would you be upset too, if you did not get a card or gift

Did he even greet you? If not then it is really heartbreaking. I think you should talk to me. I've seen in your post that you've actually told him that it is okay even if he doesn't have a gift. Maybe he thought you really meant it. Well guys are different from girls and I know you are aware of that. They could be really insensitive at times.

HI lorraine27 - I'd be pretty depressed. That's usually how I handle things. I get really mad but hold it all inside and then I try to sleep it off. Sometimes I might say something like "thanks for nothing" and stomp off. Later, after cooling off, I'd probably try to sit down with him to let him know how much it hurt my feelings that he would not do anything or get me anything for Valentine's Day. I'm sorry you are upset and I would definitely try to talk to him about it, if not today then when you are ready. Take care lorraine27. If it makes you feel any better, we picked out our gifts for eachother together today. He said he would have bought me some flowers if I was not with him so I told him I'd close my eyes. lol! When getting ready to leave the store from doing all of our shopping I said "So... I'll close my eyes now!" He told me to pick ones out that I liked. It was nice but man... it's like I had to beg! Grrrr Jill

If I were younger, I would have strangled him or fed to the crocs. But thankfully since I'm already 51 years old, it's no big deal...As long as he does not fool around, I would not mind so much, although I would still be upset, but just slightly. This year, he gave me a bunch of red balloons and a bouquet of red roses. Oh, how sweet. Even after 27 years of marriage, we still remember each other during Valentine's Day. If you are young, it's normal to really be upset and declare a world war! He, he, just kidding. Belated Happy Valentines.

When you were dating did he normally give you something on valentines as well? If he did not then don't expect him to buy you presents on valentines when you're married. usually a guy is at his best behavior and most loving stage when you are dating. If he has though, hm then maybe there's another woman?!! I'm sorry to say this but there's something wrong is he missed out just this year.

Wow...each man is different. I know my brother in law is such a mushy mush mush when it comes to things like that and he's one to take out the trash without being prompted by my sister. My father is one to remember things like that, but he does it on such a low level but it's just enough to keep him out of the doghouse. The exhusband was never into things like that because according to his church, holidays like that are evil. Whatever. But, my current boyfriend is different. Yes, I too gave him a card but got nothing in return. The way I look at it is this: men like that give when and where they can. Instead of getting me a card or whatnot, he gave me the gift of his time. Right now, he's in active duty and rather than going home to his family for his leave, he came here to visit me. To me, that's more than I could ever dreamed of. It's his smiles, his laughter, his time he spends with my children that is priceless. However...if he was my husband and didn't get me something, then that's a different story. *Pleiades

There are times sometimes us men just don't get it right. When you say don't worry about it, we take it as don't worry about it. We are simple minded. That is just like when we ask you ladies, what's wrong, and you respond nothing. We do know something is wrong but if we push it anymore, it's only gonna cause a conflict. I do agree if you all had no prior arrangements on not getting anything for each other,and you take the time to go out of your way to get him something and you get nothing in return then I can understand why your upset and hurt. I would just make note of it and express your feelings to him, and maybe he'll get the hint for next time, but don't make a huge deal out of it. I can lead to alot of problems.

Hi there Lorraine. I would be very annoyed with him and next year give him reminders. Like it is three days to go, two days, one day, now it is here. You would have been happy with a card, a bunch of flowers or some chocolates. Some men are busy with their work and I heard about one man that forgot Christmas 2008 and Valentine's Day 2009. Even if time is short a cuddle and a loving looking card goes a long way to please any lady. I hope your husband will make it up to you. Good luck.

I would feel very sad. It would hurt to not see anything. But that is just me. I would assume that he would get me something very pretty. The real meaning of Valentine's Day is straight from the heart and soul. Just as long as he tells me that he loves me on that day, and treats me very special, then that is enough for me to feel good about. I am sorry that you did not get anything for Valentine's Day. So far, I did not get anything myself either. Except for a foot long sub sandwich and some chicken.. But at least he called me and made sure that everything was okay while he was at work. Just as long as this man shows you in other ways and other days that he loves you, is enough for you to know that he appreciates you and his love for you.. He knows that you love him.. Happy Valentine's Day!!!

I would probably be a bit miffed, but you know what men are like! Maybe he just forgot about it. I'm not in a relationship at the moment, but I forgot that it was Valentine's Day until I came on here and saw the huge amount of threads about love. I bet he shows you he loves you all the time. There's no need for a specific day to do that. It is a little disappointing for you probably, but he loves you, & you will be okay =)

My husband is from Morocco and is not used to celebrating Valentines day. So yesterday I reminded him that he better get something for me or do something for me for Valentines day. Sometimes with men that's the only way to handle it LOL. Even if he remembered it was Valentines day, perhaps it just didn't occur to him that you were celebrating it, or maybe he just forgot to get you a card... it's better just to remind him and let him know that you're expecting something.

pity you...i don't know what else to say about how insensitive he is..at least he should give you a kiss on your cheek and says 'happy valentine dear'..get you a bar of chocolate and have dinner together..the day only comes once a year...

If i expect the card or gift but not get it, i will be upset very much. because i think the more you expect,the more disappointed you will be~~~

ya...today..15th feb...am upset but to little only...cos it repeats year after year...its been 19 years...so far no gal has told me that i look good...but am used to that..hehe