True love always triumphs,and withstands the test of time......
By Roseo8
@Roseo8 (2947)
India
February 6, 2009 1:54am CST
I realised this yesterday when I attended a wedding in the church yesterday,and I want to share this with you guys.The boy was a christian and the girl a hindu,and they have been hopelessly in love for many years.But both families vehemently opposed their marriage,but the two love birds were determined and waited patiently for the consent of their families .Infact the boys younger brother and sister also got married.Finally both the familes and the church also infact relented and they were married in the church,though there was no usual mass in connection with the marriage.This is because the church took a liberal stand and allowed the bride to follow her own religion and said it respected all religions,but wanted their children to be baptised in church...And since the boy's family was conducting the marriage,they took special care to see to it that the bride's family were welcomed and infact made them feel quite at home,inspite of the difference in rituals and customs........
So finally the church and the two families had to give in,when they saw the determination and devotion of the pair to each other......God bless the couple,and lets hope they live happily ever after.......
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12 responses
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
Hi Roseo8! Oh that is such a beautiful love story! I wish them all the happiness and love. True love always triumphs, I agree with that absolutely. Nothing can be so sweet and so pure than true love. Thank you for sharing this with us for it just validate the truth that true love is patient and understanding.
Take care and have a great day!
lovelots..faith
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
6 Feb 09
Hi Faith..........Yes this is indeed a love story with a wonderful ending.And it was a great moment to be present when the two finally tied the knot,after years of withstanding objections ,advice and brain washing....
And my dear I just happened to glance at your rating and I am very much inpressed to see you are on 100/100......Congratulations dear,its great going...Keep up the good work....
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@oldboy46 (2129)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
What a wonderful thing to happen and even more so that both the families finally accepted that the young couple wanted to be married. It must have been a rough time for the young couple while their families came to terms with this. I know that in many countries mixed marriages are common and often the couple are not of the same religion. However those marriages do work very successfully because the couple are devoted to each other. In addition, both families support the couple and accept that they are entitled to happiness.
Good luck to the young couple and hopefully they will have a lifetime of happiness and continue to prove their devotion to each other.
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
9 Feb 09
Hello oldboy,Yes our country is multi religious and multi lingual,but people are very devoted to their own customs and practices.But today more and more youngsters here are opting to marry outside their religion.But I feel they can make a success of their marriage only if they get support and blessings of their respective families as well......In the above case,both the family vehemently opposed to the marriage in the beginning,and the determination and devotion of the couple towards each other and to their family was able to with stand the test of time,and they finally won.It was finally a happy moment for everybody,and you are right,this couple really deserve our good wishes.....!Thank you old boy......
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Feb 09
My Heartiest Congratulations and blessing to the lucky Couple. Finally, we will say - "True love won". I think the boy and girl would have remained very determined and honest towards their goals and therefore, they could achieve the same. Nearly similar but opposite thing happened with one of my colleagues, she is a Christan and her niece (brother's daughter) is also a Christian. The girl was in love with a Punjabi boy for quite a long time, they both are computer Engineeer in the same company. My colleague's brother was not willing for the match. However, the boy and the girl kept on persisting with their parents. Finally, they agreed for the same. Firstly, their marriage was solemnised in the traditional Punjabi marriage style at boy's place and the next day their marriage was again solemnised in a Church, as per Christian rituals. I did not attend the marriage, however, my colleauge brought the marraige CDs in office and we saw all the ceremonies. My colleauge was very much apprehensive before marriage and would ask me quite often that - "Look! Deepak - my niece will get married with a Punjabi boy, will it be alright or will my niece feel comfortable in a Punjabi family or will she be able to adjust...". I assured her that as your niece knew the boy very well, she will be fine with a Punjabi family and my prediction came out true. My colleague recently told me that her niece is very happy with her husband and in-laws and she is treated like a queen in that Punjabi family and she is loved and regarded by all her in-laws.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Feb 09
I agree with you............. that parents should be supportive and cooperative to make an inter-caste marriage successful.
What will be your stand, if one of your sons goes for an inter-caste marriage?
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
6 Feb 09
Hello Dpk.....yes I was really impressed by the way the maariage was finally conducted with full co operation of both the families and even the church.....Well intercaste marriages are becoming so common,though I often wonder how the couple can remain happy if their parents are not willing and supportive.I suppose if their love for each other is genuine,then they can withstand all tests and win over their families too.....This is what happened in the case of your colleague too.....
