Mom is on top of things (NOT)
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85146)
Shingle Springs, California
February 11, 2009 11:28am CST
This morning I was very proud of myself. I had Cary put his homework and his valentines in his backpack, made sure Dearra had her flower report and saw that Naomi had brought her valentine box. Then about halfway to school Naomi says, "Mom, I think I forgot my valentines." "That's impossible, I saw you carry the box into the car." "Well I have the box but I think the valentines are still at home." "You think? Or you know?" "I know they're at home. I don't have them." Grumble grumble grumble. "Ok, where are they?" "They're on the hooks or on the floor underneath them." (We have hooks on the wall by the entry from the garage so they can hang their backpacks up.) Cary says, "Naomi you have no valentines." Naomi says, "Mom will bring them." Now if it were lunch, I'd just tell her to order a hot lunch. Never mind if she doesn't like what they're serving. If it were homework, I might go get it. But heck, this is a once a year even. Like Dearra said to me, "push over." So 10 minutes after I drop the twins off, I'm back at the school with the valentines. Would you have gone and gotten them?
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Yep, I probably would have. They can't be the only child in the class not handing out their valentine's. And thanks for starting this, you've reminded me that I need to get my twins working on making out their valentine's this evening. Their party is on Friday. I've been so out of it this week!
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Feb 09
For the Valentines, yes I would have. She would have been embarrassed I'll bet to 'receive' and not be able to give. Now if it had been homework I would have said "YOU explain it to your teacher why you don't have your homework". It's hard to choose sometimes which lessons need to be taught when, to our kids......
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
12 Feb 09
Remember the old excuse "The dog ate my homework"? Now it's, "My computer crashed...." LOL
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Feb 09
I am sure if this would have been me, I would have gone and got them, as I would not have wanted my daughter to be upset all day since she had none to give out, and then she would be mad at me as well, and I would feel guilty. So it sounds like even though you might not have wanted to do this, you did a Good thing and your daughter is Happy so that is what counts the most for sure.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Feb 09
well I certainly would have preferred her remembering them in the first place, but yeah I wasn't going to let her go to the party without them!
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Yes, I would have done the same thing. I know that it can sometimes be a battle to get them to remember to take stuff with them. However, I think that in a case like this you have to do what is in their best interest and take the stuff to them. I know that she would not want to be the only one that didn't have them there. you aren't a pushover, you are just a mom who does what she wants too.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Feb 09
Poor kid would be very unhappy about showing up without them!
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Yes, I would have done the same thing. I think it's just one of those small jobs of being mom. We take care of those things our children overlook. I think it's great though that you have hooks for them when they come in. I've seen this done on many home-improvement shows and it seems like a good idea. Mine are just 2 and 6 months in my current marriage, so I'm far from needing it at the moment, but my four older ones from my first marriage always seemed to these issues in school. Something was always left on the kitchen table.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Feb 09
yeah it's a slow process but most of them figure it out by the time they are 40 or so... 
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Feb 09
Which does NOT mean that the backpacks always end up being hung on the hooks. lol
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
12 Feb 09
LOL. Of course not, what is mom for? My two year old has bins in his room, and we're still working on putting his stuff back into the bins. I think I've done so many up-downs I should be toned by now!
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@MommaAtHome (21)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Awww...I would have done the same thing. I don't think that makes us push-overs...we care about our kids and want them to be happy. We can't have them be the only ones in class without them, right? I have 3 boys in 3 different schools (elementary, middle and high) ranging from 3 blocks away to 5 miles away and I've made MANY trips for things forgotten. We're loving moms! :-)
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@MommaAtHome (21)
• United States
11 Feb 09
There are some things I'll say no to, too. My 16 year old has forgotten his cell phone at home, I won't run that to him. My 13 year old wanted me to bring him his other sneakers because he wasn't sure he liked the ones he was wearing with the outfit he had on...this I wouldn't do either. If it's something they absolutely need or something that's going to cause them embarrassment by not having it, I will make the run. The Valentines I would definitely bring, can't have a little sad face sitting in class.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Feb 09
I draw the line at frivolous things too!
Valentines aren't quite frivolous though.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
11 Feb 09
But of course I would have.
This is a special day for little ones with the candy and trading of cards etc.
Glad she got her cards after all.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Feb 09
Yes miss social butterfly would have been quite beside herself if she hadn't gotten her valentines to hand out. Couldn't let that happen!
@rjuliet (14)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I would have gone and gotten them. It's in your job description as a mother. To an adult, valentines may seem a small thing, but its like if you were going to a wedding and forgot to take the wedding gift, surely you would go back home to get it. Likewise, if you had forgotten a presentation packet needed for your job you would back track and go home so that your presentation would go smoothly. To your daughter,the valentines are just as important as the wedding gift. They both represent something to share on a special day.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Feb 09
In my job description! I like that. Yes they were very important to her!
@Remembering1996 (2219)
• United States
11 Feb 09
wow sounds like things got hectic for you there. yes I do think I would have brought them to my son if it was him that it happend to. That's a special time for the kids and i wouldn't want him to feel left out. It's nice you did you made your child happy.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Feb 09
I hope she was happy. Didn't get to see her face. :-)
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
Congrats and i do not think its a push over..its what we call LOVE, you love your kids that is why you would do even small things for them, things that would make them happy and even things that would risk our lives just for them.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Feb 09
True but I guess the point is there are things I would not have gone back for even if it would make her happy because I also need to teach the child responsibility.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
11 Feb 09
yes I too would have gone back for the valentines. If it were you - you would have been so embarrassed not to have had them with you at school. You were right to have gone back and helped her out of this situation. Many things that other mothers called spoiling - well - I called it mothering. Blessings
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Feb 09
Hm, but there may be a little payback. Naomi, eat your vegetables! lol
@Jae2619 (1483)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Yes for something like that I would have. Not only because it's important to my child, I wouldn't want him to feel left out, or everyone in his class be mad at him because he didn't bring any. Kids can be cruel when it comes to things like that. My son has a boy in his class, and this boy is very under privilaged when it comes to bringing extras to school, My son come home one day and informed me that some of the kids were making fun of this boy, it broke my heart so when it comes times for parties and stuff at school, I make sure i send extra things for this little boy to be able to hand out, and not have to be made fun of. So going back to get them, even though it threw your day off, you saved them the embarassment it might have caused.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Feb 09
No big deal, it only lost me 10 minutes. But we do have to work on Naomi and forgetting things...
@TnWoman (1895)
• United States
11 Feb 09
hello dawnald
awww, that was sweet of you to go back home like that this morning and get the valentine's day things that your children had left at home and then take them to the school. if my boys would do something like that, i would go back home and bring back whatever that it was that they left at home for them. i have done that several different times this year with them leaving their homework at home or one of their books even. both of my boys will be having their valentine's day party at school on this coming Friday. i think that the eight year old is lots more excited about the school parties than the ten year old is. my eight year old will exchange valentine's day cards and he is also having an ice cream party in his room. and the ten year old with exchange valentine's day cards as well in his class room and i do not know what else that his teacher has planned for the party.
take care and have a beautiful afternoon.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Feb 09
Naomi is exactly eight and the social butterfly. These valentines were important to her!!!
