Do you think it is possible not to have friends in mylot?

Zandi! It is quite stunning and amazing to me that there is a member on a social net working site, i.e. mylot, who can make do without friends. Like you, I also fail to understand her 'philosphy' of life. I fully buy your argument that without friends, our discussions are doomed and we can not get sufficient number of responses, without the contribution of our dear friends. It is actually a two way traffic, if we keep participating in our friends' discussion, they keep reciprocating us, as and when they find time to respond. I remember, when I started here, I had no friends. I would send request to many, but more than 2/3rd were rejected. Few senior members added me but out of them very few would participate in my discussions. I would get very few responses to my discussions which made me feel very dejected and disappointed. Thereafer, in one of the discussions, I read that more number of friends would help me fetch more number of responses. I started adding more members in my list of friends and started participating in their discussions, wherever and whenever I could. Consequently, some of them also started supporting me in my discussions regularly and thereafer I never looked back. As on date I keep receiving requests for add and accept the request if the profile of the member appeals me. On the other hand, even today, if I find a member's post interesting and thought provoking, I do not mind sending her/him a request for add. Friends are very important on mylot and without some serious and active friends, we just cannot survive here. I keep interacting with my friends and in the process I learn a lot from them and widen my sphere of knowledge and exerience. For me, my friends here are my more than my friends, philosphers and guides. You being one of them. An Excellent Post!

I had one friend here when I joined and that was the one that invited me to join. Now dont think I have invited any to be my friend but I do have many for they asked me!. I didnt think I was anti social. I was being very lerry. still am as I still when someone request me to be friends I still go to thier profile see what they post about and if any of my friends are on their list of friends. sometimes I try them out any how just to see. every onre I have accepted have turned out to be good friends and then some are very dear friends!

I think she can make it work for her here. There are other ways to find discussions. Maybe she is afraid to run into privacy issues or something.

the whole point of mylotting is to make friends.i think that gives some amount of motivation,mylotting becomes lively only when friends give their inputs,you cannot live thr life without friends especially mylotting without friends is not possible.

Of Course I do agree fully with you zandi.....Without friends a person's tenure in mylot will definitely have an unnatural and abrupt ending.It is in fact our set of friends who respond to our discussions,make them interesting,give us their ratings,and boost us to start new discussions and comment to theirs. But about this friend of yours,I guess its not right to jump to any conclusions about her.Perhaps she is new to this site and may have joined this site for the sake of making some easy money,as most of us did at the time of joining......she may not have understood the nuances of mylot where making and maintaining friendship is the very basis of mylotting.Perhaps she must be under the false notion that making friends is a waste of time and will keep her away from discussions,and thus hinder her earnings.......Perhaps she needs some guidance and advise,Zandi?

I think you are right without friend how are going to survive especially in this world but there are some who are more preferred lonely we just can't help. She much happier to live life lonely, what to do? Happy Mylotting.

First I must say that I find people online and off are exactly the same. I feel it is impossible to keep up a charade online for long. Therefore if a person has no friends online, and in particular here on myLot, then I guess that is the case offline too. MyLot is like one big family and I personally find it impossible not to become involved in the discussions and the users' problems and other users' ways of thinking on those problems. What I read inspires me to be drawn towards some users and these then become friends. I could not just sit back and read the discussions and remain completely passive especially after being here for so long. Just like offline I have many friends here and some are closer than others sharing more intimate things that happen in our lives. I just could not be here and not make friends as that would involve putting up some kind of barries and there would be no point in being here in the first place, at least for me. I am drawn towards some even when they first join and almost immediately after they start taking part. I would worry about a user like the one you describe but I doubt I could help in any way as sadly, just like offline, those people think they are happy the way they are and don't realise what they are missing.

i enjoy all the friends i have made at mylot[ well , let me say most of them,lol.] i can't imagine anyone who is like the lady u are talking about being on mylot to start with. wonder what she gets out of it?to each his own, i guess.

she has the point zandi since mylot is open discussion.my porpose of adding a friend here is sometimes you can send a private message or to updated the discussions and i love to leave apic comments i enjoy that much too.thats my point.and what i have in my list are very nice to me.some not but i need to clean it soon if i have time.