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
6 Feb 09
well Dpk...I would not want my sons to go for any intercaste nmarriage nor will I encourage them.But if god forbid such an unfortunate state of affairs take place then I guess I will have no option but to relent,since ultimaltely its their happiness that matters..........I am quite old fashioned Dpk.....
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@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
What a beautiful love story... like a modern day Romeo and Juliet... but this time the ending is a happy one... hope this will serve as an inspiration to those who are truely in love but of different race, religion, background... for sure this is a story that they will never get tired of telling their future children and even grandchildren...
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
9 Feb 09
Hello aseretdd....what makes this story interesting is that it is fact and not fiction, and attending the marriage was a true and new experience to me......Yes it was indeed a proud moment for the couple ,and it showed how true love can withstand all tests of time......The young couple really deserve to be happy for ever...
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
6 Feb 09
Hi Rose
Hope u must be doing well
really nice storiers. Cross Relegion marriagers are common in multi ethinic country like India. I am not sure now but i have heard lot of stories of Riots due to these Cross Relegion Marriages
But in this case, its great that Church play a good role and Parents of Girl also realised that and agreed. The best thing is that Both Boy and Girl, stay confident and waited for right time instead of runaway.
Very Well
Take care
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
6 Feb 09
Yes Cupid,india is a multi religious and multi lingual nation,and though people respect other religions ,when it comes to marriages,every one like their children to marry within their community.But most younsters today are opting to marry their colleagues or class mates irrespective of their religious and cultural differences,causing much displeasure and scorn among their family.But attending the marriage yesterday was an unforgettable experience to me.For even the priest in the catholic church had relented and agreed for the marriage to be conducted inside the church,though wihtout the usual ceremonies.......Any way all is well that ends well.....
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
9 Feb 09
It is very happy to hear a love story to succeed with a happy ending.I respect the parents of the couple who finally give up to their kid's will.But the church should have been more generous allowing the kids of these couples to follow the religion they choose.They shouldn't have imposed them to baptised in the church.That is the only thing I look negative.Other than that,it is good to see lovers ending in marriage.Let them enjoy all the fruits of life.Cheers!
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
10 Feb 09
hello srganesh,yes it was a happy ending to a deep rooted romance that withstood the test of times.Well I feel the church was generous enough to allow the bride to retain her own religion for I was under the impression that the church gives consent to an intercaste marriage only if the non christian partner is also converted to christianity.....Any way god bless them and shower them with happiness always.....
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
10 Feb 09
This is a wonderful story of perseverance and dedication and like all fairy-tales, there’s a happy ending to it too. I do wish the couple every happiness in their life. However, there’s one thing I do not like and that is the church’s insistence that the children be baptised…its rather like the church granting a favour and saying “OK we will consider the Hindu girl and her religion, but the children much come into our fold and increase our number!” It’s the same with Muslims, I don’t know about other religions. Don’t you think that in inter-caste marriages such as these, which have tremendous potential to bring the nation together, children should be taught both the religions and left free to choose for themselves?
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
11 Feb 09
Hello Sudipta...Well it was in deed a pleasure to witness this fairy tale marriage,and yes the couple deserve to have a happy and blessed life.Actually besides you,some others have also expressed their displeasure at the stand of the church about insisting on baptising the children born out of this wedlock.But I personally feel that this is not a bad thing,since I have witnessd many intercaste marriages breaking up because the couple find it difficult to agree as to the religion their children have to follow.Also some couple take the easy way out and let their children decide which religion to follow.This works out sometimes,but most times the children realise they are not able to fit into any religion,when they grow up,and end up feeling depressed and at a loss....
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
7 Feb 09
I have tears in my eyes Roseo! Its indeed grat achievement for for both and another triumph for people in true love. I also appreciate the tolerance to both the families who actually supported and participated i the wedding. That had made things special for the couple, I am sure. I have always believed in true love and in the fact that it would conquer world with conviction and belief.
The church on its part has been exemplary for I have found them quite conservative in such reagrds. It should have been a matter of great highlight. Where is media, I wonder!
