Parents complain to children,is that right?

I think it is very bad for parents to do this, I think parents owe it to their children to give them the nicest, happiest life possible and any problems they have with each other they should work that out between themselves.

hi yunzhige, As a young parent myself, I think it is not so good for you to talk ills of my parents. This would breed that kind of behavior in them and when they grow older and have children of their own, you might find them doing the same thing to you.

Hi yunzhige! I do think that if the children are matured already, parents can talk to them what is in their hearts and in some point can discuss their complaints about their parents too. I think that in some cases, we as children can act as peacemakers and in some case, we better be just listen and keep quiet. My mother never tells us any complaints about her parents and her siblings but my father does. He tells me of his complaints but I always tell him not to mind them since they are old enough to know what is wring from right. I always tell him not be so much affected since it is their life not his and that he can't change them. He can only change himself and that he must not stress himself on things that is beyond his control. I am glad that my father listens for I really wish that he will just be happy somehow. take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith

In my understanding, parents should control not to complain in front of their children, so as to provide a positive integral image and impression to facilitate a positive influence to their children. But for adult children, complaints about spouse is sometimes a way to show care and love. For instance, father is not happy about mother eating the left overs. And mother is telling about father going to bed too late. These are quite often heard when adust children visit their parents. For these complaints, you just take it lightly, appreciating their concern, and maybe you can also set out cleaning the refrigerator taking away the left overs, and do something possible to persuade the father not to sleep too late.