Freedom in life
By kun2349
@kun2349 (23381)
Singapore
February 6, 2009 1:15am CST
As the title said, i have actually learnt alot about life.. It's often full of surprises and it's a never ending learning process.. TO me, life is supposed to be simple, doing all the things that one likes to do, and wants to do..
But yet, we dun get the freedom to do that.. WHy?? Simply because there's somemore whom has been thru it, and it's not a nice feeling.. BUt to those whom might be suited for that, they are always being hold back, and being called 'stupid'.. I mean, what's wrong in pursuing one's own interest?? We are living for ourself and not living for others, so why should we let them control our life??
Life is about exploring and gaining of experience.. Life can be simple in that way too, because it means being stressless and has got unlimited freedom.. Though money might be a problem, but money is supposed to be spent.. So what if one can buy a big house and have everything in the world, but only to lack freedom and happiness??
TO be honest, money earned is not always well spent.. Because everybody has got a different opinion concerning about life and money.. What seems stupid or impratical, might be the survival tool for others..
So let us be free, and pursue whatever we want in life, dun let anything hold us back, for WE ARE WHO WE ARE, and WE ARE WHAT WE ARE 
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7 responses
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
okay, we are who we are and we are what we are...
but remember that we are not just living for ourselves...
we have our family whom we should share our lives with...
i think freedom is really a nice thing to have...freedom to do anything we want...but lets face it, w e can have freedom in one aspect but not in all aspect...coz we are living in a world bound of rules and laws...
but anyway, its wonderful if we can really live our life with all the freedom we want and gets all the supports we need...
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
3 Aug 09
THat does sound quite profound to me huh?? hehe ^_^ BUT it's true to a certain extend because of our commitment to things..
THough we are not just living for ourselves, but we not not living at the expenses of others, whom they think, are paving the right way for us to follow right?? hehe 
I do only wanna freedom to choose what i wanna be and do in life.. IT's just very simple.. Whatever seems happy to me, and i'm contented with, to my family, they see it as a completely different thing, which totally demoralized me instead..
And if i were to follow what they said, i will be the unhappy one for i din managed to find my true self..
Thus, i need my own freedom, and i know i need to sacrifice some things.. 
I do only wanna freedom to choose what i wanna be and do in life.. IT's just very simple.. Whatever seems happy to me, and i'm contented with, to my family, they see it as a completely different thing, which totally demoralized me instead..
And if i were to follow what they said, i will be the unhappy one for i din managed to find my true self..
Thus, i need my own freedom, and i know i need to sacrifice some things.. @kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
4 Aug 09
YEah, since they have different views in life, so why must they insist that my thinking is wrong in the first place?? That's not being fair to me right?? 
That's life, i guess.. It always need some sacrifice in order for things to work their way.. It's something that' inevitable, especially when it comes to freedom ^_^
As for now, i do have my freedom in majority of things for i'm already an adult.. BUt still, there will always be naggings from parents, for those small little things.. haha =D
That's life, i guess.. It always need some sacrifice in order for things to work their way.. It's something that' inevitable, especially when it comes to freedom ^_^
As for now, i do have my freedom in majority of things for i'm already an adult.. BUt still, there will always be naggings from parents, for those small little things.. haha =D
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
13 Mar 09
I guess we all have that thought at one time or another in our life. That life is meant to be free. And that freedom is every one's god given right! And entitlement of life, not a privilege that many seem to deem it today.
Then we got hitched and our life priorities changes. The world no longer revolves around our ideals. They now revolve around our significant other as well. So what if the world stop turning? Our love one is with us, that is what matters most.
Then we get married and life priorities changes yet again. We are not more responsible for more things in life. Not just our own, but that of our spouse and our family as well.
And if a kid comes along, those priorities changes yet again!
Every stage in life, there is something that we are attached to. And it is this attachment that makes us feel that that freedom which you defined diminishes with time.
But you still have that freedom to choose. To be responsible to your life and family and make the best of the time you have with them? Or To pursue your ideals as you would as if you were single and carefree?
Ultimately, we get that freedom to choose. Many choose the fomer rather than the latter.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
13 Mar 09
As long as one has got no commitments, their life is considered a life full of freedom.. But provided one should know how to make use of their time, if not, all freedom will go down to waste and ended up regretting it in the future..
Thus, as long as one day, i dun get to fulfil all my dreams, i will never commit myself to family plans or marriage.. So, my goals are more important.. LIfe can be complete in many other ways, and it need not be just marriage, with kids etc..
My kind of completed life, is somehow different, and that's the kind of freedom i want.. haha =D
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
13 Mar 09
Each to his own my friend.
Every stage of life you go through, your goals and priorities will change.
Trust me.
When I was 10, I wanted to be a pilot.
When I was 20, I wanted to be a System Administrator.
When I turned 30, I want my own children.
Who is gonna know when I push 40? 
