Secrets to a successful marriage!!!

Nice tips. For me though only a single thing will do - understand each other.

pick your battles and always always never go to be mad. My husband and I say we love each other every time we talk on the phone even if it has only been five min. You never know what could happen. Always show one another respect.

Good rules. How about trust and honesty to that list as well. I agree about not keeping things bottled up. And help around the house would be good too.. LOL..

Do not sacrifice the good things with the bad We are all good critics when we see other people's actions. There are times when we forget the good in someone and just see him/her with her mistakes and failures. This is a good destroyer of relationship. Encourage each other Though married, husband and wife may still have different goals in life like in their careers. It is good to hear encouragement from each other as they are both human who need it. Supporting someone on his/her dreams builds good relationship. Continue to be good friends Nothing beats marriage with friendship as its foundation. Friendship will make the relationship between husband and wife last. I know couples who are good friends before their marriage and the resulting relationship after marriage was good. Husband must keep courting his wife Husbands think that after marriage, there's no need to bring flowers or presents to his wife anymore. Women appreciate even small presents. It will help the romance as they were even before marriage. Never expect marriage will change your spouse People think that their future spouse will change personality and character after marriage. I have seen people who didn't change their attitudes even when they got kids already. Expect that the attitude before marriage will more likely be still the attitude after marriage. Don't let a small problem grow to a big one I have seen couples having a small problem ending up having a bigger fight compared to the cause. Big fights usually start from small misunderstandings. During an argument, one may remind of one's fault from the other day and the other does the same. It is when we can sing "Yesterday Once More" while they fight because they would bring up each other's fault from the past each time they argue. Many people say that marriage is like hell. But I think it is the place for us to grow more. It is our last change to grow actually. :)

I agree with you and with what everyone else has posted. My husband and I also say "I love you" when we end a phone call and we say it every night before we go to sleep. The only thing that I can add is to love your partner, "warts and all". In other words, neither partner should expect the other to be perfect but to accept his/her shortcomings and allow him/her to be human. My husband has some faults ...he's not perfect and neither am I but we accept each other as we are "warts and all".

These are all good recommendations. The one thing i would say is never expect things to always go smoothly, they won't, but if you work together you will come out of it even closer.