I feel as if my kindness is being taken as a weakness nowadays

I was like you and in many ways I still am. What I've come to realize is it is unhealthy for you not to say anything because there will be those who will take advantage of you, just because they can. Unfortunately everyone doesn't exercise the restraint necessary not to offend you. If you are finding it hard to say anything outright, try writing a note to the aforementioned party. If this doesn't get your message across at least it will start some type of dialect that will enable you to get your point across. Or if you say nothing eventually someone is going to feel your wrath when you blow up, and it may be the wrong person! I still feel this way sometime but nowadays I am more likely to speak up and let em know. I got tired of people taking advantage of my kindness. Just some advice from someone who has been there before!

I don't like being bullied and I don't like to bully others. Being kind is a wonderful thing and bullies sometimes mistake that for weakness. Cheers!!

hi younglovex...i know what you're talking about. i was always shy in high school and i still don't like to argue as an adult. that still is a good thing even in this cruel world. i have a sister who really walks all over me. she likes to take many things i say and turn it into an argument. i just don't say anything. it's hard but it'll only make things worse. you can't fight fire with fire. some people would say stand up for yourself but arguing can bring out hurtful things that you can't take back. my sister is in the wrong and i don't want to be like her. she's not my hero. she thinks she's so very smart when she can find fault with what i say. the people who act like that have serious issues inside of them. it may sound passive but many times the best thing to do is endure. you're not alone in your suffering. it is sadly a common thing in daily life for many people. i've often been told to stand up to people but i've tried it a few times and it doesn't solve anything. it only made things harder for me. you stay the person that you are. you are the better person by not being like them. i'm sorry you have to suffer at the hand of angry idiots. and they are idiots when they get their kicks and power trip off of mistreating others. but you hang in there and be the mature one of the situation. best wishes, grace & peace, kathy

That was a really bad thing for someone to do, I wonder why he would throw it out and then tell you he threw it out, like he wanted to show that he has some power over you to trump on you and your things. Small acts of kindness are getting more rare these days, he could have kept it and gave it to you when he told you he threw it out. I guess you have some work to do tonight, that really sucks, but I suppose you learned to be a little louder from this experience. Though I am similar to you in the fact that I am also shy and soft spoken, I am breaking away from that though.