What if Your Partner Contacts a Significant Other From the Past?!

Hello mjmlagat! If my partner would do that, I would probably be angry. What's the use of contacting his ex girlfriend anyway? I mean, I don't think it's fair for me that they still have contact with each other eventhough it's only for friendship. It would be awkward for me too. What would he feel if for example he is not my first boyfriend and I still contact or have contact with my ex boyfriend? It's the same as that. Eventhough it's his past but the fact that they got romantically involved with each other and that they loved each other before.

Well I know for most girls would be mad and upset about this. I can be a jealous person, so I guess I would feel the same way too. However, before committing myself I'd like to make sure that my partner is someone I can trust. This is one thing that we don't expect that could possibly happen, and if it ever happens I'd want him to tell me that he met his exgf and tell me what happened and why. I want to hear his side before judging him. As long as I trust my partner, and I can't see nothing wrong with that, there's no reason for me to worry about. Besides, guys don't like girls who are overprotected and too much jealous and insecure.

I can't be angry. If my man wants to see his kids he needs to be in contact with one of his exes. He is also friends with many of the girls that he dated before me so I don't mind if he contacts his ex-girlfriends. I know he loves me and comes home to me. He has expressed his love for me in many different ways and that he wants to marry me not his exes and that means a lot to me.

I think that is totally unacceptable. Why would he contact a past girlfriend? There is a reason we call them 'the ex'

What will I do if my boyfriend will contact od communicate to his past? Well Ill be honest at first I feel angry to him but if I ask him whats the reason why did he contact his past. Then he answer me honestly well Ill be calm and I know that he is true to me, love me and I think that is past you can never retrieve it. Since I am the present girlfriend I should I worry for that and I trust him very much that he will not hurt me.

of course i got jealous on that because why she/he contacted her/his boyfriend/girlfriend in the fast..and then he/she already have a relationship with someone.it's really hurt that in our part...

I'm still friends with my ex's, so I guess to be fair I should be understanding of those I date. Generally I wouldn't mind it, as long as I know that the feelings between them are gone. I'd feel uncomfortable if they started hanging out alone though. I guess if you're concerned, you should ask your boyfriend/girlfriend why they decided to contact that person.

If my partner would do that, i'd be angry at him for sure.. i'd confront him and ask questions about it.. i mean, past is past.. you should leave the past behind... if i'm really important to you then avoid that pathetic ex girlfriend! i've had that same problem with my hubby before.. he managed to talk to his pathetic ex gf without me knowing.. and yes, they went island hopping too.. GRRR!! but now? i've seen the great change in him.. he shows how much he loves me, how important i am to him, etc.. Thank God!

my first reaction is i'd be angry ofcourse.who's not?right?and some bad thoughts regarding my husband and his ex will linger in my mind.thinking worst.because why the communication at all?friendship?ohh i don't believe it.just make sure my husband has a valid reason why he did that thing if not then i don't know what would happen next.maybe worst of the worsiest action?hayz

I know most people expect their current boyfriends/girlfriends not to have anything whatsoever to do with their ex-lovers. This is largely due to the fact that most relationship break up acrimoniously and the lovers end up being sworn enemies who will never see eye to eye for a long time. However some relationships break up without enmity and as a result the two continue as friends but not lovers. It really depends in what context my lover is contacting his ex boyfriend. There has to be a valid reason and the reason has got to be explained to my satisfaction, she shouldn't just go off meeting her ex and hope I shall understand (Of course there's an element of jealousy and some degree of insecurity on my part but I cannot help it!) I would want her to ask herself how she would feel if I were to go seeing my ex before she makes any decision concerning her ex.

You have to let people be. If you are meant to be with them you will be. If not then you will not. I understand you should worry. If you feel that person is not there for you then you should move on.

Hi, I'm afraid I would be angry as I can be quite jealous. I would like it not to bother me as jealousy isn't a nice feeling. It depends if he/she told you or you found out and what reason he/she contacted her/him. Personally I would be angry either way and for what ever reason but its better to be understanding:)

well first i find out who she is and why she came back into his life after 10 yrs of not knowing why they broke up and now wants to start a relationship after all these years. well i would be very upset and concern about why would she start a romance with someone whom she will never have and be with ..awhile be with a new gf in his life and never be with the girl he has become in love with yrs ago. springlove

if i found out from other people that he contacted his ex, i would be suspicious, jealous and angry. if he he informs me right before he contacted the ex AND he gives a valid reason for doing so, it would be more acceptable.

Hi there, I am very jealous person, if that ever happened, i will get mad and be suspicious to two of them. Why he needs to have a communication to his ex? Everything is over to them, and they are trying to be friends? I doubt it. It's something fishy. I will going to confront my hubby if ever about it and i will let him to choose between me and his ex. And if he never stop talking to his ex,i maybe going to give him space to realize whose really important to him,and if he can afford to lose me forever. Happy posting.