May be I am not good enough.......are you?

I am not of an opinion that you should look at it from the point of view that you are not good enough. The thing here in mylot is that a lot of users here relate to simple light ,easy to understand discussions. After all the purpose of many is too look at it from adding a number next to the star and earn from it. There are only a few regular mylotters who do it for the sake of interaction and add so much to the subject or take it off on a tangent for the purpose of making the discussion interesting. So if you look at it from that perspective, the persons responding like i'm doing here may not make the response intersting enough for you to say something different. The subject may be a simple thing like ringing back or sleeping, But if I just reply and say that i would ring back and i like to sleep as well, there is nothing more that you may be able to add to it. On the other hand if i try to add some humor or maybe even some slight playful sarcasm, it gets you responding in a different way. Then the thread carries on and makes the interaction interesting. See Now i'm making this sound as a lecture. Guess i need to chill out and get myself going. You could try eating some chocolates as well and the same thing may look very interesting as well Mimpi.

I haven't been on Mylot that long. But I have found your discussions to be very good. But I hear you about having to comment when you don't feel the discussion warrants it or not. You keep up the good work, and keep the discussions coming, so I have something to reply to.

mimpi,i have been on mylot for more than 2years and sometimes when i do go back and look at the discussions i have started,i feel so stupid.lol.but my friends donot hesitate at all ,to respond to my discussions.

The problem lies in the way you frame your discussions, not with the topics you choose. When you frame your discussions in such a way that they demands essentially a mindless YES or NO as an answer, you obviously don't like to read through the responses because you know beforehand what they all boil down to - YES or NO. Taking up an example, one of your recent discussions reads "I love sleeping...do you?" Now, how could an average mylotter likely respond to it? You know the obvious answer - either with a YES, or with a NO. Of course they won't come up with a one-word answer because (if) they are your friends, they don't want you to feel left out or being taken lightly. The flip side of it is they know short answers earn them peanuts on myLot. So, what they do is add a few extra paragraphs explaining/reasoning/justifying their 'Yes' or 'No' - the details of which are, more often than not, anything but interesting. OUTCOME: Lack of variety in responses, and therefore the discussion turns out to be less juicy and bores you off ultimately. My tip to you is this: Try making your discussion questions open-ended, as often as possible. Rather than asking, "Would you have Coffee or Tea?" - ask them, "What would you like to have?" Nobody loves the former, not even your guests - imagine which question you'd like being thrown at you on a date. The answers could vary anywhere from cow-dung to cappuccino - but variety is what spices up a discussion, making it stand out. People hate boundaries, just let them free. You get my point! Good luck.

Hi dear well my dear friend i am not differnt, its hard for me to start a discussion and whenever i start i very rare get more and good responses But U dont worry and just keep on doing as i know ur discussion are good and they get response Take care

I dont think so that you are not, because you just now started one good discussion which is i dont think so any one have early discussed here. so beleve in yourself you can get success right in your hand. And please keep responding and start new toppics also

It sure isn't easy to keep coming up with new and interesting ways to reinvent discussions mimpi, but we owe it to ourselves to always try! You of all people have the inherent creativity to be able to do it too; and have proven this over and ovr again. So stop this nonsense talk and keep on doing what you're doing!

Hi sweetie, I know how you feel sometimes but I think we just need to take a break from a discussion that we started from time to time if we feel we're being monotonous in our comments - go check out your friends discussions, go check out new users discussions, or those with no responses at all - I do find some gems in checking out a wide variety of discussions and often find inspiration in others discussions :) x

If you think you are not good enough, then what can I say about myself. lol.

