this pretty girl is flirting with my boyfriend..

you're right.. I have not yet confronted my husband regarding it.. all he'll me is that "don't you trust me?" I don't want any nagging this time.. that is why I'm planning on best good way to get rid of this girl.

welcome

I am waiting for the right timing.. I will do that soon.. thanks dear friend..

I've change my mind now.. I think I am exploding now.. I wanna start a fight with my husband now.. I just pm him now and he said there is no wrong with the girl.. I am the one who is very wrong.. what does he mean? that he takes side with that dumb girl? oh I might really do something extra ordinarily with that girl.. a slap on her face might be great!

I think your right.. I have to do that before everything went down.. what if she accuse me of being "jealous" and that I am possessive.. what would I tell her? she have told me earlier not to be bother nor be affected of her sweetness.But it just that I can't tolerate it..

Just tell her it is not about being jealous is about her disrespectful attitude, in my opinion you just dont do that to a friend!

thanks a lot my dear friend..

I apologise if I have offended anyone. It seems that many do not know who I really am. What I wrote was probably not comprehended properly. I never said that the girl is innocent of any wrong doing. What is true and applicable in one part of the society may not be so in another part of the same society. Our experienes differ. So are the way we grew up. So naturally we tend to have differences in opinion. So you want to know part of my life in connection with flirts? Basically I did not respond the way many men would have reacted. When one girl tried a ruse so that I would touch her I simply signalled to her friend to look at the problem which was non-existent ( a leech was supposed to find its way to between her bosoms). A friend of my spouse admitted she liked doing it to see the reaction of her target. My reaction when a man flirts with my spouse in front of me? It depends on the situation. I have never hit a man physically or hurled verbal abuse over this issue. In any relationship problem it is best not to jump into conclusions and be emotional. That was why I suggested to arrah to take it step by step, to eliminate wrong assumptions and to keep in mind the facts. So when she has enough she can meke plans for the next course of actions. I am not telling her everything on what to do because the decision then will not be hers. Arrah's culture and mine have many similarities. Let arrah decide on whether I have been talking nonsense or whatever. all the best, rosdimy

He used to entertains her very well as if she's not a threat to us.. that is his weakness(sexy ladies) I don't want to argue with him since I don't want the cheap girl to spoiled our relationship. I feel jealous whenever he smiled at her and talk with her.

Thanks for that friend.. the best thing I might do tonight is to have a talk with my husband regarding this matter. Be more positive and should not be too impulsiVE with my acts..thanks a lot.

She have warned me already about her being sweety.. in fact she would call me darling every time.. It just that I found her very flirt now.. I hated her for it.. and I was thinking of her as a threat to me..

I call everyone sweetheart..but not any woman's man. If I do, I say sorry about that, I call everyone sweetheart so that way the woman knows that it's a habit I have. One thing..jealousy isn't good..because it can destroy your marraige. I'm not jealous one bit..why? Because it's a waste of time, the cancer of the mind. I don't waste time on it. You just make sure that the person is truly...flirting with your husband or it's a habit of hers..or if she does it just to men. You can't be jealous because your husband talks or smiles to a woman..its with you he is sharing his bed. It's with you he wants to make his life with. You make sure you have a reason to be jealous and not just imagining it and what you do..just tell her that you don't like it that she calls your husband honey and that you rather she call him by his name and don't be shy to tell her that you are a jealous lioness & watch your marriage..not your husband..like a hawk. Your husband works in public so he must feel comfortable to talk to women and not fear you going to blow up in his face all the time..that is wrong. You have to trust him otherwise why did you marry him? You see he belongs to you and you him. When something like this happens..you warn him about it, tell him to watch that person and see on his own if she is coming on to him and if she is..to tell her to lay off! He may not see it as you because men don't see as women do..so give him the chance to see it and if he sees you trust him that much he will tell you about it and will get rid of her. So analyse the whole situation..carefully..be calm..tell your husband to watch out for her and you get her alone and tell her that you don't like how she is flirting and to flirt with a single man and that its better you are no longer friends and you don't want her around anymore. period Let her say what she wants to anyone about you..some will smile and say..she is right. So stop shouting..arguing won't help it and also instead of getting jealous and upset..fix the problem..and trust your husband..men will cheat if they feel they are not trusted.

