troubled friend, need help

So be it, befriend the monster i mean the ex Gf. What would you lose if you befriended her? And besides if she trusts her bf, then there is nothing to worry about.

Well I guess she should be seriously talking to her BF about how she feels about it. I guess there is nothing wrong if the Ex girl is befriending her but still if she feels that she is uncomfortable with the situation then might as well find a middle ground about everything. If her BF stays defiant that is already a sign that he may be more of a controlling man than an understanding man and maybe doesn't deserved to be love by your friend. I guess in a loving relationship there should always be a give and take relationship. It should not be always one party is in control about how things are done. There should always be a middle ground that should be considered in every issues that arise.

I understand not wanting to be friends with her.. But I may at least try to make a casual shallow friendship, so my bf knew I was not rejecting befriending her because I did not trust him... That is how I would respond to it. - DNatureofDTrain

Well,if the friendship is just friendship,then it is nothing wrong to have friendship with a friend of a friend.But if the relationship is concerned with love,then possessiveness must be there and that boyfriend should say good bye to his ex girl friend and remain loyal to the current girl.If not,his reliability is at doubt and the friendship shall be better broken.You can't have the cake and eat it too.Cheers!

This sparks a memory of my Grandmother. She would say, keep your friends close, butt keep your enemies closer. This may fit here. Thing is who knows it could turn out to be something good. You can try and talk with this person or not and find out later it was loss. If you try at least you gave it a try and the bf can also see that you have tried. The thing is I would make some boundraies because of the common ground, to avoid conflict and games being played. I hope things work out. Bobbi