How to deal with favoritism
By annalapse
@annalapse (31)
Philippines
February 10, 2009 12:16am CST
I have three kids. Sometimes it is hard for us parents to avoid favoritism.Especially when grandma and grandpa are involved. We live in a compound with my in-laws.Sometimes there are certain occassions that my inlaws shows who is their favorite among grandchildren especially during christmas. I always pray my kids wont notice it. Thank God they didn't notice it last christmas. As a mothers, i am preparing my self for the day that one of my kids especially my eldest because she's 6 already, would ask me why their cousin got a gift from grandma/grandpa and they got none. How will you answer them? Personally i dont mind if they have favoritism as long as they dont show it when my kids are around because i dont want them to feel neglected or rejected. My husband and i make sure that our love and attention is equally divided to our three kids. Whenever we buy toys or treat them out alone for one kid , we make sure we will buy something for the other kids. How will you deal with favoritism?
2 responses
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
10 Feb 09
its truly hard to avoid favoritism specially with grandparents around..many people says that parents are here to discipline childrens and grandparents plays the role of the spoiler, whatever the parents can't give to their childrens,it was the grandparents who provide for it specially those materials stuff they like...i myself experienced favoritism in are family, my mother always plays favorite..unfortunately i wasn't one of her fave and i feel bad about it esp during my childhood days but i understand her now and i knew that it was always an issue in every family specially for big families like ours..with regards to my 3 kids now i learned my lesson not to play favorites coz i knew the feeling of not being one,i'll give them equal love and understanding no matter who is good,better and best among them.
@rirbry (353)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 09
Favoritism is some kind of disease i guess but maybe we should look back at the favorite kids first, maybe they were very unlucky because sometimes people will give more too the less people or unfortunate people but if those kids background is as same as we are, i think what you do is just being nice to other kids too because your kids will know that they had a nice parents =0 and she just their grandmother what important is their parents right =0
