Do you like to travel alone or with people?
By daynalee80
@daynalee80 (40)
Singapore
February 8, 2009 3:10am CST
Maybe I'm just super weird. My friends and family believes that it's always better to travel with people than to travel alone. I mean, okay, it is safer to travel with people. However, my main purpose of travelling is to make sure I have personal space! I spend most of my weekdays surrounded by so many people at my workplace that during my vacations, if I choose to go to, say Hong Kong for shopping, I rather go alone. Firstly because when I shop, I hate making other people wait. And if I go with my parents, my mum's not one who can walk for long, so lost in momentum. I also buy different things when I go shopping so it's not that fair to make my friends wait. So I go alone. Then people say I'm weird. Also if I go travelling alone, I can wake up late and still happily spend the day with my own schedule instead of feeling horrid because others have to wait for me.
Any thoughts on this? Pros and Cons on traveling by self or by group?
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22 responses
@silverjam (969)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I absolutely agree w/ you, as I like traveling alone. I don't like to be told what to do w/ a companion and also I don't like people to be waiting for me. I also spent a lot of time shopping or just window shopping as I enjoy it myself but am not sure if other people will also enjoy what I like so am quite worried about that. Am perfectly ok traveling alone and have done it myself many times already.
@llu012345 (18)
• China
9 Feb 09
i also like travelling alone, usually i walk much faster than others ,it is so bored . and it is especially troubleable when you travel with a female,you need to help them to take the clothes,baggage and other things .
@purplehyacinth (575)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
I fear traveling to places I dont know of. But I love the feeling of traveling alone.. When I sit on a bus, watching a view from its window, then thinking about things, I love that feeling..
@daynalee80 (40)
• Singapore
8 Feb 09
Well, normally before I start out to go to a place alone, I research a lot on that place. I write them or print the online articles out for compilation into a notebook that I'll bring along for my trip. Then I'll try those places recommended and put a tick or cross beside it and write down why. This way, if I ever go to that place again, I'll recall why I liked or not liked about that place. My book about Hong Kong was so detailed that my friends now borrow and followit like a shopping bible when they go. Beacuse of the research I have put in, I can rattle off details like a tour guide on some of the places there.
@mykmari_08 (2464)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Personally, I think that if safety is one's main concern; it's definitely safer to travel with people whom you trust. But as you have pointed it out, I know that it's not your ultimate objective for travelling.
I must admit that I don't consider it weird if a person decides to travel all by himself or herself. Based on my own experience, I have travelled both by myself and together with my own family. Most often, I enjoy travelling with my own family specially if we're making a trip or going on a vacation to our hometown. I love seeing the sights along the countryside and if our daughter is with us in the trip, I enjoy playing with her while she sits on my lap.
But when I'm bothered by problems or worries (specially financial in nature), I'd like to make a trip alone. Somehow, I could clear my thoughts this way and formulate plans or courses of action to take.
I agree with you when you mentioned that you don't want others to wait on you, specially when you go shopping. I also hate taking trips to the stores in a hurried manner, because I couldn't concentrate on what I planned to purchase which I might end up buying the wrong or defective merchandise. Also, it might irritate whoever my companion is, if I take so long in the store.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
I like to travel alone. I want to do all the things in my own terms and not dragged by someone. Well I usually go out with my sister and it’s okay if I’m with her because she usually gives more idea of where or what to do..
@jiazhangxia (26)
• China
9 Feb 09
In my opinion , every person has himself thoughts . If i travel to someplace, i would like to travel with my boyfriends or my family . Because i think i would like to share good things .That make us feel happy . But i have on money to travel .I just know if i eat some good food , i will want to buy some for my boyfriend and family .If i found something is fun , i also want my boyfriend to participate in this .
So i would like to travel with him ,but i don't want to travel with other people.
i think if you have meet a person you love , you would like to do everthing with him or her .
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
9 Feb 09
I have never really travelled alone except for short distances within my own city. If ever the situation arises, maybe I will travel alone, but I don’t think I would be too comfortable with it. For one the safety factor is there, then I get bored with nobody to talk to. There’s only so much time I can be with myself, staring out of the window, taking in the new scenery outside or going thru a good book…but after sometime I need to talk. Then there’s going to the loo leaving behind your luggage…with nobody to look after it, you’re not really sure it would be there when you come back! Then there’s the food too…I cant eat all I buy so I need somebody to share it with me.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
9 Feb 09
Since i have a disability and I need help with personal care i can never travel alone. except if I'm going to be gone for less than 2 hours. i often wonder what it would be like to travel alone to far off places and have private adventures maybe that's why I like to write stories. That way i can have an adventure in my own head and not have to invite anyone.
But still I think its fun to travel with people ... most of the time that was you always have someone to share your experience with.
@SusanShayAvon (1003)
• United States
9 Feb 09
I love to travel with people. Especially with my two children. I know that it sounds different but I think that my children were made for traveling. In town at home, usually my children are bad they act up everytime that we get in a vehicle at home and go to town even if for a 5-10 minute trip. But last year we set off for New Mexico. A 15-20 hour drive from our hometown and I am here to tell you that they did not even act up the least little bit. They were like perfect little angels. I think that part of it may have been the fact that we have never been in the vehicle for more than maybe an hour and they knew we were going far far away from home and that it was very exciting for them. I do not really think that I would enjoy traveling by myself. Especially since my children are usually with me 24/7 I really could not travel by myself. I could not be away from them. I would go nuts.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
As for me there are times that i like to do it alone especially if I want to do some soul searching. Thinking and discovering new things about yourself wouldn't be that easy if you have a lot of people to travel with. On the other hand traveling with a companion is fun too especially if you love that person.
