Do you know someone who is "favored"?

Ha ha ha ha ha... well, that would really depend on who that person who is favored is. I have never been a favored person before. So how does it feel to be one, I cannot described. But I have met with people who are favored. And worked with some of them before as well. How much I like that person will really depend on the character of the favored person. Some are very nice and just get on with it without rubbing it in your face. There are others who will pull a little weight around just to show you that they are the favored person. And they will rub it in your face whenever they can! Those are the ones that you really love to hate!

Hi Jen, As a middle child, I am not always favored by my parents. As I grow up, I have learned to accept it since i am not at all deprived from their love and affection. And my older sister, being the favorite, works to our advantage. You know, if we have somewhere to go, we just have my older sister ask my dad and boom! That's instant YES!!! Though I am not the favorite child, I may say that there are times that I became the favorite of some of my teachers. They said that i talk too much (LOL!) and never grew tired of stories to tell. Now as a parent, I am hands on to my twin daughters' school activities. Even as we enter the school premises,I feel that the twins are the favorites not only by their teachers, but by other teachers and students from some levels as well! They are the center of attention. I kind of see myself to them since they also speak to everyone, never shy in almost anything! And like me, they always have stories lined up to tell.

jen, u have struck on one of my pet peeves. i'll try not to rant too much. lolmy mother was partial to my oldest son & didn't make any secret of it to anyone not even my youngest son. i want go into details but will say she did not even mention my youngest in her will. i will never forgive her for it. i know you are suppose to forgive but it's just too much water under the bridge. you don't mistreat my children , i don't care who it is. noone should make an obvious favortism between your children, your grandchildren or whoever. it's a very mean thing to do. if you have those feelings keep them to yourself!! it causes a great hurt. shame on any of you that make a difference.

My grandmother is very traditional and favors the boys in our family. Her favorite son is the eldest among my uncles and even though he isn't great at all, she loves him best. She just turns a blind eye when he is wrong but when my mom is the one who does something a little bad, she gets scolded right away. Anyway, since I'm my mom's daughter, we're not favored at all.

Hi, well, at work place when i find someone from my team is favoured by the boss it makes feel little unrestful everytime i confront him. if the favour is only to money then i don't mind. but if it's something more than that i like giving him some authenticity at the work place is hard to tolerable for me...:(

hi JenInTN. I see it all the time with all the locals here in my place of work. Obviously I'm not a local, but it would seem they can just get away slacking off at work. For instance there's this lady in my group and my boss seems to favor her a lot despite her not being so, uhhhhmm productive at work so to speak. She always comes in late, and leaves work early, and she does not EVER work over time. Ohh and she always works in tandem with the boss, while I do things by myself. To top it all off, she's actually my senior (she is much older than I 'am) despite me training her when she joined the company. If she is not favored, I just don't know who is. Cheers.

Ya, I have known many who have been favored over me. I don't let it get to me. Often times, I favor them as well. It only bothers me when someone is fake and not deserving of the favoritism. Even at that...I just let it go figuring that the person or persons that favor him/her will figure it out. As for being favored...only a couple of times and a couple of times too many...i don't like it at all.It often creates a rivalry that I don't want and didn't ask for. Thankfully, I'm not usually the "chosen one".

Great discussion!!! JenInTN... Yes, I have seen many people that are favored very much favored.. And these are people that I know very well. It does make me feel bad to see that they get special attention over me. All my life, I have dealt with others being specially favored over me.. I don't get jealous, it just makes me feel left out, really bad.. But, I have learned to deal with it more maturely. I feel that favored people are favored because someone knows them better than they know me. Maybe they have more money than I do. Or it can be just the people that they know vs whom I know. It is sad that others see someone else more than they see me.. But, what can I say, that is how some people are.. I have been favored at times too.. Only if someone sees me as a more respectable person than they are.. I do not get as much attention as others, but to God and my family I am the most special person in the world..

There is not wrong in being favored but what is wrong how that flavored person behavior amongst his/her peers. Some of them will hype and cause others to be uncomfortable around them while others it is nothing of importance to them. At my former workplace I was flavored because I am a hardworker but that didn't mean that I flaunt it infront of the other managers. Instead I try to give them advice and how to improve their working skills. Some grumble but others were very willing to hear what I have to say. So as a flavored persons always try to show humility o.k. and your peers will always be happy in your presence.

yes i have favored.in my friendster account i always favored to send a nice cooments to my good friends.i have many but i dont send all.i am selecting or always have favor to visit their page and saying hi to them

I guess from others view point I was a favored person, but I just did my job and didn't seek anyone's favor. It made others unhappy and hateful to me. I finally left, but that also worked out, I got my profit share just before the company went out of business. I have always worked very hard at what ever my job was and pretty soon I get advanced. But I sure don't make many friends.

Favoring a section of people has become a political game these days. In India there are reservations based on caste and religion for admission to colleges, getting jobs and also getting promotions once in a job. Certain castes who had been suppressed for years have suddenly become the front runners in securing prime admissions, jobs and promotions even if they do not deserve it. We have to live with it day in and day out. A chap who was your inefficient subordinate suddenly becomes your boss just because he is of a lower caste and the vacancy is reserved for them.

As much as we try to be fair, we all have our preferences, especially when it comes to people ... the important thing is we be objective and impartial when it counts =)

Yes, all the time. It seems work just can't function without the favorites. Any type of company seems to have them. The pretty ones who can make any mistake and it's ok, no matter how many times they make it. But if anyone else makes the same mistake, they get written up, yelled at, and possibly fired. The first time. Sometimes I wonder if they have some sort of blackmail over the management, since they get away with so many things others are getting fired for right and left. It's very frustrating to do an exacting job, to try your hardest, and watch them take the credit as well.

yeah i know someone or i have a few cousin i favor, and i've been told that i am thier favoirte as well. think my dad favor me alittle more because my parnets can count on me more to help out then the rest. but it's nice to have someone favor you, make you feel cool

Hi there. I have been on both ends actually - being the one favored at times and experiencing how it is when someone else is favored. I guess it's an inevitable part of life since people in authority are still people who have preferences and such. I don't mind if a person is favored for justifiable reasons (e.g. doing good in his/her job). What makes me feel kind of annoyed is when someone favors a person for no identifiable reason at all.