what can i do about a mama's boy?

United States
February 6, 2009 12:10pm CST
My sister is married to a great guy. for about 14 years... Great dad, provider one problem...he a mama's boy even went home on his honey moon to his mom house lol...pretty bad anyway she says he goes to his moms practically everyday....and he want her to go too. She refuses. I dont know what to tell her because I her told to dump him... but she says she love him ect... They recently moved about 20 miles away from his parents house and he still goes over there....she at her end witts... I dont want her to have an affair with someone cause she told me she gets pretty lonely... Does anybody have any good advice I can give her? Im pretty much out of suggestions. She says he tells her.." I dont have any friends" that why I go to my parents house. I told her thats alot of bull. She is suppose to be his best friend, lover ect. Any suggestions?
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@pmcepe (194)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
Your sister may start from the end, meaning what does she wants her marriage to be? A broken family, or a whole and complete one. Once she decides on the later she may be able to list down how she can achieve it: what sacrifices can she make to have it? Is she willing to trade some inconviniencies if only to preserve the family? Also that honeymoon thing have to go... she is carrying an unnecessary baggage, and it is ruining her life! Until when is she willing to carry it? I bet her husband is not bothered by it anymore. Instead of resenting what he does, she may try enjoying it instead. There may be benefits she can think of by going with him. My point is, try to see the positive side, not the downside.
• United States
7 Feb 09
Good point...I told her to forgive the honey moon things since its been over 24 years..that cant be good for any relationship. But she tells how loney she is when her husband leaves her and the kids to go 3 times a day sometimes to his mother's house. Her mother in law is constant nit picking her about her house, dress ect... I know she has to make sacrafices but really 3 times a day is alot..
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
your sister should be happy that she is married to a great guy. she should be happy to know that her husband has been seeing the mother rather than anyone else. with his mother, he cannot be doing bad things. bad things that a husband who has gone astray does. it would be better if the wife visits the mother along with the husband once in a while. it will be such good bonding moments for them. once a week or once a month visits will just be okay. this way, the wife will also discover why the husband loves her mother so much. it will be good for you to know that most mama's boys are good husbands. they love and respect their wives just as they love and respect their moms. so, for those women out there who has married a mama's boy, you should be happy. because these men have no other vices but to think of their founded family and their moms. wouldn't you consider it to be such a great relationship going on in the family, goldenapple? please, do...
• United States
6 Feb 09
Thanks for your response...Yes she told me he is a great dad.. only thing is he leaves his wife alot to help his mother which I guess is okay sometimes but not ALWAYS. My sister told me its been hard to get over the honey moon thing.. but maybe she will never get over it since he goes over there so much and his mom is pretty controling