Height - does it matter?
By scorpio19
@scorpio19 (1363)
February 7, 2009 11:19am CST
Ladies, would you date a man shorter than you?
Men, would you date a woman taller than you?
Personally, I am short so I'd have to look hard to find a man shorter than me. Although if cupid struck and he was shorter I wouldn't rule him out..
how about you good folk of mylot, does height matter and why ?
how about you good folk of mylot, does height matter and why ?2 people like this
22 responses
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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7 Feb 09
Hi scorpio,
I am only four foot eight inches tall and my hubby is five eight, it doesent seem so bad unless I am used to it but whne I was in my youth I once went out with someone who was six foot tall and everyone thought that was so funny, they fell about laughing everytime they see us and it was worse when we were on the dance floor. Love and hugs.
Tamara
xxxx
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@scorpio19 (1363)
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7 Feb 09
Oh Tamara that's so funny, that's put a right comical image in my head xx
@debfeaster (184)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Well I can honestly say I have dated both men shorter than me and taller than me. I am 5'6" and I married a man 5'2"...can't say the marriage was good and it did end in divorce but I know that has nothing to do with height...LOL! However myself and his children refer to him having "little man syndrom"...LOL! I do prefer to date a man taller than me. Since my divorce I am dating a man who is 5'10" and the hugs are better, snuggling is better, dancing is better and just plain holding hands as you walk. Sounds funny but I guess that is my opinion on height...LOL!
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@scorpio19 (1363)
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7 Feb 09
Hi debfeaster,
Well I've never dated a shorter man so have no comparison but I definitely agree with you about been with a taller man for all your reasons it sort of makes me feel very safe and secure to be with a taller man.
@scorpio19 (1363)
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7 Feb 09
I do think you have made a very good point there, it is just a feeling a tall man can give us of been protected without it been true, my ex was tall and I felt very safe with him but really he was the most unsafest man to be with hence why he's now my ex, so yes it is what we associate height to signify and it's not necessarily the way it really is.
@debfeaster (184)
• United States
7 Feb 09
scorpio...I so agree with that too. Not that my ex wasn't a strong man but I never got the "safe" felling as I do with my boyfriend. Kinda funny that we associate that with height but I think it is very natural. A mojority of men are naturally taller than woman and I think it is unexpected when we see the opposite. I think society has a "smaller men are weaker" "large men are stronger" stigma. I know we would always get looks but I was ok with it at the time but I do feel much safer and comfortable with my new "taller" boyfriend.
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@earthsong (589)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I'd date a guy shorter than me, and have when I was single, but I seem to be attracted to guys that are 6' and taller. If there were strong feelings I would definitely not rule out guys shorter.
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@celticeagle (168256)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Feb 09
I like men that are tall. I am five five. I like them 6ft! I don't think there is a problem with it nor is there a way to change it! I think we are programed to like the alpha male. Not much we can do.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
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9 Feb 09
Hi celticeagle,
I think you have a good point there, perhaps we are programed to want an alpha male.
@scorpio19 (1363)
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8 Feb 09
Hiya jaeden,
I would think that most men would feel this way, as they like to protect.
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
8 Feb 09
Even though I know height shouldn't be an issue, I would feel uncomfortable with a man who was shorter than I am. I love being with a big guy that can make me feel engulfed in his arms. Fortunately, I'm short, so it's never been an issue for me.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
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8 Feb 09
Hi sbeauty,
that's true enough a taller man does make a smaller lady feel protected somehow.
@littleowl (7157)
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8 Feb 09
Hi Scorpio, being honest I am small in heght so it wouldn't matter wether a man was short or tall as long as the chemistry was there with us both, anyway mainly I attract taller men..think its the protective thing a man feels for smaller women LOL!! hugs littleowl
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@scorpio19 (1363)
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8 Feb 09
Hi littleowl,
I always attract taller men and I reckon your right, they must feel like they want to protect us smaller women, I remeber when I was about 17 dating a man and he was 6"4" and he said to me once that he felt like I was a little delicate doll..lol...don't know how he got to that but think it is the protective thing in a man.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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8 Feb 09
There is a couple that live close to us. She is well over 6' tall and he is probably about 5'2"! But what does it matter if they love each other? The Boss is a little shorter than me but it wouldn't have mattered to me if she was 7' tall or 4' tall. So long as we are happy together. She's still "The Boss" whatever her height. I know my place. LOL.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
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8 Feb 09
I agree p1kef1sh it really doesn't matter, I'm speaking from a small womans point of view who has never dated a shorter man but if I met someone no matter of his height, shape, size or looks, I'm sure I'm not fickle enough for it to matter to me. The Boss is a very lucky lady but I'm sure she knows that.
@karenlapniten (83)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
Height doesnt matter because what matters is our feelings. Even though your bf or gf is shorter than you, so what??? Its not your height that is being weighed, but your feelings to each other. The love you are willing to give and share.
@bookreadermom08 (5614)
• United States
8 Feb 09
personally i am short so if i would have met a guy that was short, I dont think it would have been a problem, as it was the man I married is a foot taller than me...LOL
but my cousin married a guy that is shorter than her, so I dont really see it as an issue, I mean if they are the one...that is what is important...everything falls into place. LOL
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@scorpio19 (1363)
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8 Feb 09
Hi bookreadermom08,
Yes if we met the right one and he was short it wouldn't matter at all.
@wyethlovesyou (349)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
height does matter, but im sort of a short/mid type of woman so i guess that would not be a problem. =)
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@Kenzierou (108)
• Indonesia
8 Feb 09
I'd prefer woman about the same height am me. It's less painfull as we don't have to pull our heads up/down when talking to each other. It could cause neck pain i think :P
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@christieanne (70)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
I'd say yes!
It's not nice to watch couples in which man is shorter than the woman or a woman taller than the man, but if love matters you could just forget some standards you want with your ideal man! but for me height does matters!.. happy mylotting
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@scorpio19 (1363)
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8 Feb 09
Hi christieanne,
i'm sure you are right if we met and loved a short man it really wouldn't matter and if it did it would say more about ourselves than anything else.
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
8 Feb 09
I'm short too, so I've never had a problem! My husband is 6' and I'm 5'2". Not sure I'd like a shorter man - though I never wear heels, and he could stand on a crate, I suppose. Then he'd at least be immobile and I could kick him in the shins if he played up! My daughter thinks height matters - she was 6cm too short to be a fighter pilot. Bummer, that ...
@scorpio19 (1363)
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8 Feb 09
Hi guybrush,
LOL at you, you always give the comical view and that's a real shame for your girl missing out because of 6 silly cms.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
7 Feb 09
heigh does not matter at all.i look the personality first then the face is he is clean.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
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7 Feb 09
Hi bombshell,
nice to know you don't feel it matters, thanks for response.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
31 Mar 09
height does not matter.even you are tall or not its always fits
thats the most important part
.just like the size does not matter.got it
thats the most important part.just like the size does not matter.got it@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
31 Mar 09
by the way i am short and hubby a bit tall but we always find ways to fits together
@Humbug25 (12540)
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7 Feb 09
Hi scorpio19
I am like you, vertically challenged!! I too would find it hard to find a guy that was shorter than me but I wouldn't strike him off immediatly. I don't think I would like to date someone who was a lot shorter than me, I dunno though, if I was in love with him it really wouldn't matter!
@scorpio19 (1363)
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7 Feb 09
Hi Humbug,
This is the prob I think saying it now we just couldn't say for sure if we would or not go for a shorter man but if we loved him I think we would. Especially at the age I am now because I've learnt it's not looks etc wich is important it's what's inside a person that counts..sounds corny but it's true.
