What can I do if I love one who always have boyfriends?
By rudolf1982
@rudolf1982 (41)
China
February 11, 2009 8:46pm CST
These days I meet a girl.She is five years younger than I am. At first we only discuss some topic and our point always similar. than more topic we discuss,she regard me as her brother and so am I.After a while I find when I saw she close another man include her boyfriend,I ofter feel sad.So see maybe I love her. She always find this.Once she ask me If I love her? I say yes.and she say nothing.we also touch like before.I care her like my sister all time.these day she said to me don't so kindness to her,and she afraid she will fond of me.she say she has boyfriend and this will hit him.But she don't reject my care after that,what can I do continue do what I want or give up?
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
Well for now I can see that you can commit but the girl is not yet ready to do so. For me, if you see that she is not giving up her current relationship with her BF I guess you are on the losing side and might as well give up and move on. But if you can see that the girl is doing something to stop her relationship with her BF then you have a good fighting chance. For me as long as she has not made vows with the BF there is always a good chance but as to when I cannot say and assure to you your hopes and dreams for her.
@rudolf1982 (41)
• China
12 Feb 09
thanks for your response.May be I will give her time.Now she has not made vows with the current BF,and these days she said to me she feel her is tired of his BF sometime.I don't know what I will say only tell her to forgive his BF.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
Well as for me just support her in her problems if I were you you don't need to advice her something that would also hurt you in the long run. Advising her to forgive is a good deed but then it will not be advantageous on your part. Might as well let her decide on those things and allow her to think things over for her happiness.
@rudolf1982 (41)
• China
12 Feb 09
Now I think just continue act her bother is better.Give her time to think.thanks a lot rsa101
@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
You have a very strange girl right there. Is she happy with her boyfriend? If she is, and you want her to be happy as she is right now, then in my opinion, you should leave her alone. I know you care for her and you want to "test the waters" to see if she would reciprocate your feelings (which she somewhat does) but that's actually messing up with somebody else's relationship.
I know she's a nice girl, which is why you like her but she probably can't think straight for herself right now because you're confusing her. What about trying to leave her alone for a while, if she comes looking for you then ask her what she wants to do with her life - if she'll keep on putting you on the side or if she'll go with you instead. That should clear things up.
Thanks for the response on my discussion!
