why is it so hard

We cannot be in good mood whenever there is some dissatisfaction or may be fear in our heart. Sometimes we get in bad mood, and if we go to the central reason, it can be due to dissatisfaction or fear. Then whatever, even we try to be happy and be in fresh mood, these two factors pulls us right to the same mood. In this case what I do is, just let the things happen as it is. Life is not only enjoy and enjoy. We got to cry too, then why not cry a little, let no one see me, let know one know, but i would cry a little in a room because crying is the nature of life. And one day again, this dissatisfaction and fear will go little by little then I would laugh with everyone again...

When you're worried or fearful about something, it's almost impossible to focus on something else. No matter how hard you try, your subconscious will keep bringing you back to that issue. What helps me is that every morning and every evening, I write a list of things that I'm grateful for. Some days it's really difficult to think of anything but start with things around you. I'm grateful for the blankets that keep me warm. I'm grateful that I have a bed to sleep in. If you really have a problem with it, think of all of the things that you have that so many others in this world don't have. When I realize all that I have to be grateful for, it's really difficult for me not to keep my problems in perspective. Another thing that I say out loud every morning is something great is going to happen today and I can't wait to see what it is (no my own original thought I have to say). Because I'm looking for it something does. Sometimes it's huge and other times it's as simple as a beautiful bird flying into the yard. Life is way too short to spend it not appreciating the beauty and wonder that is all around you.

If your mind gets stuck in a rut that's bringing your spirits down, you need to get busy working hard at something to pep yourself up and take your mind off of it. It's easy to get depressed in February. When I start feeling down I like to go out in the kitchen and make cookies or take a trip to visit my grandkids. Taking a whirlpool bath works wonders, too.

Everything is so hard until you think "how hard can it be?" to be happy. I do not mind the difficulties. I just plow on like an ox and don't pay no mind to my mood. Moods are tricky and I do not trust them to run my life. Cheers!!!

Its not the brain its the emotions. These are very hard to control. In fact, they're always trying to control you. I know what you mean I go through it too and basically the only way to handle this is to control your thoughts and that's not easy. Think happy thoughts and see how this works with you. But do it for a length of time each time.

One good thing to do is to write things down.Write everything down on a bit of paper about how you felt ,how you feel now,and what it did to you anybody involved write them a seperate letter ,write it all down ,then throw it away in the bin or shred it,sound silly but it does help you get over things even things that happened a long time ago.You will never want to have anybody else read what you have written so make sure you rip it up or shred it like I said before,It does work it is like clearing out your mind of the bad bits and dumping them so you can move on,it does work as I did that after my first marriage went wrong and that is what I did,cleared my head after a couple of times and I was happy again.Also try to talk to someone a friend or whatever. There is another thing I keep really busy listnen to music ,do this rest your mind from your troubles and they will go away,take care.xx

i found it was hard for me because of racing thought, learning to block events from my brain was hard to learn to do, knowing when we should worry about things, is often hard. but one thing learning to do is letting go things from our pass and moving on

You dont want to think about the subject but your mind goes to it because the subject had a big impact on you, the subject is important to you, and it doesnt mean you like the subject its just that it's significant. What you could try is to actively stop your mind from going back to the subject. First of all take a DEEP BREATH, it really helps, just concentrate, 2 or 3 breaths is usually enough. Then start by accepting whatever it is that is bugging you, try giving it explanation, try thinking what positive about the subject there is, and tell yourslef that its happened and thats it, there is nothing to change it. Try to think of people who are in a worse situation than yours, I know it is a little bit selfish and even mean, but it helps. Try to think of something very positive that happened in your life, something that makes you feel proud. If it doesnt help, tell yourslef: STOP THINKING ABOUT IT. Best of Luck