...Where do my heart belong???To my boyfriend?Or to my boyfriend's brother???

Yeah that happens! But you have to learn to control your heart. You know what is the naughtiest thing in the world? The answer is our heart. Naughtier than a monkey. There are monkeys dancing in our heart and let ourselves dance with him. Don't dance with him, instead learn to chase him away! Hope you understand what I meant. Analyze your condition, the attraction to his brother can only be a crush because of his appearance. Are you ready to loose your boyfriend to get him? If no? then its too straight...CHASE THE MONKEY RIGHT AWAY. Don't feel bad that you have such feelings. Its natural, see it in a natural way not in deeper way.... BEST OF LUCK...

I had quite such a similar experience. I had a bf before in which when I met his older brother, I was incredibly attracted to. My bf at the time had straight very light brown hair and green eyes, a killer smile and just cute. When I met his brother, he had extremely dark wavy hair and light blue eyes and is extremely sexy. My bf did notice that and was extremely jealous. My bf at the time was my bestfriend before we were a couple. And he always had this feeling inside him that I was too good for him and I might find someone better and just leave him. He knew the guy I was dating previous to him and was utterly gorgeous. What happened was that if his brother was around us, he always made sure that we weren't just alone. We would both be quite flirty with each other. He would get angry at his brother and set him aside. But that never stopped. We never really did anything more than friendly banter and flirtation. At some point though, my bf and I had this huge fight and we had a break from each other. His brother took advantage of that and we went out on a date. I did realize that I did love my bf and I was just quite infatuated with his brother. Though it would be quite strange to actually be dating his brother. After that one date, we both knew where we stood and just remained as friends. I told my bf what happened and of course got angry with his brother again. His brother just decided to leave and go back to England returning to his studies. Well his holiday visiting his brother was over as well. He did have 2 more weeks left, but just decided against it. I think the idea was quite exciting to be with him, some sort of silly fantasy. But the actuality was that it wasn't as fascinating and exciting as it was in my mind as it was in actuality. It made me realize on how strong my feelings were with my bf and he is quite thankful on that end, but still despises the other parts of it and how it came upon to my knowledge. Infatuation is at times quite stronger than love, infatuation can be tricky and can be your worst enemy. I think you do love your bf and infatuated with his brother. Since you do know your bf quite well and with your posting, you only describe his brother in the physical sense, now that's infatuation honey, not love. Love goes deeper than physical attributes. Good luck!

Certainly a dilhema, perhaps you see in your crush what you love about your boyfriend. If I were you, I would consider it just as that or reconsider where you commit your heart. I feel for you as this must be very trying. Ask yourself if you are with the right one? Know for sure and the reasons for your choice. I have been faced with a similar situation in the past. For me, I had to continually remind myself what it was about my boyfriend that has my heart crazy for him. Knowing, reassuring that I wouldn't change that for the world, regardless of handsome others. Regardless of who you are with in a relationship, there is sure to come more times than one where you see another who your find equally attractive if not more. There is nothing wrong with that but is human nature. Just remember what it is about your boyfriend that you love so very much. This should help ease your confusion. I am not sure what your question here today is but I hope that this word of advice is found to be helpful for you.

What you are experiencing is as old as mankind. We always want what we can't have. You have your boyfriend and have become very familiar with him. So some of that first excitement has slowed. Now you meet his brother. Because there is a lot of similarity between them you are attracted to the brother. But that attraction is born out of not having him. He is there...you feel great when you see him.....but you can't have him so it make hims seem even better than he really is. What you had better do is decide what you really want. Consider what you would do if that brother decided he was attracted to you and came after you. Now you have a boyfriend who you seem to love but also someone else that you find irresistible. You are headed for trouble. Your boyfriend no doubt will be very hurt if he found out how you feel. Makes not difference that you may love him...for you to think of his brother the way you do would hurt him. Make up your mind who you want and move that way. If you don't you may end up with neither one.

Hello There! Well, the only person who can answer that is YOU. You should know your real feelings with your boyfriend and his brother. It is not right to feel something special with him... I mean, having a crush or infatuation is fine because you just appreciate his physical aspect and crush is like an infatuation that will go away as time goes by. If you feel something special with his brother then you don't have a "crush" on him, it could be a deeper feelings which is you know... not right since you are already with a relationship. So better if you think it over before you fall with his brother because you will both hurt yourself and him... It may also cause some arguments or fights with his own brother just because of you which is not good. Hope you sort things out. Anyways, thank you for the discussion! Happy Mylotting and Have a great day ahead! Cheers!

Hi there. I think that you just love yr bf. Yup, you had a crush for his brother but it's the past and you still want his brother to be jealous of you two guys is that you never had his bro as your lover. Ppl aways feel desire for things that they can't get. Think about the life you had with yr bf before you found out that bro thing. And just suppose if yr bf hasn't been bro of the man you had a crush for. I bet that you'd never feel this confused. Just let that man go since yr bf loves you that much and vice versa. Don't be so greed as to want them both. Ok, I used to have a problem choosing the corlor when I am buying clothes and I would buy both. But then I find it's really meaningless to wear the same clothes just in two different colors. That's silly, lol. How about you just choosing one of them and I think that one should be your bf. As you said destiny played with you, I would rather say that destiny has done you a favor coz he brought the bf to you, not yr crush, haha. So it's him, how simple.

I don't think you love either of them. Otherwise you wouldn't be pining for the other. I'd say in both situations it's just lust and you need to move on and forget them both. I don't mean to sound harsh, but if you're only lusting after both of them, you'll never have a successful relationship with either one.

..well, I will still say that is normal since we are humans and we have feelings.. we admire and appreciate things which are pleasing to our eyes.. however, in your case, I would suggest that you better concentrate on your boyfriend.. Don't let your feelings to his brother reign over you because you will be hurting your brother.. Be very careful of what you do because those are brothers and you may be the cause of their misunderstanding once your bf discover what you feel.. You are the one incharge of your life because God gave you the opportunity to choose.. nobody will tell you what to do because only you can decide for yourself.. we may give you advice or opinions but definitely, you are the one who is going to decide on that matter.. As for me, as I've said already, it is very much better if you concentrate your attention to your boyfriend.. Remember, crush and being inlove are two different things.. if you think you are inlove to both of them, then you have to chose whom you really want to be.. As you've said, you love your bf and I believe you.. What you feel to his brother is maybe, a deep attraction.. better get away from it before its too late..

hai gurl... if i am giving you an advice i think you need a rest...give yourself a break..and make a way that u cant see them both...test yourself who you really miss...who you really want to be with...i think what you felt to the brother of your boyfriend is just admiring him...because as what you said he is so handsome... well i think that's all...i am just giving you an advice...its up to you if you will follow my advice or not...God bless!!!