Talk to both of them! If your BF really loves you so much it doesn't matter what the girl say or do your BF wouldn't entertain the thought of flirting back at her. tell that flirty girl "back off moron" and tell her to go to her mother and ask her to teach her some manners!!!!!!!!!!!! if you really trust your partner there's no reason for you to get worry with what your friend doing with your bf unless you've noticed that your bf feel the same way that's the time you need to confront them. here's the thing, it's all depends on your instinct.

what a good advice.. know what I am a bit coward.. not able to accept what keeps gong on.. I'm the typical person who would accept everything out of fate. Now I've just realized that if this woman entered our relatioship and be engaged with my husband,it's no longer fate but due to my own carelessness.. I gotta stop her now before it's too late..

You've made me cry indeed.. I wish I would have a happy marriage life like you.. I am sobbing hard right now.. I envy you dear.. You really got a very good love story.. and you deserve it because you got a warm heart.. your love story is one of the best story ever told..

I don't feel good at his point of time.. only you mylotters comforts me.. I've never share my feelings to anyone but here in mylot only.. the best I really have to do is rest,think and call on God. I am relying everything to God now. I am very depress right now. We just argued.. I hate fights.. It weakens me because I am a worst enemy. My heart sank every time I hurts anyone how much more if its my loved one whom I am hurting more?..

Thanks to God that our problem has been solved now.

Its good when things are being talked over. Our problem has been solved now.

I just have a heavy argument with my husband. He have put all the blame on me before I could have talk. Damned, I never got the chance telling him how bad I feel for him right now. I think he really meant hurting me by exchanging conversation with that girl.I feel very down right now.My weakness is that it's very hard for me to accept my emotional angst.I loved him very much but I don't want to give him the impression "I can't live without you.." If he is not comfortable with me now, I'll give him what he want. If he want divorce then I'll give it to him. I won't stand in his way.I am hating myself now.

I never knew that. I have always thought that if someone loves yu then you don't need to do anything special to make him/her happy all the time. S/he will understand automatically!

thanks for dropping by dear.. We have already solved our problems.. I've learned a lot and there's one thing I've learned enough "Always be attentive with your partner's needs" I never would introduce him "my bf" now but "My husband". Time is all that matters.. I've tried organizing my time in order to give him huge time.

well, my belief friend is that truelove sees no beauty imperfections. When two loves each other much all they see is good things. And If you'll gonna ask one who's the most beautiful girl in town.. I'll bet he'll say that it's the one he loved most. I am a simple woman and my husband hates make up. So I stayed with no make up at all. My husband is not that easy to get with. I had been suspicious before but we've handled it now.. we've tried having a frank talk and that's how we've solve the problems. The girl has a bf now and My husband have ignored her now.. She's not her type of girl. He've told me of that. For short "He hates agressive and flirty girls." I don't doubt him no more.

wow..lol.. I am now saving my energy for that woman.. I am gonna talk with her soon.. if she answers back.. she'll surely win a slap on her face from me.. I am waiting for her now..

I don't think it will work.. as you see.. It didn't work.. the worst of it is now at my face. I don't think I still could face this. I think I am giving up this marriage now. This is what I didn't know would happen.

things don't seem good now.. I am the type of person who would rather hide and let go than do any drama or any damn crying begging for someone to listen to me or loved me or choose me or anything.Are you sure I could deal with it soon?

I would probably do it tonight asap.. thanks dear..

We love each other. I know it. This time I have to be more insightful. My husband is faithful but I gotta let this girl out of our backyard before it's too late..thanks for sharing your insightful experience..

you're right.. I've to avoid her and gotta tell my bf to away from her.. she's a threat for me.