@ShanLhey (164)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
I prefer travelling alone. But if someone would like to show me aorund and would like to paid my travel expenses then I would get someone to travel aorund with me. Lol. :))
Actually I have been to places already with me alone. It's sad to be alone but I made it more interesting to be alone that with friends.
@siomaiii (238)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Both! What I like about travelling alone is that you don't ha ve to consult anybody just incase there are changes in the plan. It is also an adventure. There will be no hassle waiting for your fellow traveller. There will be no wasted time.
And what is great about having companions when travelling is that you will never feel bored especially if it is a long travel. And you can always ask your companions to take your solo picture. And it is really safe! To travel alone or with people, I think what matters is that you enjoy the whole trip. Have fun!
@maezee (41988)
• United States
9 Feb 09
I would honestly feel a little scared and vulnerable if I were to travel alone. I'm young, a little inexperienced, and I would probably get lost or in some kind of trouble if I didn't have someone older (or at least my same age) watching after me.
I do also love to do quiet, solemn things - like take long walks, enjoy the scenery, and take in my surroundings..Whereas a lot of my friends and relatives are totally the opposite - and have to be doing something "exciting" 24/7. Whenever I do travel, I usually get into fights about where we plan on going & what we plan on doing - just because me & my traveling companion usually have different viewpoints on what's "fun" and "interesting" to do while traveling.
I also find it a little strange to travel alone; or at least the concept of it (as I've never actually tried it myself). Don't people usually travel so that they can enjoy a new environment (with new things to do, people to meet, foods to taste) with someone they love? It seems a little depressing to go by yourself, without being able to share your new experiences with another person. But I understand your point - it's hard to accomodate others' needs when traveling and still have a good time.
@ephine (2)
• Nigeria
9 Feb 09
yea to me it depends to what the purpose of my travelling or journey! some travellings requires me to have some company with me and some don't require me to have one. Take this example,your are feeling dissappointed, let say by a boy friend or your'e fired at your work place. This time you need time alone. This is the time someone may want to be alone on a beach or a quiet place any where. This option whether to travel alone or with a person depends on a condition someone is in. When aperson is happy,wants to have some fun this is obvious that he will need company to have fun with. Take this example ,you have won in a lottery or have graduated with a first class degree from the university. This is the time you may want to have some company to jumbilate and rejoice with you. These options/opinions, l strongly agree that it depends on the condition of the person or subjective to the surrounding and the circumstances around him.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Hello There.
Wow, I wish I am like you! Lolz
I don’t really like travelling alone because I also fear that I will be at lost somehow since I am not good with places and my main reason for travelling is to have fun with my family, friends and/or my boyfriend but to have sometime with myself as well. However, I prefer to travel with someone I knew or close to my heart because it means that they know me very well.
My boyfriend and I, when travelling, we go places together but we make sure that we both have our own space like for example; he would stroll in the beach all by himself while I am sleeping or doing something and that is fine with me. At times, I want to travel by myself but I guess that will not happen any time soon. I need to get off the fear of losing my way back home etc first… lolz. ..
Very Nice topic. Thank you for the discussion! Happy Mylotting and have a great day! Cheers!
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
8 Feb 09
I wish I could travel by myself. I have the same concern as you have. I am usually a person of fast pace, and would like to see the most within given time, while established schedules only cover the well known portion of the place, which is far from satisfactory for me. What I dream of is to follow the route of historic events. Or take a train and stop by at stations at random to see the relatively remote villages, and people's lifestyle. Let me keep it as a dream, and live in the fairy tales.
@umeshthapa (508)
• Nepal
8 Feb 09
For me it depends upon my mood. Sometimes I wold like to travel alone where as sometimes with friends and family. Ya travelling with friends means you have to stay in some boundry where as with friends it fell like free birds and want to do what they want to do. But traveling alone in a kind of entertainment.
@wyethlovesyou (349)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Hi daynalee80, Good day, I like to travel with people, to be specific with my family, friends and lovedones. It is super sad to be alone. Having a trip with people is nice because if your friends know something about the place then you will learn from them. You'll not be lost and your trip can be an educational as much as possible.
But, some people travel alone, maybe they want some space and time for themselves. Reflecting and loving nature by themselves. I don't see anything wrong with that as long as you are happy with what you are doing. =)
@basketballstr (4)
•
9 Feb 09
I like to travel with people. Probably becuase it might not be as boring eventhough you're someplace else. The only time I would want to travel alone is if I was really stressed out. The thing about traveling in a group is you might not always agree on where to go or where to eat etc. even if you are good friends.
@herbie67 (19)
• Australia
9 Feb 09
I would prefer to travel with my family and friends, definetly not with complete strangers like on a bus trip for example. I have always wanted to go on a cruise I think that would be great as though there would be a lot of people you don't know you could still meet people and have your own private space at the same time.