to help him and guid him. He might not be able to function with a job on his own, he might have to work beside a superior to help him guid him at work. It´s not easy to find such jobs today. The easy tasks that once was are gone.

oh i see. it is better to let him try to do several things and find out which ones he i interested on and focus on that or work around it. people who has ADHD can function as a normal person. i know several of my friends who are in their forties who is ADHD, they only knew about it later in life when it was widely known. they know they hve short attention span but they somehow worked it out for their benefit. mind you, these people are more successful than i am! search through the net for support there are a lot. i also have friends whose kids has ADHD and somehow they have managed to guide them with the help of a support group and putting their kids in some special school , initially for the kid to adjust because of their slow learning curve but once they want to know something, their mind is like a sponge , they absorb it. so, i would suggest that give him the support and understanding by informing all your peers about his condition so they would support you as well and not to solicit pity from them. it would help if you pit up a blog about ADHD ans autism. dicuss the condition and make some researches. here is one lead for your research, here in the philippines there is a society that gives support to kids who has ADHD and most of its members are parents whose kids are affected by the said condition. have strength and have faith that everything will turn out just right. everything has a reason why things happen.

Thanks for responding with this topic. Yes, it is mostly so they do manage better than we do. However, in their teens it seems they not. He have tryed to practice some work to find out what he would like to do. As I can see, he will need some guidens in the work he will do. I woud say, that the Autism are going to complicate things for him, not the ADHD. He has med for his ADHD, and it works fine with that. His autism complicate things around communications. The ability to understand what other people want. We tend to talk in different ways, that make it hard to understand what we want. We say things in a vary way. We talk with mouth, body and not always say everyting, we use unerlying texts. It is this that complicate things for him. I might say something with my mouth but something els with my body...and they see both of it, but can not understand it. Lets give an example.... My son comes home and shouting out for me. I am talking on the phone, and that is what I say, you have to wait, I am talking on the phone. He will think....talking ON the phone....as you see, that would be rather difficult for me to talk ON the phone....that is what he will think. You and I know what I mean, but he is thinking differently becouse of his AUTISM and ADHD together. Now, my son is nor or have never been stupid. These kids and adults are far more genius than we are. I am confident about that. But, as we are, the not so genius, it might make it harder for them. Not all of us do understand the needs they have. And I am confident that he is aware of that and that make him worried about his future. I think things will come to sort them selfs out in some way. He will move to habilitation for grown ups and I know they will help and guid us.

Well, I am not surprised you are. You are going to leave the kids world into the adult world. And as an adult you are supose to know what you would like to do with your life. I think it is far to early for you. How in the world are you going to know that. I think the adult life are coming to fast and to soon for all the teens today. I feel that we adults are to calm about it, think you have all the time in the world. And yet, you do not. And in this era we live in is not as it was 30 year ago, time and things have changed. But teens have not. I do know how you feel. I see it in my son to. The problem is that, me as an adult, are supose to help. But if You do not know your self, How are we to know and help you? Other than listen and be there. It seems that the age of 18 is not only fun, it is a lot of obligations to. But the main thing is to think about the shcool and what profession you like to have. The rest will sort it self out sooner or later.