My ex used to think Valentine's Day was stupid. What about you?

There is no harm in celebrating any day of the year. You are right, we don't need anyone to tell us when to celebrate our love. But do we complain about celebrating Christmas or Thanksgiving? No, most people accept them and have a great day without any fuss. Yet they are the same laid down social holidays that we all agree to celebrate. Valentine's Day is no different. It is probably an excuse for the shops to sell things, but it is something wholesome, something positive, something that uplifts us. The key is not to worry about celebrating Valentine's day as a one off. The main thing is to make everyday a Valentine's one for you and your loved one. In that way, no one would be dictating when you show your love or how to show it. People who complain about celebrating anything nice forget a key thing about our world: we are validated by others. We relate to others to survive. When we selfishly just think of what we want, we rob someone else of a goodwill feeling by ignoring how they might feel about the issue. We take the joy from their world too. You sound a very giving person. Was your ex just taking in return? As you said, she didn't mind the rain forest, so she seems to be selective in what she will celebrate! Perhaps that is why she is now your ex! A relationship is about two people, not just one. It is about compromise, give and take, mutual agreement. When one person is dictating the issues, that is not conducive to harmony because it means the other person's feelings are always being ignored. It really doesn't matter about superficial celebrations like Valentine's Day. The key is whether we love our partners enough to treat them really special at other times too. Whether we merely notice what they give, while all we do is take. I wish you a great Valentine's Day, whatever you do, and hope it is simply magical!

Most holidays have turned into the dollar amount of what is spent. Instead of being what they were truly meant for when they were created. My self, I believe that with all the stress on families right now is hard. Probably trying to figure out ways to earn more, spend less, get that mortaged paid, not realizing that the family just miss them as a person. I believe these were originally made to remind us to look around us to see what we truly have, what we are working so hard for, and even with disagreements, worked out and have more. Its a time to take a break and say hey I appreciate YOU. Doesn't mean we have to spend X amount of money, just showing that hey we hear you, we appreciate you etc, makes a difference. Helps bring on more strength to keep going. Make a new day a better day. Bobbi

For some people they thing by getting the jewelry or flowers that it will make up for the neglect through out the year. I am with your ex. Why should you have to wait until Feb 14th to show me that you love me? Either you do or yoo don't Either I can feel it or I can't.I don't like flowers because to me they are symbols of an fake apology or fake token of love.If a guy brings home flowers to me, all I can think of is what is he not sorry for? What did he do that he wishes I will never find out about?I don't like diamonda and chocolate is okay but I could never finish those boxes of candy. so what is there my love could give me for Valentine's Day? I know but it is hard. How about some of his time? It seems like valentine's day is needed for some as a reminder to say I love you to their partners. That is sad to have a day set aside just for that.

lol im the one who always think that Val's day doesnt mean nothing. but not with my man lol, coz eventhough we're not celebrating it but he used to give me something on that day. whether its a chocholate bar or just a chocholate milk hahah. but yes, he used to give me something lol but not me to him. coz for me, everyday can be a val's day. coz we can show our love everyday to our loved ones, thats the best thing. val's day is just a regular day for me lol

hmmm.what ur ex thinks is right....proposing to a guy/girl doesnt need a spl day...everyday is spl if they are in love ....i totally agree with ur ex

I think that Valentines Day is a good way to remind couples that are having troubles that you can do something special for your loved one. Couples that aren't having troubles should treat the day like any other day because you should allready be treating each other special.

There is no harm in celebrating any day of the year. You are right, we don't need anyone to tell us when to celebrate our love. But do we complain about celebrating Christmas or Thanksgiving? No, most people accept them and have a great day without any fuss. Yet they are the same laid down social holidays that we all agree to celebrate. Valentine's Day is no different. It is probably an excuse for the shops to sell things, but it is something wholesome, something positive, something that uplifts us. The key is not to worry about celebrating Valentine's day as a one off. The main thing is to make everyday a Valentine's one for you and your loved one. In that way, no one would be dictating when you show your love or how to show it. People who complain about celebrating anything nice forget a key thing about our world: we are validated by others. We relate to others to survive. When we selfishly just think of what we want, we rob someone else of a goodwill feeling by ignoring how they might feel about the issue. We take the joy from their world too. You sound a very giving person. Is your girlfriend just taking in return? As you said, she didn't mind the rain forest, so she seems to be selective in what she will celebrate! A relationship is about two people, not just one. It is about compromise, give and take, mutual agreement. When one person is dictating the issues, that is not conducive to harmony because it means the other person's feelings are always being ignored. It really doesn't matter about superficial celebrations like Valentine's Day. The key is whether we love our partners enough to treat them really special at other times too. Whether we merely notice what they give, while all we do is take. I wish you a great Valentine's Day, whatever you do, and hope it is simply magical!

I will not get to spend Valentine's day with my wife this year. She has to work that morning, and I have to work that evening, so I will likely not even see her at all. I will probably take her out the eat on Sunday or something, but we usually don't do anything really big anyway, so I guess it doesn't really matter. I will say that most people spend WAY too much money on Valentine's day, just like they do at Christmas...

I do agree that love doesn't just get celebrated on one day, or it doesn't need to be. However I do like the little cute things that are in the stores, not to say I'd buy them, but not to say I wouldn't either. Love comes from the heart, and so does creativity and gifts.

I think that valentines is just another way of getting money out of us! You can show someone you love them every day of the year!

That's individual differrences, it's her opinion anyway, no one will get affected of that except maybe for her loved ones who are expecting special attention from her or special thoughts of even valentine greetings. Anyway if not recognizing or celebrating valentine's day would be an advantage to her productivity or advancement, that's fine. Only that others would not consider Valentine's Day a stupid one but a sweet special day for lovers, families, friends and neighbors instead.

well i would like to know is is it important that you buy some thing for valentines days to show how much you love her? why is it needed to buy all such things when she loves you and you love her i think its enough, people are just getting stupid in name of valentine day

Really? I can't believe it. This is some sort of thing only in theory. Maybe this is why she became your ex. haha.

If you give her a million bucks for Valentine's Day each year, she will think differently. I mean, what for give the money to others? Might as well give it to your beloved.

I have to agree with your ex on that one. I love Valentines, but I believe Valentines Day or not you should express love to the person that you love every day. I remember someone telling me, let your Valentines be every day and not just on February 14. I agree.

I think its a good day if you have a partner. If you don't it can get kinda depressing.

Although I am not a fan of celebrating valentine's day with lovers only, I don't find it stupid, either. Only that, people regard valentine's day as a very significant day for lovers when it is not. For me, valentine's day is celebrated to commemorate the martyrdom of St. Valentine where he was executed for secretly marrying lovers during the reign of Claudius "the cruel" of Rome. So we have to remember this day as a great sacrifice for a saint out of love for others and not solely for lovers. We can express our love anytime of the year to our love one and not make valentine's day as an excuse. I always believe that valentine's day is not only for lovers but for people we hold dear to our hearts, it doesn't matter if we have gifts or none.

I kind of agree with her, its a hallmark day, nothing else. Its unusual for a girl to think about Valentine day this way because, they nearly always buy into it.

Ingeuity of the mind, let her surprise!

Valentines Day is a day that I think one should look around and be humbled by all the people whom he/she shares love with, whether that is a lover, family member, or friend. I think people loose sight of the meaning of the holiday and think more about "what am I going to get or him/her" instead of enjoying the love.