Trust me, when you go to the next stage of your life, your current priorities and goals will suddenly seem not so important anymore!
Trust me, when you go to the next stage of your life, your current priorities and goals will suddenly seem not so important anymore! 1 person likes this
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
17 Mar 09
I know, when u reach 40, u will want a mistress.. lol =D When u reach 50, u wanna be a millionaire, and when u finally reach 60, u definitely want your CPF.. lol =D Just kidding.. hehe
Well, yeah, what u have said is true, priorities changes along with time.. BUt so far, my goals and dreams are still very much the same for the past 10 years.. i guess it's gonna be hard for me to change, unless i found something even more important.. lol =D
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
19 Mar 09
Agree!
I always believe we must make money our slave and not be a slave to money. I must say I am leading a pretty free life. Unlike my friends, who are mostly talking about marriage, getting an apartment, having babies and etc, I'm free from all these commitments. I feel that I'm still too young to be doing those stuffs and looking at my friends getting stressed up over those stuffs, I feel blessed.
I also want to lead a life that's truly mine rather than to live a life which is agreeable to others but not myself.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
24 Mar 09
Yeah.. After all, we live for ourselves, and why should we be tied down by commitments when we have not even start to fulfil any or part of our many goals in life.. lol =D
Life is meant to be explored and we will live life to its fullest, even though it means sacrificing somethings ^_^
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
4 May 09
I've long realized that there people are people and there will always be differnet personalities and etc. What I hate the most are stereotypes and especially when one has achieved a particular something, he or she will boast and ask whether you are embarking on that lane or not. It's frustrating when there has to be the 'correct' way or rather the pattern. Like when someone is single people would ask when are you having a boyfriend or girlfriend. And when that person is attached, when are you guys getting married. And when married, when will you guys have kids. Upon which when the kids are there, do you send them to public or private school. And on and on until the kids are grown up and they will ask who your kids marry, why this person, that person. And right up till Wonderland. LOL. I'd say go with your dreams and deal with everything later. As long as what you are doing feels good, and you are happy, that's what matters. Of course all of us are sensible enough not do be so daft as to commit crimes and all that. I so feel your discussion here. Good one. 
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
4 May 09
lol =D I like your comparison in the response.. hehe ^_^ 
Yeah, when a particular person is successful in that line or whatever they are doing, it does not mean we must follow suit.. Because that's their dream, BUt it's not my dream to be like him.. haha =D Too bad, not everybody understands because they only go for the norm, and they dun expect much in life..
BUt real challenge in life only happens when we get out from the comfort of it, and embark on a brand new journey different from others ^_^
Yeah, when a particular person is successful in that line or whatever they are doing, it does not mean we must follow suit.. Because that's their dream, BUt it's not my dream to be like him.. haha =D Too bad, not everybody understands because they only go for the norm, and they dun expect much in life..
BUt real challenge in life only happens when we get out from the comfort of it, and embark on a brand new journey different from others ^_^1 person likes this
Stick around.
@srikandi19 (3391)
• Kuta, Indonesia
24 Mar 09
In life, money is not everything. but without money, we can not do anything. Should we not come to a Slave by MONEY. Don't live up to all of us to pursue the use of money, without know how to enjoy life.
I can only say words, but can not implement it. Because, now my self is busy pursuing money 
@srikandi19 (3391)
• Kuta, Indonesia
3 May 09
Yup .. we can't life without Money.
But We not life for Money.
I love money but don't want be slave of Money.
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@Ysabel (1201)
• Philippines
4 May 09
hello my friend kun2349.. i am back. as you know i have been off and away for a while to heal a broken heart...
i have been reading about your posts on freedom, on seeking for your happiness, in doing things you want to do.. in wanting to explor the wonderful and promising world out there. i think that is indeed very bright idea! you need to do that t be able to have self-fulfillment... Now my question is, what is stopping you from doing all that? or should i ask,who's stopping you in pursuing that dream?
i understand that you are not in a relationship right now? correct me if i am wrong but that's how i see things, so i guess there's no girlfriend thats stops you from doing that. i am trying to understand what exactly is the problem?
i am just tyring to understand more and get the whole picture so i can help you my friend. 
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
4 May 09
Yeah, i do understand and know what's happening on your side ^_^ HOpefully, ur precious heart has been healed now, or slowly healing ^_^ hehe
Well, nothing or nobody is really stopping me, just that i have lack of support from family members even though most of my frenz do support my decision to do so ^_^ Be it i'm in a relationship or not, it does not matter much, because when i happen to have one, i will also find someone who share the smae ideas and goals with me ^_^
Right now, i'm planning on my journey and once i've saved up enough, i'm ready to go ^_^
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
8 Feb 09
Well said!
You are living for yourself not others.
I know, I know, somebody chooses to live for others and there is nothing "wrong" - it is their choice.
It is your choice to be who you want to be. Here's one of my favorite quotations, "We can only be who we are, no more, no less."
