how to finally move on?

Eat tons of ice cream, the best cure :)

If we live long enough we all will have this to face in one form or another. One of the biggest deterrents I think we have in not moving on following a loss is the feeling that somehow we were partly responsible or should have done something different or we would not be here now. This is of course wrong. Loss of any kind...hurts. How we handle it is a direct reflection on the kind of person we are. An independent person I think will find it easier to move on as they somehow know that their happiness is not dependent upon anyone else. No matter where we are in live that is up to us. Of course there will always be the grieving for the loss but it becomes a problem when we let that loss control us. Example: I am 67 years old. I am now in my third marriage. My first will and I were married for 37 years...have two children and four grandchildren. Because of the circumstance we were in she found that another man temporarily could make her happy. Because it had happened before I divorced her. In time I found another woman and we married. My first wife lives alone. My second wife had diabetes that she had not taken care of and passed away from a heart attack only 5 years after we met. Both loses were devastating for me. But somehow I knew that if I let it I would be alone for the rest of my life and that was not me. In due time again I found another and am very happy to say I married again and we are very happy with each other. Loss...no matter how it happens, hurts and hurts us bad. But we are better than that and we can and must move on. The ability to forget the bad feelings comes from forward thinking. If we are always looking back we will spend our life there never really understanding that it doesn't exist. It's the past and nothing we can ever do will change it. And we are the only ones who will live there.

It's really never easy to move on. Sometimes it takes months or years to finally move on for good. The things i do to make moving on faster is to think about something then focus on it like work or just something that will take my mind away from my problems or heartaches. Sometimes meeting other people will give you more chances of moving on while giving you a reason to love again.

I talk to myself and convince myself that those problems shall pass and then I will have a brighter day. Overcoming problem is just a matter of having the right attitude. You just have to pray, plan the things you need to do to fix the problem, solve it, move on and learn from it. I know we all have problems but one way that I do to feel better is to think that I am not the only person having a problem. Others too and theirs are heavier. By having that kind of thinking I am able to prove to myself that I am still worth living and fighting. I am a very positive minded person and when I feel down I just cry and let it out and then after that I console myself and then feel better. I always think of my inspirations my husband and son. That's it!

ya my marks in the semester was 80% and i hope i'll get more and that was a bad feeling for me and i am trying to get rigid of it as many people got more marks than me happy myloting