My friend has a problem with her husband.How can i help her?
By nirmalarani
@nirmalarani (98)
India
February 9, 2009 1:41am CST
Hi friendes!My friend had a problem.Her husband was a nice guy.I know that they are lovely copule.But the problem is she hates the drinkers and the drinks smell.Her husband drinks one or two pegs once in a month or twice with her premission.Recently he go outside with his friends to spend sometime with them.And that time he takes the drink also.My friend hate this.She says that you go out side but dont take drinks and preferbly to avoid this parties.In this issue they were quarlling. Whenever these parties going on she become moodoff and she dont talk with her husband.My friend feel very lonely in this time.How can i help my friend? I dont understand how can i solve this.Give me your suggestions.I will tell my friend.Happy my lotting.
2 responses
@ktosea (2026)
• China
9 Feb 09
for a guy,it's natural to go out with his friends and take drink sometime,he has his own life circles you know,but it will be bad if he does that too often,the rub between your friend and her husband is they don't think the same way of drinks,I think they should take a time sit and talk about this through,they both could give ways to each other and make a deal on this.
@nirmalarani (98)
• India
9 Feb 09
hi friend ,you are correct.in his own life circles its natural.but what about his wife?she was also a part of his life.this type of parties impacting their personal life.remaining time they were very good copul.so many times she told him very cool.but he didnt lesten her words.my friend wants if you want to drink you do it in our home.but you dont go outside.go with your friends for spend some time ,but avoid these parties.is she thinking wrong?
@chennai_b07 (640)
• India
24 Feb 09
This is the common problem in every family, in your friends family this may be the "Drinks" in other family something else..
For every family you can find some problem between the husband and wife. But this should be must between the husband and wife.. if nothing in between the couples, the life will not be good and interesting.
But my sincere advise is "Please you should not involve in this issue", because in between husband and wife there may be a lots of issues, she may be discuss about this with you, but if you tell some solution, that will become the issue later, this will affect your friendship (yourself and your friend).
If both of them can sit each other and discuss with them, couple of times, this problem will get it solve.. This may be the age problem also, if they may have some other commitments in their family life, this will go away..
If they have a kid them their concentration will be passed on to the kids. And he is also have some commitment in the family..
For taking the drinks, if she shouts him, then only he is having the tendency to have more and also continue for the next time, if she told the same very softly, how he can able to take, (because she only knows the positive and the negatives of her husband other than you and me) this problem will get it solved soon..
My sincere advise is not to involve yourself in this issue, this is better for both of you.
Have a good day.
