should you take back the things you have given to your EX?

I think it would depend on what it is. If it is something like a real expensive engagement ring and wedding is called off, then that should be returned. But other smaller things, no. Why would you want them anyway, it would only remind you of that person and I would hope that you would not give it to the next person whom you have a relationship with (that's tacky and unimaginative). When you give a present, you give it and that's it no taking back. Most of the time when people take stuff back it's only because they have been hurt by the person they are breaking up with and in essence take the stuff back because they want to hurt that person back as they have been hurt. It's a childish game and in the end it's does not make things better because that person is still hurting whether they have the material things or not.

I don't think that it is right to take back the things that you have given away. I would never ask to have the things back that I have given to my ex-boyfriends not even if it was something really expensive. I received a diamond necklace from my ex-boyfriend, and when we broke up I asked him if he wanted it back, and he said no and said that I could sell it if I wanted to. I don't intend to wear it now that is for sure, so I want to sell it. I would have given it back to him if he wanted it, but he insisted that I keep it, so I don't feel bad about selling it.

hmmm I did not know that its possible because if you are engaged or more of gfs/bfs then things can be taken back but for small valuables then I guess it should not be.. What for anyway?

i am not a guy and no it does not depend what it is. you gave that to her it is now hers.just because you are on bad terms now does not make it ok to take the things that were given to her when you were on good terms.think about it and be fair.

It is very harsh to end up a relation like that.At least you enjoyed your relationship with those gifts on those days and it shall not be taken back.If you are taking it back,then your relationship was measured on material than emotional.That is the way I feel about this.

I don't think you should take back the thing because they are now worthless. Not in monetary value maybe but in sentimental value. Why try to hold on to the past? It could also cause problems in future relationships. If a new girlfriend or boyfriend found it and asked who it was from and other personal details, it wouldnt be a pretty picture. So my answer is no

I think it depends on the situation. If you return the gifts and the person who gave it insists that you keep I think it is ok to keep it especially if it is useful e.g cellphone. Otherwise if it still reminds you of that person and that person doesn't want it back then you can just sell it on e-bay.

Anything you give to your partner when you're together is a gift so they have every right to keep it. I don't think it's ever right to ask for gifts back. In your friend's situation unless she has something that is his that he did not actually give her then he should drop it. It would really make him look like a jerk to ask for gifts back. But quite often when relationships end people choose to give back any gifts because they don't want those things around to remind them of the other person, so he may very well end up with them.

I would try to give back anything my boyfriend gave me. Whether he wanted it or not, I would not want suveniors from a failed relationship. To throw them away would be vindictive. I would just give it back and let them do what they want with it. I would also not ask for anything back. It is a present I gave them and they have every right to keep it. I'm not sure why I would give some back, but wouldn't want to receive anything back. I guess its a little contradictory, but thats how I feel. I think it also matters how the split went, if they will hate eachother forver they should give everything to eachother back because they have no need for it. If it was a friendly break up I see no problem with keeping the items as a reminder of past good times.