dreams over family?

it will be difficult for the members of your family to understand that you are spending late nights outside of home because, of those extracurricular activities at school. parents will always see the hours needed to be spent in school then, the starting hours for classes and the last hours that you have to be in school, too, are noted. thus on a spectific hour you are expected to be home, judith. although i had been a very active student myself, moreso during my college years, i can still understand why parents worry over their children coming in too late from school. the way life goes these days, they are so worrisome. this happened to me too, when my kids were still attending school. if they are late in coming home, i worry if something or anything undersirable has happened to them. there is a need for you to communicate with your parents, judith. explain to them what is eating up your time. they need to know why you are out there. as for them to be worrying, erase that by making simple calls, short ones will do. no, texting will not pacify them. you have to call first. text messages may be the option for further messages after a call was done. always remember to treat your parents with love and respect.

Parents (most of them) have this slogan on there forehead .."Grow up and start earning!!" I don't believe this.. of course they have some dreams of their own that they want their Children to make it true for them. I am not saying that parents are selfish. It is just that they are under such pressure and so tired that they can only think of that their child should have better life than ours and double the money than they have.Yes in this way or that way they want what best for us. So that we may live happily ever after.. but they forget to figure what does exactly make us happy. Earning more and more money, getting the worlds handsome and rich groom(or bride), Big mansions and ... and what.. nothing else is more important to waste our time on!! My father never really cared about whether I have good friends around me or not, he never took pain to know about them, and so am not allowed to go out with any of my friends.. so that I may not end up getting pregnant or something easy solution to it-do not allow the girl out at all. Home to college and college to home.. My bend is much more towards creativity and art. But careers in this field takes lot of struggle and still not many of them gets success. So easy solution- Do not listen to the girl and send her to do engineering and computer hons. I admit here that I was myself not very clear about my likes in career aspects. That's because no body ever cared about letting me out and know the about the world and opportunities out there. I was zero in common sense. This is what happens when some is locked inside and then told to choose one career for her. How can I do that unless and until I don't know anything about them. I can't read magazines. How do you choose to do things in your life, by knowing other's life.. getting out in world and finding out what your really want!!just like what Lord Buddha did... He had to get out of his castle to find out what he actually wanted to do in his life!! You cannot find things inside four walls. No I am doing very bad in my college studies. I do not want to continue in that course and I can't either. My priorities are more of work satisfaction than money I know life is not that easy to live in your fairy tales, but it doesn't mean that parents should crush them under their feet to acquire worldly possessions. I call dare to dream!! I find myself very lonely without a single friend around me, obviously because I was never around them!! I don't understand how can a mother(and father) get happy by marrying their only daughter to an unknown person. My mother still says that she will be the one who will find my groom and a bride for my brother.. I don't understand what satisfaction dose she get by doing that.

I think that you are on the right track. As long as it is not affecting your studies. I am sorry that your family does not support you in this. The student government involvement will help you later.

Hello there! It's but normal that a youngster like you is so idealistic in life, I've been there believe me. There's nothing wrong at it for as long as you know your priorities in life. I was also like you--very active in so many school activities and organizations but when I noticed my grades were falling down fast, I quit. They're affecting my studies--my number one priority then. Good luck, just manage your time well and know your priorities in life.

parents are always there to guide you, advise. well even at my age (28) my mom still advise me, admonish me on something wrong. it sucks honestly. i mean you cant decide on your own, you cant do things that you wanted to do. but instead of being repulsive, i took it as a challenge, i studied hard earned enough of their trust. still, not enough, i guess parents are just like that. so i decide to draw a thin line between being their child and being a man with aspirations. sad to say, i want to pursue my dreams, so i prioritize more on my career building.. filipinos tend to value close family ties which is totally conservative trait. its not that we have to disregard it, but times like this, especially during the height of recession. we should learn how to help ourselves before helping other people. giving up your dream because of family is just as lame as it could be...you should be striving hard for your dreams because of family...now that makes the difference.

Hello judith1123, Yes.. I truly agree with you. If you have the potential then enhance and use it. Actually you're good you are using it the right way. =) My parents are like that too, they always say "STUDY FIRST. STUDY" of course I do follow them, I cannot do anything because they pay all the fees and stuff at school. You can explain to your parents your side. Just relax and tell them that you can balance your activities and studies. You know, lower your pride and everything. Parents will always listen to their daughters/sons.

Personally I see nothing wrong with what you are doing or wanting to do as long as you are taking time for your studies as well. Personally what you are doing could really end up helping in the Long run for whatever career or goal you are wanting to do in life, and your family needs to be more open and understand this. Maybe you need to talk to them, and show them how important this is for you, and in time they will come to appreciate and understand this, and only want what is your Best interest as well.

Sometimes, sadly, the things that you want and need have to come first. You are doing very well in school, and you seem to have a lot going for you. I am sure that your family will forgive you for trying to have a future.

Only studying does not build career. Leadership is the most thing. Being the leader of students, oh that is the great great leadership. Keep it up! But side by side we should also go on good with our studies. Sometimes it happens that we get lot of work and unable to give time to our studies. What your parents meant is this thing. Parents are always worried, and we have to be happy in this. If our parents are not worried, then we should be sad that they don't care you.

I think you're on the right track judith1123 because it'll help you realize your potential..Don't give it up,give your dreams a chance but make sure it doesn't affect your studies..

I know how you feel. Since childhood, I always want to do things on my own. I want to do a lot of things but I cannot because of my parents. They do not allow me to go out with friends even if I know I could take care of myself. They did not give me the chance to attend summer lessons. Now, I really regret why I did not follow my heart. i am so busy with my work and no longer have time to do it. I wish I could turn back time and fight for the things I want to do so i would not feel bad about myself. I feel bad because I think I did not learn that much during my early days.

As long as its not effecting your studies or life and attitude towards others, I think you should be making the decisions for yourself. Guidance from parents is a great thing and sometimes needed no matter how old we are. I dont think you enrolled just to be involved in student activities. That wouldnt make sense and the fact that you are involved, shows a dedication to your school.Learning confidence and how to be a leader is a very positive attribute. Have your parents told you why they want you to back down from student council? Maybe you could ask why if your studies are good and staying out later isnt over tiring you or making mood swings. Maybe there is some other reason they are looking at that you dont see. Ask nicely for an explanation. If you can handle it all, then I dont see why not but I am not your parents and dont know why they think that way.