Hey Mimpi You have started quite a few interesting discussions lately. But not me. I guess I have not been competent enough to start interesting discussions not you. But then I have been so distracted elsewhere that I have been just happy responding to discussions and not thought of starting any new ones!

mimpi, you are talking about a friend of mine! I don't take kindly to people talking about my friends that way, so just stop that. Sometimes, we run out of ideas. Just don't think so hard about it. You have seen my discussions, yes? Most of them are about as silly as a discussion can get. I am not a writer, so writing ideas often come from something someone says during another conversation, or when I am talking to someone on IM. Just don't worry about it, something will come to you. In the mean time, respond to others' discussions and read, read, read. I am sure you will come up with something interesting.

Hi mimpz! You have plenty of interesting discussions and that's why you always get a good number of responses, I think. I'm the one who can't come up with interesting ones, that's why I rarely start a new one and just enjoying responding to some friends discussions and to others.

You certainly are good enough; you have an interesting discussion right here! alokn99 said it all with his response. It is a matter of revealing a different part of yourself with each response, you can respond with a different take and as alokn99 said it can start a new chain of interesting responses to an otherwise dull topic. I have felt a bit hopeless when I raised several discussions that only received 1 or 2 responses, can't do much about it. Please don't say you are not good enough because that is not true. I think it is hard to predict what people will find interesting sometimes. I write articles that I publish on different sites and there have been times when I have written a piece I thought was fantastic and it didn't generate many views whereas another I may not have thought was as good received heaps of views. Go figure!

well its not necessary to start new discussion that generate interesting responses , i m also feeling the same things but whichever i find good , i start as a discussion. I also got boread by giving monotonous response again and again.I m choosy about selecting discussion and i dont like some discussion but i dont wana hurt anybody by point out that. I m not here to fight with nebody. Happy InterstingLotting!

Hi mimpi dear! I guess, being here for a long time now, I have seen so many discussions that were a repeat of so many discussions and those discussions that have one liner question really makes me wonder, what next? I guess, most of the time I respond because of courtesy to friends in my list. However, there are also some discussions that talks about day to day living which really is enjoyable to participate in since it is just like friends talking about anything under the sun to just make a conversation with each other. I do admit also that I am guilty of not creating good discussions that can ignite interest and spark the imagination of the reader. So, I better just keep quiet! lol.. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith

I'm with you on this one, mimipi. I love responding to discussions because to be honest...I am lousy at starting new ones. Every now and then something inspires me to start one but I am just not good at it. I feel that I can't really fault some of these that are at least trying...they are doing better than me. The two you mentioned were at least a step up from...what do you like on your pizza or what is your favorite color type of thing.

Hello THere! How are you? Well, honestly, I don't create any new discussions because I can't think of a topic that really interests me or a topic that I could share right now but I don't feel that I am not good enough. I am good enough because even if i can't create my own discussions, I still manage to participate by responding to some discussions here in mylot. That is really something, right? Don't feel upset or feel like you are not good enough. Maybe it is not yet your time to create lots of discussions like you do before but you are good enough for still staying here in mylot and sharing your opinions to others. Try to relax and give yourself a pat in the back. Thank you for discussions. Happy Mylotting and Have a great day! Cheers!

Same here. Sort of.LOL I just look for other discussions that I have not seen before or something that I could give my opinion to. If the issues are the same, the discussion may have had different set of questions that I get to respond in different perspectives so even when the topic is just the same, I could still give a different kind of response compared to the previous one. I do agree with you that when it seems like there are not enough interesting discussions to respond to, its best to take the initiative and make one that will interest other people. Maybe those other members who respond to your discussion could just be like you who were looking for interesting discussions to respond to. So its kinda like a win-win situation for all of the myLot community. I have noticed however that in the myLot Digest, there seems to be a variety of topics that made it. That kinda tells me that most people in here really do not respond to the same discussion again, at least not on the same day. So that gives a leeway for the other topics to be exposed and recognized for having an interesting topic.^_^

Believe that you do, believe that your topics are interesting. Start with that. All else will follow...........

I don't think so. It is not a problem if you monotonous to respond some topic. For me that's not a big problem if our response is appear from our heart.So don't give up for this trouble. Keep smile and become more confidence.