Is it Cheating or Not???
By debfeaster
@debfeaster (184)
United States
February 11, 2009 1:20pm CST
Ok...I have 2 friends...one male and one female. They are both married but are extremely attracted to eachother. I have recently found out things about their relationship that would constitute cheating in my head but they don't feel that way. I am very confused by this.
So what constitutes cheating in your mind? Where would you draw the line?
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4 responses
@strawberrychocodahi (4817)
• Philippines
19 Feb 09
Whatever they claim or say that it is not cheating, well for me it is cheating and they are being deceived. If you are married or in a relationship, would you mind your partner or spouse be mingling and befriending other women. Don't you think that you must know your spouse better than just mingling around with others.
I'm sorry but from my own personal point of view, these friends of yours are going to be trap on their so called playing small fires. We do know that opposites attract, and that's why we need to be on guard specially our heart's motives and all.
These two friends of yours commits the same thing even if we say that they are not having physical contact yet, but hey, what is that, are they just trying to push each other to the edge, they don't know they will still fall. What would their husband/ wife feel. What if the same thing will happen if their partners do this to them too. What is morality nowadays?
@debfeaster (184)
• United States
19 Feb 09
I so agree...it is cheating. They have crossed the line a few times but they claim as long as the actual big action doesn't happen it is all good. I just can't comprehend that. I could never even get close to crossing the line or doing anything that would hurt my boyfriend.
Now the two of them are getting together with 2 other friends this weekend and want me and my boyfriend to come along and to be frank I just don't want to be part of it anymore. I so believe they will also cross the line this weekend and I feel if I am witness to that I am also part of the problem. God knows I wouldn't want their husband/wife to find out I was around and knew all this if it ever comes to call. So I guess I am choosing to remove myself from their company at this point.
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
17 Feb 09
If the relationship between a man and woman goes beyond the normal friendship level it is cheating. That would be true if even only one were married. If they actually prefer each others company over their spouses then it is cheating.
Cheating does not have to mean they go to bed. It's what is in their heart that makes it so. Often it is very easy to justify what we want and convince ourselves there really isn't anything wrong. If it looks wrong then it probably is.
The line comes when you find yourself more attracted to someone other than your spouse.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
14 Feb 09
I'd say anything which one part of a couple does without the knowledge of the other.
@lorraine27 (271)
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14 Feb 09
i would say anything you would not want youe wife or husband to fine out about. if your scared then you know you have done worng even if at the time you felt it was ok. and would you be ok if the one you love did the same thing behide your back?
we are not talking about meeting an old friend for coffee but be carefully feeling of friendship dont turn into lust. plus i always tell my husband if i am meeting up with a male friend, not becouse i have to but becouse i want to. and would like him to do the same.however if you was in a reationship that was going nowear and you are sure, sure then end it befour you start a new one with someone elas
