The hard times. Stay? Or go?
By Aydinito26
@Aydinito26 (8)
United States
February 10, 2009 11:17pm CST
My fiancé and I are very young. We are only 18 but we have a son and have been together for almost 3 years . The problem is that he works over night and I go to collage in the evenings. So we only get to see each other maybe an hour a day. I understand that he gets stressed out, but he always takes it out on me by yelling or saying really mean stuff. Every time he apologizes but that doesn't always make up for it. So should I stick it out and wait for everything gets easier or stop dealing with it and leave? Anyone have advise?
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3 responses
@okoyskabo (186)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
in life, there is no perfect relationship or perfect love. if your situation happens to me, i would just give our relationship time until every thing clears out. you are both still very young. you are going through so much. as much as possible if it is worth holding on, hang on, for the sake of your son. as long as you can feel that there is still that strong feeling of love, hold on. let your fiance understand that every time he is stressed, you are hurt. better yet, you both see a psychologist. just be patient. for the meantime, concentrate on your studies. good luck.
@Aydinito26 (8)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Thank you for the response. some times I just need an outside opinion on things by someone who knows absolutly nothing about me or him.
@okoyskabo (186)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
i hope things will work out fine for the two of you considering you are not emotionally very, very stable because you both are still young. please don't forget to pray also and ask God for guidance.
@AliciaLiu (61)
• China
12 Feb 09
yea,life is hard especially for the young ages.I am a little older than you and i think you are so great.Coz you are able to bear so many things,that's incredible for me.In my opinion,ur fiance still love you and he yelled to u just because he loves u and ur kid so much that he doesn't know how to make you happy. So he gets stressed out.If i were you,i would stick to it.Coz u've been through hard time...so why not hold on? Try to talk to him...you need to talk ..
God bless you ,good luck!!
@srganesh (6340)
• India
11 Feb 09
It is very early to have a son for you.Both of you are still in teens and you are not expected to have the mental maturity by this time.But you guys are looking responsible to have a son and managing the situation but only with some stress.Please have some time to sit face to face and discuss how you feel towards each other.That will relieve more problems and the love between will cure the rest.Get him too into parenting and he will know your tough task and he will empathize with you.Sure,hard times will go by itself.Cheers!
