is he faithful or not? =(
@wyethlovesyou (349)
Philippines
February 7, 2009 7:37am CST
there's this guy, he's my boyfriend, but he's not doing his role as a boyfriend. HE is working and I am a student, we meet like twice a month. before we didn't see each other for like 1 1/2 mos. i know his reasons, he keep telling me that he's busy with work because he's the breadwinner of his family, he saves money. actually i understand his part. but the reason is when were not together, he's not sending messages to my phone, i am not updated whats happening to him and you know.. he sends me message like two messages per day. but when were together i really feel his love, faith, and sweetness. he told me personally that he is not the type of person that keeps on holding the cellphone, that is sweet when it comes to sending messages. for me, he's so mature when he said that.
He also brought me to his house, introduced me to his father, step mother, and other relatives.
my bestfriend asked me, what if im not the only one? :(
what will i do?
-wy-
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@mialei23 (2385)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
Hi there, oh I can relate to your problem my dear. 5 years ago I had an ex boyfriend who used to that also, he's not really in to texting but calling. But call and text 5 years ago is kinda expensive, there's no unlimited texting that time.The question is "how long have you been in a relationship?" No, doubt he already introduced you on his family. There are some people who really a workaholic, but I can tell this is not an excused, right? I think he should make it up to you. And If you find out If your not the only one, because you mention his working mean he is older than you..Girl, there's a lot of boys out there.
Just kidding.
You should tell him what you feel, and tell him what you want. You know to keep your relationship stronger you must speak up and explore your feelings, be strong!
Just kidding.
You should tell him what you feel, and tell him what you want. You know to keep your relationship stronger you must speak up and explore your feelings, be strong!@wyethlovesyou (349)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
hahaha. yes there are alot of boys out there but he's the only one that i can see. LOL. how long have i been in a relationship? we will be 5mos this february 23. almost half year this coming march.
yes, i always speak up.. i mean i speak up by sending texts so what do i expect? no replies. im the type of person who is afraid to start a topic personally.:(
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@wyethlovesyou (349)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
oh thank you mialei for the compliment.
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@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Hello wyethlovesyou! You really made me think with this one. I don't know if you are a long distance or not because just like what you said, you rarely see each other. Before answering, I would want to know, do you live in the same city?
@wyethlovesyou (349)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
yes. kinda. its not far though. but i really dont know his house, or the way how to go there. because he just fetch me up from a particular place and then we go to his house by his motorcycle/car.
we're going to be 5mos this coming february 23. he keep asking me about marriage stuff, but i don know. maybe he's just telling that just to prove to me or show me that im the only one. :(
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
7 Feb 09
you know what, my husband and I are quiet apart for 5 months now...if you're not really that far, then you should see each other even once a week. Maybe he really loves you because he is thinking about marriage with you.
@wyethlovesyou (349)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
he told me before all of his ex girlfriend left him because of his attitude. you know, not that sweet when you're not together. not sending messages because he's busy. i admit he's handsome, he is a former actor and a former model. so i cannot hesitate not to think about negative thoughts in my mind. hahahaha. thank you aisa.=)
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
That's tough. I understand that his working and all. But my boyfriend is working as well...but he always finds time to be with me. We actually always see each other. And if were not together, he would text me or chat perhaps.
I guess its a matter of time management...why don't you guys talk about it. Like set a specific day in a week where you guys could meet.
@wyethlovesyou (349)
• Philippines
7 Feb 09
hi donsky, thank you for responding to this discussion. Actually we have talked about that last November but nothing happened. He is an ice skating coach at a mall, so he's to busy with teaching his students. sometimes he tell me that he's saving money for a computer. i keep understanding him. you know i was used to have a boyfriend who always take care of me, sends me messages and keeping me updated all the time.
he is my first boyfriend who is like this=( but i don't wanna lose him though.
@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
honestly,if im in your situation it really depends if i really love him ill fight for our reletionship...but if i were you if you find another man who can give your needs as a woman then your happy with this other person i preffer for you to go with him.were you can be happy and not think of something else...this situation burdens your heart and eventually end of having doughts to your relationship...communication is a must in a relationship..love means doing everything for someone you love..is he doing it?love is no excusses.so if your happy go on with him....love can wait too,but never wait to be fooled.take care friend!
