Engagment ring etiquette do you follow the rules
By kayla_7602
@kayla_7602 (704)
Canada
February 12, 2009 10:03pm CST
OK so i heard that the proper engagement ring etiquette is for the man to spend at least 3 months income. To me i could not image spending this much money on 1 ring it seems insane. However many women actually get insulted if this much is not spent on the engagement ring.
Maybe if i had more money i would view it differently, but as for now we live month to month, and to expect 3 months income to spent on a ring is crazy. I think of all thing i could do with that much money if we did have it extra and all of them seem more appealing then being responsible for this much money on my finger.
Could you image if you lost a ring that cost 3 months worth of wages! I dont know what do you all think, would you be offended if someone didnt spend 3 months wages in your engagement ring? personally i would want something small...it would be meanigful becuase of what it represents not what it is actually worth.
But thats just we what do you all think of engagement ring etiquette?
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8 responses
@eagle_f15 (1827)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 09
I have not heard about this before as in the man spends at least 3 months income to get the ring. For my husband and me, our engagement ring was also our wedding ring and we went ring hunting at the mall together. Ours is just plain round platinum ring identical and the shop engraved our names and date on the inside on the ring. We exchange the ring on our engagement day and later on our wedding day we just took it off and my husband kept it in his coat pocket and then brought it out when the time came during our wedding ceremony for exchanging ring. We did not spend a lot on the two rings. With both of our salaries add together, it's about half of our salary but our relatives blessed us with some cash so in the end we did not pay that much for our ring. This will be the only ring that my husband and I will wear as we do not like jewelleries.
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@kayla_7602 (704)
• Canada
13 Feb 09
That sounds like me, i dont like jewery that much either. I dont want to loose it and then know it cost alot. I think that you dont have to spend alot...it is the meaning behind the rings what they symalize that is important.
@sunnyone1945 (14)
• United States
14 Feb 09
For me it has always been the thought that counted. And my input was always that the ring was to be small and not overly flashy. But I do think that it depends on both parties. if a man has his heart set on giving a ring that is over the top...fine and if the woman is set on a flashy ring, then that has to be taken into
consideration also. But, then this is only my opinion. Hugs...Signy
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
13 Feb 09
You have to remember, when that rules was written no one made the kind of money they make now and really high end stuff was out of reach for most folks. My hubby didn't spent 3 months salary on my ring and I would have never asked him to. That would be one gaudy ring if you dropped a lot of money on it.
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@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
14 Feb 09
personally I would never expect that from my fiance. The engagement ring that he gave me is something that I will always treasure. It may not be worth three wages but I know he worked very hard to get that for me.
My engagement ring is also very precious to me because it was the only thing that the robbers didn't see when we were held up before.
So there. It's never about the amount, it's about the thought and most importantly the love.
@miccant (154)
• United States
13 Feb 09
My husband didnt spend that much money on my ring. It is still a very beautiful ring and I would never want a different one. You could use that money to help with the honeymoon or something else. The last thing you want to do is go broke before you even start the marriage.
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@samma00 (342)
• Canada
13 Feb 09
I don't know why girls want such an expensive ring. I joke with my boyfriend and tell him when the day comes it better be a huge diamond. But that doesn't matter to me. As long as it fits on the right finger, and it came from the person I love it shouldn't matter what it cost.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Feb 09
My mother in law saw the ring that is on my finger now, and told us about it. I love the style of it and when my fiance asked if I liked it, I said yes. He didn't spend much money on it at all, but that doesn't matter. I think that it's the thought that counts and not the money spent on it. The three months salary thing may have been a thing of the past, but that doesn't mean it has to be carried out in the future where money is tight.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
13 Feb 09
I have never liked large, gaudy jewelry so, no, I wouldn't like an engagement ring with a huge rock in it. My husband picked out my ring himself and I don't know or care how much it cost. The fact that he did it and surprised me with a marriage proposal was the sweetest thing anyone has ever done. We found matching wedding bands that match the engagement ring so I'm happy. 