Wishing the newly wed a blessed and happy married life.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
9 Feb 09
Hi Mimpi.....Yes it was a wonderful experience to me to attend this special ,but simple wedding,and I wanted to share it will all of you.....The couple had indeed withstood the test of time and had won over the hearts of their families and of the people who attended the wedding.Usully I feel like a fish out of water when I attend church weddings,but this time for once I felt quite at ease,since the bride's family were also Hindus.Infact I was very impressed by the liberal attitude of the church and infact the church had forgone the reguar mass because the bride was not a catholic.And the boys parents had taken great care to see that the bride's family were at ease through out the function.There was special parking lots for the bride's people as well as special seats in the church reserved for them,during the reception........It was indeed a noble gesture,and will infact serve as an eye opener for many....
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
9 Feb 09
Hello Kalav,yes attending the marraige was a new and wonderful experience for me.And what surprised me most was the liberal attitude of the church......It allowed the bride to follow her own religion,and the priest was very cordial to the bride's family,and even though they were Hindus ,he and made them feel quite at home in the church,during the ceremony.....Yes couple really showed how true love can win against all odds.....God bless them........
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
6 Feb 09
Hi Rose, That is indeed a great example of true love winning in the end. I am very happy for them. Being Hindu, her parents showed great tolerance in attending the service in a Christian church. I am so pleased that they were made to feel welcome. It was also good that the church took such a liberal stand, It is my sincere hope that other Christians will learn from this. As far as any children being baptized in the church is concerned, I believe that has to be the choice of the parents. The church does not have the authority to demand such things anymore but if this couple made the promise, they will probably follow through. Blessings.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
9 Feb 09
Hi Pose dear.....Yes I was full of appreciation and wonder,after attending the marriage.It was a real experience for me......And the attitude of the church deserves special mention.There was no mass for the wedding,since the girl was not a catholic,but the church specifically said that it respected all religions and that the girl had a right to follow her own religion.Yes you are right the church had no right to demand that their children should be batised .But being a practical person,I think it was a good suggestion, because I have witnessed children of many inter caste amrriage,being brought up,not knowing wht their religon is,causing them much dialemma,and also sometimes intercaste marriages often break up because the couple are not able to come to terms as to whose religion thier children should follow......
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
6 Feb 09
Dear Rose,
I really wanted to appreciate their patience and presently which is disappeared in younger generation. They stand with maturity and they proved their sincerity and commitment to each other. Inter-caste marriage is common now but most of the couples are getting married without the consent of their parents. But this is a different story and finally ‘love’ succeeded. Let us hope they will continue with their sincere love and will lead a happily married life. God bless them.
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
6 Feb 09
Yesree infact it was a strange feeling for me when I attended the marriage in the chruch yesterday.The boy's father is a police officer and a close family friend.I went alone to the church ,and my hubby joined me from office at a later stage.But for a change,there was only a very informal wedding,with the tying of the mangalsutra and exchange of rings.And since most of the audience were Hindus ,I felt quite at home in the church...ha..ha.....And also the two families were very cordial and decent about the whole thing even though they had vehemently opposed the marriage initially.And the bride was dressed in pure white saree,like a true christian.But during lunch she came dressed like a true Hindu bride decked in red saree and the couple even exchanged garlands after lightening the traditional lamp...too...Thye are indeed lucky to have such understanding families......
@mayka123 (16604)
• India
9 Feb 09
This has made me cry and remember my own marriage. Though unfortunately I could not have a church wedding but I received a very warm welcome from my inlaws and was happy that they respected my religion and gave me the freedom to practice my faith even after marriage. I too had a lot of opposition before marriage. But now my family and my inlaws get along very well. And they visit each other for all festivals.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
10 Feb 09
HI Mayka......I hope you cried because of all the good thoughts that you had about your marriage.Well that was a long time ago when intercaste marriages were not very common.Attending this marriage was a new experience for me,and the way the catholic church handled the ceremony actually left me speechless.....I guess when the couple truly love each other,they can win over their family too which might raise some objections in the first place.The bride was infact dressed all in white like a true christian bride,though she had not officially converted to a christian.And during the reception that followed in the church parish hall,she changed into a red saree with ornaments and the couple exchanged garlands in front of a lamp,according to Hindu tradition.I really appreciate the good gesture of both t e families,who were totally opposed to the marriage in the beginning.....