Division of love and affection

I treated my children pretty much the same and still do. They each got equal attention but if one needed more than the other, they got it. They understood that sometimes one was needier than the other so got the attention, hugs or other things they needed. When the other was needier, same thing.

i am a mother of three, sukumar. so, i can very easily share with you my actual ezperience as to how i felt when one came after the other. when i was pregnant with my first child, i was so ecstattic. i kept on imagining what will the child look like when out. she turned out to be a daughter and i love her so much even before i could see her face. the second pregnancy came. i was apprehensive. he is so close to the first one. now, when he was out, i have discovered that a mother very easily shares the love that was showered on the eldest child with the second child. the third pregnancy came. there was no reason for me to be looking forward to his birth day. however, the would be sister and brother were the very excited ones. the youngest child, a boy, came to be the most loved of all. his sister and brother never cared if i love the youngest enough or so much more. they just simply adored the cute little brother. for me then, sukumar, there can be no favorites among my children. i love them equally as much. i can never feel any less love for anyone of them, neither can i give any more love for anyone of them. this is because, i have poured all of my love for each one of them. a mother is capable of doing this, then i believe that a father is just as equally capable of this, my friend.

I have heard that so many people have favorites in their children..I think it is a bad thing to show onw child more love & affection than another..I have always tried to treat my children equal..

i think i can't be partial in love for both my children, i have never been partial and i love both of them equally. Elder one ios daughter and the younger one is son, both give me hugs and kisses when they wake up in the morning and i miss both equally if sometimes they are not near.

Hi sukumar794! I can only talk about how my parents cared for us. My parents have told me and my two brothers that they are trying their best to give all their love and affection to the three of us and they are doing their best to be fair. But they say that there are times that it may not seem that way because each one of us is unique and different from each other and that we all have different needs. My brothers and I grew up very close and we all knew that we were all our parent's favorites. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith

If i must tell you something that i have realised,it is better not to have a favorite child as this usually result in a lot of conflict and confusion among kids,its better to love them the same way my dad loved me more of all his kids though am not the first but he never showed it to all of us ,it is better to make all thge kids know you truly love them and that they are your kids no matter what and also let them know you will always be there for them no matter what

You don't divide love, there's enough for all of them. I find I am closer to my eldest child but that is because she was the only one for 6 years. I don't love any of my girls more than the other. I asked one of them if they thought I had a favourite when they were younger and they said it depended which one was behaving best.

Actually, not only to our siblings but it also do apply to our life network. I will determine the common interest between me and to every of my sibling. Because being human being, we are in different type of life's interest. No need for me to search for big example to discern myself in this issue, just take food type as for an example. Different people do like different type of food. Not yet for other things. Great sharing of common interests will naturally lessen or vanish the marginal consideration among our connecting people. So, what is the common interests?. It is all about the sharing of give and take value in any pragmatic way towards the two (2) life's key to success factor; help and necessity.

I found as I was raising my two beautiful daughters that I did not love one more than the other, but I did love them differently because they were so different. Your first born is special just because she is first, but the second daughter is is special because she is so strong and like her grandfather. And which ever needs you the most at that moment is the one that you dote on the most right then, or whoever is sick gets all the attention for awhile. But that does not mean you love one or the other more it just means you are a good Mother.

I don't have problem with regards to division of love and affection with my siblings. I have always loved them equally and have given them attention and enough help that they need from me.

Hi sukumar! As a parent it is our obligation to love and take care of our children. We should be aware that each of them are individuals with a distinct personality and the love and affection we show them varies for each one of them depending upon the need or situation they are into. Frequent communication with them may opened up avenues of understanding and considerations on the degree of love and affection each of them receive by us parents so that there be no sibling rivalry that will exist between them. By doing this they will gain their own self esteem and love for one another. Moreso, as parents we should treat our children equally and reserve their right for love and affection coming from us.