Would you be mad if this happen to you?
By stephy_marie
@stephy_marie (28)
United States
7 responses
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
14 Feb 09
I can't say that I would be mad. My husband and I have been married for the past 14 years (and together for the past 17 years) and in all that time I've gotten maybe 2 Valentine's Day Gifts. Once during our first Valentine's Day together and the other one last year, but only because I joked around with him about how we never get anything for each other on Valentine's Day. I never actually expected him to get me something. 
With today being Valentine's Day I don't expect my husband to give me a gift. It isn't necessary in our relationship. 
Happy Valentine's Day!
With today being Valentine's Day I don't expect my husband to give me a gift. It isn't necessary in our relationship.
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@stephy_marie (28)
• United States
14 Feb 09
this is our first valentines together
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
14 Feb 09
At this point, I'm rather used to it. And someday, you will be too. It's a guy thing, and it happens, a lot!
Just be thankful you have someone to spend your Valentine's day with. And you know what, in a few years, you won't even care anymore. You'll actually come out and tell him not to bother getting you anything, because it's really not that special of a holiday anymore.
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@granite_butterfly (448)
• Canada
14 Feb 09
Maybe your new husband needs a gentle reminder of this day but at the very least you should let him know that you are hurt. I don't think you are being silly and if I were in the same situation, I would be hurt, too. Still, if you get blazing mad at your husband, you may find that he just forgot. It happens. You can still be the loving wife and create an evening of love and romance between you and your husband. Let him make it up with some cuddling or massage, perhaps? 
@vidhyagowri (1973)
• United States
14 Feb 09
well Stephy_marie, my husband is a absent minded professor. so I have to remind him everything like his own birthday, my birthday, our marriage anniversary and of course valentines day. He sometimes remember our kids' birthday Lol... your husband has not given you any gifts on valentine's day, that doesn't mean he doesn't like you or love you right. Be cheerful, and you buy something for him...have a great day
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
14 Feb 09
I can understand why you are upset. The first year we wr together, my husband didn't do anything for me. Granted, we were only dating at the time, but I was still hurt. Then, I found out that he feels tha Valentine's Day is just overrated and prefers to do things all year round to show his love for me, and when he does get me something special, he does not do it on Valentine's Day. This year, he went and got me a gift two or three weeks ago just because he wanted it to be really special for me.
Try not to let it bother you too much. I am sure he loves you, maybe he just doesn't realize that it is important to you.
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
14 Feb 09
It depends. You should talk to him about it, maybe? And explain to him that it upset you?
Some guys just DON'T like Valentines Day (or other likewise holidays) and think they're a waste of time & money. Maybe that's the case with your guy, too?
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@22angel22 (450)
• United States
16 Feb 09
First off, guys do forget these things. Second, it happens. Before my hubby I never received anything from a guy, for my b-day, christmas, v-day.. none of the holidays. So I do know how you feel.
Whats really the sucky part is when you've spend a large sum of money on them and they did nothing for you.
@sysdexlicwriter (1619)
• United States
21 Feb 09
I always kid my daughter that the best time to meet a man is the day before or the day of a holiday like Christmas or Valentines Day. I walked into a large grocery store the evening before Valentines Day this year (we live in a major college town) and I couldn't figure out why the place was packed with people. It became clear when I looked around the store. There were hundreds of disgusted men frantically searching the store for flowers, candy, etc. I wondered if I stood up on a check out stand and yelled "Valentine's Day has been canceled, you're off the hook and you can go home," if I would see them all rush for the door all at once. While it is always nice to be remembered, make it your priority to make the day special for your husband. If you want a gift, tell him ahead of time in a nice way that you would like him to get you something nice for Valentine's Day, you may also have to be specific as to what type of items like candy and what type of flower. Men like specifics and if you are straight forward. If you think he can read your mind, you have watched far too many romantic movies or read too many romance novels. Once they get used to the routine, you will find that it works quite well even after 30 years.
