"I love you".....what's your name?

i dont trust guys who said Ilove you in first apporach.i dont even believe if i know him so well.that words is so gracious and only one person can say it if he or she mean it even for friendship.

I'd probably just laugh if a man said that to me without knowing me at all. I take it with a grain of salt when dating when they say it early on. I don't know. It takes a long time to get to know someone and really fall in love. Most of the guys that fall in love really easily also seem to fall out of it just as easily. I guess he'd have to be very persistent and we'd have to see each other for quite a while before I'd believe it. Even if he did have feelings for me right off....I'd have to have them in return for it to go anywhere and I am not one to look at a person and fall in love. I would not advise any guy to say those words on his first approach even if he felt them. It would take an awful lot of effort on his part to get me to believe he was serious.

I guess if it's just on the spur of the moment then you have to be a bit wary, however it is quite possible that the gent in question has been admiring the lady from a distance and his feeling developed over a long time - in which case he could be quite genuine (if not a bit daft for not finding out what you are like before pledging undying devotion). I had a friend ask me once how one knew whether a certain lady was the 'right one' and this gave me the chance to share my theory on the male side of a relationship: Here it is then, this is how it works for me: I am fully aware that it is my responsibility to love my chosen partner, it is not an automatic reaction it is a choice - the problem as I perceive it is that if you adopt the attitude that love is not a conscious decision, then you give yourself the option to bale out when you don't 'feel' like you're in love any more... That's a cop out, I think the guy makes the commitment to love, and that's what makes the relationship - traditionally (in most of the world as I understand it), it is then generally up to the guy to approach the object of his desire, and up to the said object of his desire to decline and crush him instantly on the spot, dilly-dally keeping him waiting or graciously except his offer... BTW my friend got married and his wife is expecting their second child. In all honesty, I don't know who has the best end of the deal, the guy who has to make the choice, or the girl who has to decide (sometimes with any prior warning) whether to pursue or drop the relationship. I for one always tried to give the young lady plenty of notice of what was coming and would be hardly likely to pronounce undying affection on the spur of the moment, but then it took me 'til I was thirty to get married

Zandi! I agree with you that 'faint heart never won a fair lady'........LOL! If I have to approach someone I won't say 'I love you.......what is your name', at the first instance, because if I develop a feeling for any person from the opposite gender I need to know her fully first, before making a move. I do not believe in love at first sight. I won't like to approach her and would like to utter three words, without gathering information about her, through my own sources. I would calculate all my moves and its likely outcomes, before attempting a kill............LOL! (This is all based on my imagination...........am being married........practically I am not going to say to anyone...........I love you..........LOL!)

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, I really appriciate your topic. I also agree, it requires lot of courage to say these three words. After our marriage, as a excercise to maintain transperancy between both we had un-folded many of our experiences on these lines and , we both have revealed and found , we both never had such courage to say these small three words to any one. I fully agree. One may call us coward. Now Valentine day is appraoaching and I will use these words to my hubby and in turn , he will repeat the same. May God bless you and have a great time.

Ya I have approached so many girls but never said that I love her the very first time.Instead I say HI ! Whats ya name? I dont beleive in love at first sight.Its just an infatuation.

IF i were to hear those words from a complete stranger it would really make me feel uncomfortable. I mean how can a man know if he loves me when he doesnt even know me? I mean i believe you can have intense feelings and think you could love a person at first sight, but I think you really need to get to know someone before you are able to determine whether or not those feelings are genuine.

Taking fancy of someone is irrational while love is rational in my opinion. Taking fancy of someone can happen in a split of a second. You are in a party a beautiful woman comes in and your eyes fall on her. But being in love is so different from that. Being in love means making sacrificies for the person you love, being faithful and bear the little things that you hate your partner doing.

Its good if it can be like that but it cant. You see the confidence exhibited by walking up to a lady should even be appreciated. But here in Malaysia the ladies are even too shy or proud or nasty or maybe they cant speak English!!! They can even acknowledge simple gentlemanly hellos! Imagine! but very few appreciate it.

I might say those words although I wouldn't say it in a sense that would mean true love. Just friendship. Yes, there have been many beautiful women that I would want to approach and say those magical words to but then I usually copp out and just have them as a dream lover. Crocket.

when i approach i girl i like (which is like never) i get really nervous. im not sure why i feel like that. like i start to get really sweaty or i feel like there are butterflies in my stomach. but i would just start to get to know the girl first and just start talking you know like a light talk. after some conversasion i come up with the idea of going out to the movies or getting a drink. but the girls are like okee. hehe

This reminds me of a time when I was out at night with friends when a guy in the street just grabbed my arm (drunk) and said "I love Asian women!" to my face. I was like... that's nice, go find one then!

Truthfully I don't believe in love at first sight, I believe that love is a bond that forms with time. I believe that it isn't possible to love someone you don't know. I love my husband more than life itself, I would never have thought it possible. I have found that we love each other more and more as the years pass, it's like the longer we know eachother, the more we love eachother. I have to say that if there is a such thing as love at first sight, it passed me by

I believe in love at first sight but i have never said i love you to a girl at the first time i speak with her if i see a beutifull woman i plan out what im gonna say but if i fall inlove instantly my jaw drops and i make a straight aproach and make friends before even hinting a interest

zandi,i have had my share of"I LOVE YOUS"at first,i used to lose my cool and log off but now i donot respond back at all.i dont encourage them at all,but i donot harmless flirting among friends.

i would not be impressed w/someone who did that. those 3 words i love you are takrn too lighty to start with.

Hi zandi! I would never trust anyone that said that to me on first sight! They of course, don't really mean it! You can't possibly love someone you just meet or for that matter, don't even know yet! My first fiancee said it to me way too quickly and it freaked me out! I should have known then that there was something wrong with him! Those words when spoken to freely mean absolutely nothing! People say I love you much to often and use those words too freely and then they don't mean what they are supposed to! It might be cute when someone says it at a party to get your attention as long as you realize that they are only words used for that purpose!

of course i dont believed in him for that moment. i will think that maybe he is drunk, fooling around.. i will just ignore him , if the next time around well see each other and he will say the same word he said the first time we met, then that would be the time i'll believe him..

Hi zandi458 nice to meet you. Yes i did it once well it was Saturday and i was in the park for a evening stroll and suddenly something charismatic happened she was there walking straight towards the pond the moment i set my eyes on her beautiful face something stopped me from taking her out of my sight there i was standing alone just looking at her helplessly suddenly there was a urge from inside telling me yes she is the one go and get her or you will never see her again and i don't know where from i got the courage and i walked straight to her and straight away i proposed her she was shocked as i was myself suddenly i realized what i have done and i humbly apologized for proposing straight away and told her i couldn't control as my heart was telling me its now or never well then she smiled at me and left promising to come back again next evening. It was something i can never forget. Chow Have a happy my lotting

Prior to reading your post, I would have been skeptical of the guy's intentions had he proclaimed his love for me at the soonest possible time. But after reading, I realized you're right. Most men nowadays really are like mascara. They do run at the first sign of emotion. ^^ So if someone actually suddenly blurts out these 3 words after having known me for a few minutes - or a few days or weeks, i guess i would be considering giving it a shot. ^^