Would you live with your S/O before you are married?

My hubby and I did the same thing. I believe that it is a good idea, you need to know what you are getting into before you take the final plunge. What if the is a horrible slob and you can't live with that? (That's just a silly example, but you get my drift). There are many things you can find out about someone while you live together and you need to know these things before you get married. I think you need to test the merchandise before you make a final purchase!!

Well I think as you said you feel it when he is the one. However I personally think that it is good that a couple lives together before marriage since they know each other better. But I think I will do it at least after 1 year of relationship since I don't like to rush things. We lived together 6 months before the wedding and it is good since I will know my bf night and day :)

I was living with my ex before we mried.I as living with my current husband for 9 years before we married. Personally, I think I made a mistake with both marriages. But I am trying my best.

I already am living with my s/o. If the situation was different then I would say no you shouldn't until your married. We had a kid though, another thing your not supposed to do until your married. If we didn't live together he wouldn't be able to see a lot of her because we would be 3hrs apart.

I'm currently not dating anyone, But if i was dating someone and I believed it was a LTR and/or he was possibly 'the one' I wouldn't have a problem living together at all. My aunt and her boyfriend have been living together for 17years I think they're engaged, but have no plans of getting married. (They're in their 60's btw) And they're perfectly happy. And honestly, I'm not sure if i even bleieve in marriage anymore. Haha

I always said I wouldn't live with my S/O without being married. Then one day a couple years back I woke up one morning, was drinking my coffee and rubbing my eyes, looked around and said "I live here, don't I?" We had spent so much time together by that point in our relationship that I really hadn't realized it was at the point where I spent more nights here than I did at my own house. We were married a couple months later and are still together so I guess it all worked out ok in the end!

My husband and i lived together prior to getting married. We were together about 3 months before we moved in together and have been together ever since. We got married about 2.5 years ago. Have been together almost 6 years.

lol Well at the end of your discussion it make clear that you have been together since grade 10. Most persons believe that it would be good to Shakin' It Up before marriage because then you will know some of the faults that each other have and try to mend it. The bible is against it though. On the other hand you have some men who after promising the lady that he will marry her will eventually not do it and still living with this lady for many years. I think that young people should think about marrying before going to live with each other first.

I don't see any harm if both want to stay with each other at their own will.In this way some more bonding will occur between two.And if they find themselves intolerable to each other after couple of months then they can move on.there is no need to divorce. Wish you a happy marriage life.

I think it's important to live with a person before you marry them. You don't know what they're like unless you've lived with them do you, and they might possess some annoying traits which would make you think twice about whether you would want to marry them or not. You need to know whether you're compatible before you do something as big as marry somebody.

No, I never, that's a horrible idea. I want a wedding first before living together. I grew up with a very strict and conservative family and we are a traditional Catholics who always regard live-in as a terrible thing. My father served as a Eucharistic minister in the Catholic church and watching one of his children to practice an unconventional behavior seems like a big slap to his face so I would never live to that idea. I have great respect to my family and our family name, so I have to get married in a proper process.

Hello Angel! I appreciate your feelings and your judgement of the situation. Whatever I am going to say is not going to mean that you are wrong and I am right. It is just difference of opinion. Being an Indian and growing up in a family where Moral Values are always given first priority, I would never move in with a girl before marriage. I feel that I am morally not justified in even touching her and all the girls would have this sense of insecurity, however much they might be in love with their boyfriends. Thanks

I think that people should definately live together before marriage. My hubby moved himself in after a month of us dating and his things got moved in within the next 3 months. We lived together for 3 years before getting married. We've now been married for 5 years. If you don't live with someone before then you could be completely dissatisfied with the way the live and by then, your married. Definately live together first!

You've got to try the mild before you buy the cow... It would really suck if you bought the cow and the milk was sour to your taste buds... My wife and I "officially" moved in together after dating for 4 months, but spent every night at her place or mine from about the 3rd date... We married a year and a half later... We had a "honeymoon" pregnancy... Our daughter Zoë just turned 9mos old and we're both stay at home parents. We are and have been around each other almost non-stop since we met. I was never like this about anyone before Chrystal... I figured if you're dating someone, you see them once every week or so... But, when you know it's right... it's right... Best of luck to you...

I am actually going to move in with my boyfriend...3 more weeks! I cannot wait, neither can he. We are in a long distance relationship so one of us needs to move, so I decided I would since I would have a better chance at finding a job in his area than in mine. So 3 more weeks and I get to be with him. I am 26 so my parents are okay with it, except dad since he hasn't met him just yet, we've been together for about 2 months..3 months when i make the move.

I would not live with my husband before marriage. It is not necessary to have s*xual relations to find out if you can get along. We loved the same sort of music, were both country and western fans (although I did love and still love classical as well)and come from the same backgrounds - our families were farm families who had moved to the cities, mine when my father was young, so I do not think that we have to see whether we make love the right time, whether he wants it two times a week, whether he wants it on top of the mattress, etc. to find out if we are able to get along. Our personalities match, so why should you prove yourself compatible by sleeping with each other? Besides there are things that can go wrong. If the man quit with the girl after they decided to have s*x, how would she feel and would she have an easier time getting a husband again? So better avoid playing house. It is safer and besides it is wrong to have s*x except with your spouse.

My fiance and I moved in with one another practically after the first date as well, and our engagement started after that as well, officially I will say it was a few months later, but we had talked about it. He is the one for me as well, but I moved in with him and not he with me, lol.

hmmm..i personally wouldn't wanna live with my man before i get married. why ? beside the religion reason, i dont think i can stand not to hold him or kiss him if he's near me lol so i'd rather keep a distance for a while n wait til the time is come to us. it doesn't feels right if i stay with "not yet" husband in the same house, specially it will hurt my parents and dissapoint them..so no, i wont do that.. im sorry about ur dad, but congratz for ur marriage =D

My husband and I lived together for 7 years before we married, (he was my ONE from 11 years old, he was 16, we got together on his 25 birthday). We had planned 3 previous wedding ceremonies but his pyscho ex caused to much grief so we cancelled and would reschedule. When we finally got pregnant with our youngest, we figured we better get married now or we never will, that was 4 years ago this past Dec. We didn't marry to have her born to married parents just figured we would use having a baby as another excuse to not get married thinking it would be to difficult/stressful so to speak. We are actually renewing our vows this Nov and having a honeymoon this time, so i guess having the girls wouldn't have stopped us as we are doing it all over again :-) I agree that you have to make sure you "know" about your partner before you take that big plunge. There could be huge differences that you just can't live with. In this day it is just more economical to live together, rent is expensive so it makes it somewhat of a incentive to cutting that cost somewhat. I have many friends that only dated a few months, then engaged another few lives together less then a year, married and divorced with 3 years of their marriage. They couldn't get along with the little things in day to day life. They were great dating and courting each other but the reality set in and they couldn't handle it.

It worked for you, you might have been lucky, I bet there are a bunch of people that would say the same happened and didn't work out.Sometimes, I believe it helps couples. Moving too early might make couples expectate more from each other, you might move with someone that is actually...how can I say...silly, stupid and cause a headache =D