Dependent people.

i really hate those kinds of people i remember when i was still studying and there are group projects and some of my groups are my friends and they would do nothing but when it is time to pass the project they expect their names to be included, they are just depending on others to work for them... really annoying. i grew up being an independent one, even at a very young age, i always look for myself, do everything myself... never really depended on anybody because there was none to depend to, i help my mom who raised us up as a single parent. those that you mentioned here, those guys that give in to their girlfriends, well, they probably are getting something in return, you know like they can go to bed with them everytime they want... its common now a days that gf/bf relationships includes having s-e-x too. i think its probably one reason why all their whims are given by their bfs. those that are dependent of others will find themselves in trouble someday when they can find nobody to depend on...

I am very independent and was raised to not expect a thing from anyone but to appreciate any and all help that I got along the way. I don't understand those types of people on either side. The ones who expect others to just pay their way in life are , in my opinion, were never taught to fend for themselves. Sadly, there may come a time when they have to and won't know how. It seems they were probably given everything without having to work for anything and they expect it. As for those that willingly give it...I really don't get that one at all. I have had boyfriends that mooch....they don't last long in my world. I had a husband that didn't work and expected me to do everything while he partied with his buds...the marriage lasted much longer than it should have but that was only because it was a marriage and I tried all I could to work with it. I see the types you are talking about all the time and I just stay away from them. I will help those that are really needing of help such as a person that is ill, handicapped etc or even someone that is just down on their luck. But the moochers...I run from.

I know a lot of dependent people. A lot of them are just people who feel like they have to have attention. I dated a girl whose dad gave her to her aunt and she felt like she just had to have a boyfriend. If I went a day and didn't have any kind of contact with her she'd start saying that I hated her and all that. It's really annoying. I know some guys in their twenties that can't do anything by themselves. They even have to have someone go to the bathroom with them. I just think it's about attention.

That's surprising that their boyfriends would pay for all that. I don't know any guys that would do that. I think some girls are like that because they have low self-esteem. They can't survive on their own because they don't believe in themselves.

Oh my lord, have I had my experience with dependent personalities that are almost co-dependent. I can't deal with it and I don't for long. If I find that the relationship is becoming one sided I tend to end it. I do try to work things out first but if I'm met with a brick wall I simply stop trying and end it. I'm not sure how women become like this though. I'm not sure if it occurs in childhood or if it just occurs as they get older. To me it seems very greedy. I mean, even in my relationship where I am taken very good care of I don't get everything my way, it's a two way street.