Hi zandi! I just don't understand how you can participate in mylot and not have any friends! That is the whole purpose to me of being here! I have met so many wonderful people and made some great friends that I speak to every day both on here and off the Lot as well! There are people here that I have grown very close to and can't imagine not having them in my life! So I can't imagine not having friendships here. It just wouldn't make any sense!

This just makes me sad, maybe she has heard some of the bad experiences others have had with friends/ Did you send her a message?

I have to wonder what has happened in a persons life that they would be so closed off. Even myself, with the issues I deal with and live with daily know in my heart that I would not be where I am today in healing if not for friends both Offline and On line. I wont say that I welcome friends with open arms or go out of my way to bring them to me but I do enjoy when someone thinks enough of me to want to be my friend. What you say is so true my dear friend. To be in a social network is for the purpose of being "Social." If not, what purpose does it serve you or anyone else. I wonder again what takes a person so far out of connection that they feel THEY have something to say or share but do not wish for the same to be reciprocted. What a lonely place to be. Perhaps one, this person will realize that friends are not there just because you need them nor they need you. They are there because they choose to be and because Socializing is what makes everything in the world function. Without it, there is simply You...

Hi Zandi! I couldn't agree more. We're born into this world as a member of a family. Over time we lose them, we get married and have kids, who ultimately leave us too, to have their own lives and families. Throughtout life, we meet people who even for a fleeting moment share a common spirit with us and become our friends. Our lives are so enriched by the family of friends that we make for ourselves, whether they are our neighbors or online. Someday when my time comes to move on, I would rather leave a roomful of friends who wonder where I went, than to exit from an empty room and not be missed.

Hi, zandi458. i just come to Mylot this week, and i do believe it will help me find some friends to enrich our life. so i think the loner you've met must be a very particular case. that is a question, if she has no intention of developing any friendship, why did she come?

Wow!! Someone who is active in here and does not want Friends? That is quite unusual for sure, and I wonder then why are they in here? Personally I enjoy my time in here, and Love to meet and interact with others from all over the world. I have met many wonderful people and find it a pleasure to be here as well.

I guess that girl doesn't belong here. In the first place, why is she here if she doesn't want anyone? How can she earn more if she will have no friends to support her discussions. . .Ah, okey, maybe she just loves to read the discussion and doesn't want to earn. . . Maybe.

Well, none of my friends on here, are actually considered friends, in a way they are just a collection of faces because I don't actually talk to them. I don't mean to sound anti-social, but it is the truth. I am not lonely on here, I get to respond to others and interact with them, without having any obligations to them. She is probably the same way as myself in that aspect. Not all people need to have friends here, all people are different and they enjoy things in different ways. Just because you think you could not exist here happily does not mean she can't, nor I for the matter.

yes, you are right.At myLot here, nobody cares about people like us to respond, if we are lonely. People are mostly responding to discussions they or their friends belong. And we have to wait for days or months to get a single response.

I am treasuring the friends that I have made on Mylot. I started last October and have met so many wonderful people. We do need friends and the friendship can become close and wonderful. You get to know the character of the person and it is also important to respond to as many friends as you can. I have to admit that I did post one discussion that was not answered by anyone. But that happened early in Mylot but it was embarrassing. Some people like to respond to their friends and not post very often but others do both. If a person has posted 5 or 6 discussions in one day I find that to be intimidating. So I choose to answer just one or two of their posts. Some posts are technical and I do not have the expertise to answer those kind! I would regard myself as a very social and outgoing person and like to make friends of all ages.

Well i have only one thing to say... I wish my friends could have a conversation like I see here on myLot. I wish they could say more smart stuff, like many ppl do here. So to answer your question, nah, impossible :D