Being happy and single....does this sound like an oxymoron?

Here! Here! I am with you! Happiness is a matter of perception. It is how you perceive things that determine what you think and that will create how you feel. For example you can view being single as lonely and sad (which is a lot of rubbish) or you can view it as being happy and free and yes, you can be loved and lovable regardless of whether you are part of a couple or on your own. I used to look for relationships to make me happy and it just did not work. I had to find what made my heart sing while I was single and by the time I fell in love I had so much more to offer as a whole person instead of half a couple. Hope you have a lovely day!

Happiness is a state of mind, is what i believe, which has so many influences on it. I do not believe that singles cannot be happy. Fo that matter couples too and a lot of them are unhappy. It all depends on what you want in life. If we feel that we are satisfied with the way things are presently, then what does it matter what others say. I would say , if it's by choice then live the life you want to.Only if it's by circumstances then does the question of could have and can be arise. Yes Mimpi.Thanks for the special message. Happy Valentines day to all.

I think that it definitely doesn’t sound that way. I know many wedded feeling shackled and yearn to be single and happy. And those happily wedded too are single persons who do have their singularity in most of the ways. Whatever said and done each and every individual is a single entity. And happy too in that particular context.

Hi mimpi dear! Personally, it does not sound oxymoron to me. Being happy and single does not contradict each other. I guess, maybe to some they will consider it oxymoron since some will associate singleness to be leading an unhappy life. However, being single can always be associated with happiness and that is of course will depend on one perceive her/his life. Happiness should always come from within and not depend on other people. We should be happy deep inside and if we're already happy inside, we can always share that happiness to other people and not necessarily to a partner/lover. For I do believe, being single, being married or committed to someone, or whatever state we are in, we can always be happy if we chose to. Count the blessings, not the pain and not what we don't have. This will make us happier in time. Just my thoughts. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith

Hello mimpi.....Thanks for the greetings....though I do not place much importance to this day.Why I never heard of it until a few years back,and does celebrating love on that specific day mean couple are loveless the rest fo the year.And being happy and single doesnt appear to be an oxymoron to me.Happiness depends on the attitude and requirement of each individual.Singles can be as happy as couples and vice versa as the definiton of happiness differs for different people.

HI Mimpi.... Hey thats really good,,, even i belive in what you say , its good to be single and happy ,i just want to know why do these couples celebrate 1 day of love,, does that mean that they are not happy other times ,and so they celebrate valentines day .. ha ha ha... Cheers

Sinle and Happy lolz.. that is me.. Some couple are frustrating because of valentines day because they have expectation if it doesnt meet them they become sad hahaha.. i think some of them take it for granted.. for the single one it is fine because those who wait will always get the best haha... i would suggest to make a good meal for myself happy valentine's day mimpi :) wink wink

And a belated Happy Valentine's Day to you too mimpi! "Single and happy" is only an oxymoron of it's applying to someone that is faking contentment at being single! lol. It all comes down to the individual, their goals in life and their state of mind. NOT having a partner in life at any given point in time is by no means a negative thing at all, so God knows why people seem to get so funny about it!

I am happy being single. I have got no problem in this status. Still at times society look at you in a weird manner when you are single.it is better to live the way we want.

Who says singles cannot be happy. Or those who are married are happy and have had a good Valentine's day. It is finally how one looks at things and accepts the situation they are in. I enjoyed myself on Valentines day......

Hhhmmm when it comes to valentines day, sometime it is, happiness or somehow sadness. a lot of expectations from your partner. and suddenly when they didn't met that expectation, they're celebration turn to quite to mess. but when you didn't expect anything and you receive special treatment, feeling id unexplainable and happiness attach. it was based on my experienced. Now i am single mom. as in single no bf. i can say that. i hate being single but i love being a mother of my cute daughter who become my inspiration

Hello mimpi! I agree with you simply because I believe, Life is a vocation and obviously, being single is a part of it. To whatever pathway each of us follows, it all depends on the individual and his/her vocation must not be a hindrance to his/her pursuit to happiness. Happy Valentine's Day my friend!

Not really. I value my individuality too much to want to be tethered to somebody else. Happy single awareness day, by the way!

why do we have this notion that being single is not a happy life? being happy is self made i mean there are married people i know who are not happy. I think being happy whether single or not is a choice you make. you make your own happiness so as to attract positive vibrations like people tend to get that side of you, they would appreciate you more and because of that aura you bring to your life, you tend to attract the good things. there are still reason to celebrate being single. Cheers to everyone!

I do believe people can be single and happy. I am glad that you are happy. Thats a good thing.

The expression "single and happy" really doesn't sound like an oxymoron to me. Yes, being in a relationship can certainly bring you a lot of happiness. But I also think that you can be single, and be just as happy, as those who are in relationship. Either way, I think you can still be happy.

I think you can be happy and single, I know I am! I think if you learn to take the world as it comes, and don't think 'I have to be in a relationship to be happy' then you can be perfectly happy being single! It's all about being happy with yourself! If you're at peace with yourself, then you can be at peace with the world!

SINGLE POWER! lol Yes, singles rock. It's not that we feel inadequate, but we can stand with OR without our wo/man, that's plainly it. Sometimes people look down on us in disgust when we are unattached. It's like UNATTACHED = UNDESIREABLE. I'm single, I'm not looking for a man to love. Today mom and I went on a shopping date. It's better than just moping around at home. Happy MyLotting!

It is no matter what you are singles or couples,you should be happy,so long as there is love in you heart.I am a single,be lonely too,but not be sad,I will recall somethings about my girlfriend,who has left me.

I believe being single or not that is not only life. The surest way of being happy is not to get into a relationship,but to build a life full of meaning and satisfaction .aS A BONUS, WHEN you get happy in your life you will effortlessly attract a great partner.Whether chosing to be a single or not in between the relationship you can built a terrificlife as a single person .So valentines is for everybody it is just not for couple but for everybody in this world