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Help my daughter is leaving me. Update 2
By suegt31
@suegt31 (165)
Australia
February 9, 2009 2:21am CST
Thanks to you all again for your wonderful support. My Uncle pasted last week after a brief illness. I contacted my daughter and she came home last Thursday, for the funeral on Friday. Today is Monday and she is heading back to her boyfriends. It's been so good to have her here. Now she's leaving again, and i'm feeling all the same hurt and pain again. Is it going to be like this everytime, i have to say goodbye to her? I don't know how many times i can continue to keep going. Mylot is the best site i have found, all you people out their, giving me your support is more helpful than i can say. Sharing my problems with you, is much more help than you will ever know. I do thank god for mylot.
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5 responses
@tewiawi (63)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
What you're feeling is normal simply because that's how much you do love your daughter. But we have to learn to accept that our baby have grown into an independent responsible person. The only thing we can do is to support them and let them feel that you're always be there for them no matter what. They may be far away from us but it doesn't mean they have forgotten their parents. Parents will always be loved as the parents love their children. =)
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@katsalot1 (1618)
•
9 Feb 09
Somebody said something to me a long time ago, before I had my daughter, which I thought was very wise. They said that the best that you can do for your children is to raise them as best you can to enable them to be independant. Sounds to me as though you may have done that. All you can do now is to make it clear to your daughter that she has a home to come back to if she needs it.
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@carolscash (9492)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Be thankful that she came to stay with you for a few days. Do you get along with the boyfriend? if so,invite them to your house some time and if not, then just let her know that she can come home at anytime and visit. She doesn't live far enough away that she can't visit often and that you can visit her. I bet she is home before long anyway as I am sure this guy is not a permanent fixture in her life.
@suegt31 (165)
• Australia
12 Feb 09
I am more than thankful for this time with her. Just having to say goodbye all over again is so hard. I really don't know when i will see her again. Your right i can visit her, but this is also very difficult considering we only have one car and my partner works 6 days a week. Thanks for your comments i really like getting everyones views on this subject.
@chance2691 (566)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Oh, God says you're very much welcome. =)
It doesn't have to be that way everytime. It's all in the mind. When you start to think that she's old enough to be by herself and she's independent-minded enough to be called a responsible adult, you'll start feeling okay. Seventeen's too early, yes--but we have to go on with it.
And, as long as you see her periodically, it's all right and you don't have to worry about a thing. Us daughters know that when we get into trouble, mom's there to hear us out. So if something s*itty happens, you'll know. You'll just know.
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@allentcl82 (590)
• Singapore
10 Feb 09
Why not think of it this way... although your daughter is young, she wanted freedom, and to be treated like an adult.. all people learn through live experience, and i understand your care and concern as a mother.. But people do learn through the hard way.. Give her what she wants.. when she learns how tough is outside life or learn a hard lesson, she will know who is best to her..
Of course, im not asking you to stop contacting her.. =P
